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Navy SEALs Have a '40 Percent Rule' And It's the Key to Overcoming Mental Barriers. Resilience Keeps My Life with ADHD on Track. The 31 Benefits of Gratitude You Didn’t Know About: How Gratitude Can Change Your Life. Do you want more from your life?

The 31 Benefits of Gratitude You Didn’t Know About: How Gratitude Can Change Your Life

More happiness? Better health? Deeper relationships? Increased productivity? What if I told you that just one thing can help you in all of those areas? An Attitude of Gratitude What the heck? No. I was wrong: Seriously? 1. A five-minute a day gratitude journal can increase your long-term well-being by more than 10 percent.a1,a2,a3 That’s the same impact as doubling your income! How can a free five minute activity compare? Sure, having more money can be pretty awesome, but because of hedonic adaptation we quickly get used to it and stop having as much fun and happiness as we did at first. Gratitude makes us feel more gratitude. This is why a five-minute a week gratitude journal can make us so much happier.

While in a grateful mood, we will feel gratitude more frequently, when we do feel gratitude it will be more intense and held for longer, and we will feel gratitude for more things at the same time. In five words – gratitude triggers positive feedback loops. 2. 3 Steps to Change Your Inner Narrative: How Neuro-Linguistic Programming Helped Me Talk to Myself Differently. A few years back I used neuro-linguistic programming to change my inner narrative.

3 Steps to Change Your Inner Narrative: How Neuro-Linguistic Programming Helped Me Talk to Myself Differently

I learned a new way to talk to myself. I re-molded my self-talk to be much less demanding and stressful, relieving myself of huge loads of inner tension. Neuro-linguistic programming, NLP for short, is an array of tools for personal development and therapy. Richard Bandler and John Grinder compiled these tools in the 1970s after studying successful therapists such as Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson. The concepts and practices of NLP are wide-ranging, and opinions on NLP vary. The personal development tools I discovered in NLP did awesome things for me. Three Key Principles of ‘Future Self’ Thinking.

How Not to be Boring. How Not to be Boring. The 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich' Blog. How to Earn More Money: Go from $25/hour to $75/hour in 2 weeks January 13th, 2017 I've been helping a friend earn more money, and tonight was a breakthrough.

The 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich' Blog

Here's what happened... My friend has a full-time job, but recently she's been doing some freelance project management on the side for a small consulting firm, where she earns $25/hour. How To Be Confident. Talks to watch when you don't know what to do with your life. Why You Should Be Tracking Your Habits (and How to Do It Well) Remix Metaphors to Shift Perspective, with Jonathon Keats. Jonathon Keats: Marriage is always seemed a little bit problematic to me.

Remix Metaphors to Shift Perspective, with Jonathon Keats

The idea that a government gets to decide whether or not you are married according to a given set of laws. Or a religious authority gets to do so. I was thinking about this as I was in the process of getting married. And thinking about the fact that honestly as much as that paperwork would matter to the government it wouldn't really matter much to me or to my future wife. On Being Out of Touch With One's Feelings. Why You Shouldn't Trust Your Feelings. Why Introspection Matters. Resilience In Hard Times. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. 5 Steps To A Mindfulness Practice For The Non-Woo. Self-care has become a huge buzzword in the wellness industry.

5 Steps To A Mindfulness Practice For The Non-Woo

Everywhere you turn, you hear about the importance of caring for yourself, taking time out of your day for self-care, and prioritizing self-care over others expectations of you (or your expectations of yourself). With this, you may have heard whispers about the importance of developing a mindset practice, complete with abundant confusion about how kale and affirmations will lead you to having a better outlook on life. Here’s the thing: self-care doesn’t have to be a huge endeavor. It doesn’t even have to be an endeavor, period. The idea is that you need to put your own needs, emotionally, physically, and spirituality, above other BS in life. It’s Not Your Job to Tell Yourself “No” Eric Thomas - Secrets to Success Full. LPT: Don't "six months" yourself to death. : LifeProTips. How to be perfectly unhappy. How to find your passion. 7.6k shares Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Too many of us believe in a magical being called ‘passion’.

How to find your passion

“If only I could find my passion”, we cry. “Finding my passion would make me happy”. Well, passion is real, and very powerful. But almost everything people believe about finding it is wrong. The Best-Kept Secret to Getting Unstuck: Core Feelings. At 34 years old, Garrett is doing well in life.

