Paleopsych 101 - Dream Gates. At a benefit dinner, the wife of a bank president asked me, “What exactly is it that you do?”
I told her, “I’m a paleolithic psychologist.” She nodded respectfully, possibly associating me with the clinical psychiatrist seated above the salt. I had stolen the phrase from Frederic Myers, the great Victorian psychic researcher. Myers coined the term Paleolithic psychology as an erudite joke, to describe “the habits of thought of the savage who believes that can travel in dreams.” He apologized to his respectable readers for “the apparent levity of a return to conceptions so enormously out of date” — while sowing the seed of doubt that “modern science” had actually surpassed the “primitive” understanding of the soul.
Myers chose the path of true science, which is always ready to revise the reigning hypotheses in the light of fresh evidence. The basic insights of paleopsychology are as follows: Boundaries Make Freedom Possible. Boundaries are an essential part of life.
They delineate and maintain needed borders and separations, making differentiation possible at every level. Boundaries both contain and preserve the integrity of what they are safeguarding, be that physical, psychological, emotional, social, or spiritual. Without them there is no relationship and therefore no development, no evolution. But despite this clear truth, we often fall into the trap of believing that boundaries hold us back, preventing us from being free or realizing nondual consciousness — whatever untroubled, idealized state we may aspire to. If we thus equate having boundaries with being limited and if being limitless is a cherished goal for us, we will tend to view boundaries as a problem, an obstruction to freedom, something to overcome. Boundaries make freedom possible by clarifying what must be worked with, not just personally and transpersonally, but also interpersonally.
Without healthy boundaries, we stunt our growth. How to be Free. Kristen Wolfe: Dear Customer Who Stuck Up For His Little Brother. You thought I didn't really notice.
Worm King vs Robot Creatures. A Dream (6/4/5) I was a huge wormy slug. Replicating robot creatures were trying to overtake my empire. It was in the North Pole on ice floes. Inspiration and Chai. For many years I worked in palliative care.
My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. The one-page career “cheat sheet.” "Like letters from a long-lost pen pal.
I LOVE your emails. " Want to get them, too? Join thousands of readers signing up here to stay in touch. Do you like your job? Preparing for the breakthrough/calamity. Coach Insider - What do your clients really want? What do your clients want?
One simple question will tell you. Do you ever find yourself saying, “I just wish another salesperson would call!”? Probably not. And neither do your clients. They’re not looking to be sold. “The problem is never the problem. As an entrepreneur, the three greatest gifts you can give to your clients are clarity, confidence, and capability. The leadership you provide helps them identify what they want and what they have to do to get there. Through your relationship, you give them the confidence to make necessary decisions. CAPABILITY: Your creativity adds and unlocks capabilities that enable them to move forward.
Whatever your industry, this is the most valuable thing you can do for someone: help them create a bigger world and step into it. So how can you know what future someone wants? Asking this question might feel uncomfortable at first, but give it a try. Please consider WEIRD. My latest book, We Are All Weird, came out 8 weeks ago, to very strong reviews and gratifying feedback.
It's likely you haven't had a chance to read it yet. I hope you'll give it a shot. (The Kindle edition runs on all computers and tablets and you can read it for free if you're a US-based Amazon Prime member). Here's an excerpt from the beginning of the book: The mass market redefines normal The mass market—which made average products for average people—was invented by organizations that needed to keep their factories and systems running efficiently. Stop for a second and think about the backwards nature of that sentence. The factory came first. Finding Focus. I am a fairly harsh critic of my own business.
Maybe we all are. When I look back on my ambitions for 2011 versus what I accomplished, I fell short in many ways. Part of this came from my methodology: do a lot of things and then just move the successful ones forward. Part of this came from my self-created attention deficit disorder (not the actual condition, but what I felt was my entrepreneurial spirit, but to everyone else was my frustrating ability to start a dozen businesses a month without enough meat to sustain them). And as