The Best-Kept Secret to Getting Unstuck: Core Feelings

He has a good job and a girlfriend who he hopes to marry. So Garrett is confused about why, each time he is alone, a sad feeling sneaks up on him. To prevent this from happening, Garrett stays as busy as he possibly can. All Anxiety is Not the Same: 3 Types, 3 Solutions. Maryann was raised by a mother who was both emotionally intense and needy.

All Anxiety is Not the Same: 3 Types, 3 Solutions

All through her childhood, Maryann had to be very caring and supportive toward her mother to try to prevent explosions. Maryann grew up with the tendencies to sooth, give, and placate deeply entrenched in her character. But these character traits, essential survival mechanisms growing up, became a serious problem for her in her adult life. Maryann was such a placater that she wasn’t taken seriously at work. Childhood Emotional Neglect: The Enemy of Assertiveness. Perhaps you’ve seen the many great articles about assertiveness here on Psychcentral over the past few years.

Childhood Emotional Neglect: The Enemy of Assertiveness

Those articles have explained what assertiveness actually is: — standing up for yourself with a clear, even tone and words that are neither aggressive nor passive — and they’ve given helpful tips for how to be more assertive. The Brains of Anxious People May Perceive the World Differently. A new study shows that people with generalized anxiety disorder unconsciously label harmless things as threats, which may serve to further their anxiety.

The Brains of Anxious People May Perceive the World Differently

These findings were published last week in the journal Current Biology. Psychologists recognize several forms of clinical anxiety. Are You Your Friends’ Friend? Poor Perception of Friendship Ties Limits the Ability to Promote Behavioral Change. Introduction Studies of collective action have shown that social influence can greatly facilitate mobilization around collective goods, predict success of the action, and guide its design [1].

For instance, social influence is found to be a key factor in political uprisings [2, 3], strike movements [3], and other types of participation [4]. Social influence in networks is also a well-recognized key factor in the diffusion of new behaviors [5–8], new ideas [9] and new products [10, 11] in society. Moreover, in recent years, peer-support programs are emerging as highly effective and empowering ways to leverage peer influence to support behavioral change of people [12]. One specific type of peer-support programs is the “buddy system”, in which individuals are paired with another person (i.e., a buddy) with the responsibility to support their attempt to change their behavior.

7 Essential Books on the Art and Science of Happiness. If you, like me, are fascinated by the human quest to understand the underpinnings of happiness but break out in hives at the mere mention of self-help books, you’re in luck: I’ve sifted through my personal library, a decade’s worth of obsessive reading, to surface seven essential books on the art and science of happiness, rooted in solid science, contemporary philosophy and cross-disciplinary insight. From psychology and neuroscience to sociology and cultural anthropology to behavioral economics, these essential reads illuminate the most fundamental aspiration of all human existence: How to avoid suffering and foster lasting well-being.

The question of what makes us happy is likely as old as human cognition itself and has occupied the minds of philosophers, prophets and scientists for millennia. Human rationality depends critically on sophisticated emotionality. It is only because our emotional brains work so well that our reasoning can work at all.” The Psychology of Your Future Self and How Your Present Illusions Hinder Your Future Happiness. Philosopher Joshua Knobe recently posed a perplexing question in contemplating the nature of the self: If the person you will be in 30 years — the person for whom you plan your life now by working toward career goals and putting money aside in retirements plans — is invariably different from the person you are today, what makes that future person “you”?

What makes them worthy of your present self’s sacrifices and considerations? That’s precisely what Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert explores in this short and pause-giving TED talk on the psychology of your future self and how to avoid the mistakes you’re likely to make in trying to satisfy that future self with your present choices. Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they’re finished. The person you are right now is as transient, as fleeting and as temporary as all the people you’re ever been. The one constant in our lives is change.

Jack Kerouac on Kindness, the Self Illusion, and the “Golden Eternity” In the mid-1950s, literary iconoclast and beat icon Jack Kerouac (March 12, 1922–October 21, 1969) became intensely interested in Buddhism, which began permeating his writing. It was the golden age of Eastern ideas drawing Western minds, from legendary composer John Cage to pioneering philosopher Alan Watts, credited with popularizing Zen thinking in mainstream Western society.

Watts, in fact, at one point criticized Kerouac’s writing as being “always a shade too self-conscious, too subjective, and too strident to have the flavor of Zen.” But when stripped of his literary self-consciousness, as he was in his private letters, Kerouac had a special way of articulating the most beautiful and eternal concepts of Zen Buddhism with equal parts expansive awareness and crystalline precision. Kerouac sent one such letter to his first wife, Edie Kerouac Parker, in late January of 1957, a decade after their marriage had been annulled. Kerouac writes: The Ego and the Universe: Alan Watts on Becoming Who You Really Are. During the 1950s and 1960s, British philosopher and writer Alan Watts began popularizing Eastern philosophy in the West, offering a wholly different perspective on inner wholeness in the age of anxiety and what it really means to live a life of purpose.

The Mystery of Personal Identity: What Makes You and Your Childhood Self the Same Person Despite a Lifetime of Change. Philosophers and New Age sages have long insisted that the self is a spiritual crutch — from Alan Watts’s teachings on how our ego keeps us separate from the universe to Jack Kerouac’s passionate renunciation of the Self Illusion to Sam Harris’s contemporary case for self-transcendence. On Being Too Much for Ourselves: Psychoanalyst Adam Phillips on Balance and the Necessary Excesses of Life. “Something is always born of excess,” Anaïs Nin wrote in her diary in June of 1945 as she contemplated the value of emotional excess, adding: “Great art was born of great terrors, great loneliness, great inhibitions, instabilities, and it always balances them.” Celebrating Awkward, Shy, Peculiar, and Odd - Quiet Revolution.

A version of this article was originally posted on Yasmine Jacobs’s blog, Yasmine From the Ground Up. I have felt odd all my life. Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study. Article. By Garen Amirian for Good Men Project. 5 Signs You've Chosen An Emotionally Healthy Partner. There are a lot of articles that attempt to explain how men can be better lovers, better husbands, or better boyfriends. And of course, there is no shortage of advice online telling men what it is that women really want.

Out of the FOG. Stinkin' Thinkin' - The Ten Forms of Twisted Thinking — Out of the FOG. A popular list of common negative thought patterns from The Feeling Good Handbook, by David D. Burns, M.D. Intermittent Reinforcement — Out of the FOG. Intermittent Reinforcement - Intermittent Reinforcement is when rules, rewards or personal boundaries are handed out or enforced inconsistently and occasionally. Healing the Man Inside - Overcoming Helplessness. Why You Should Vacation Alone. The first solo trip I ever took was a nerve-wracking experience.

The Definitive Guide to Traveling Alone. Science_of_Happiness_Infographic. Louie – Misery Is Wasted On The Miserable. Improving Assertive Behavior. 30 Days of Thankfulness Challenge. Sylvia Plath on Poetry and a Rare Recording of Her Reading the Poem “The Disquieting Muses” How Steinbeck Used the Diary as a Tool of Discipline, a Hedge Against Self-Doubt, and a Pacemaker for the Heartbeat of Creative Work. Huffingtonpost. Huffingtonpost. The 6 Mental Health Habits That Kill Your Confidence. Every Fall Festival in Chicago, in One Calendar. [Text] A guide I wrote on getting over breakups. I wish someone gave me this wisdom a year ago. : GetMotivated. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer - The Shift Movie. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer - The Shift Movie. Why Creating A Meaningful Morning Routine Will Make You More Successful  Narrative psychology. The Single Most Important Question You Can Ask Yourself. Comfort Zone - May 2007 - A Meditation for HSPs on Criticism, the Killer. It's Not Too Late (by @mikefalzone)

6 Things I Wish I Had Never Told My Children  What are the four things that kill relationships? Improve Your Life: 10 Things You Should Do Every Day. Top Five Regrets Of The Dying. Happy Thoughts: Here are the things proven to make you happier:

Living Your Core Values Leads to a Healthy Love Life. What the Right Man Says, Does, Thinks, and Acts Like — Charles J. Orlando. 11 Things People Over 50 Wish They'd Done Differently At 25. 5 Skills of Really Amazing Listeners. How To Be More Likable In 10 Easy Steps. 11 Things People Over 50 Wish They'd Done Differently At 25. 7 Steps To Finding Your True Purpose. Your Morning Cup of Tea or Coffee Can Be Your Meditation  5 Important Reasons To Embrace A Little Adventure.

5 Important Reasons To Embrace A Little Adventure. The Gratitude Challenge: Can You Express Thanks For 10 Days?  Top 10 Ways to Upgrade Your Morning Routine. Cultivate the Perfect Evening Routine to Avoid Insomnia and Fall Asleep Easier. The Research-Backed Key to Happiness: Train Your Attention. The Science of Breaking Out of Your Comfort Zone (and Why You Should)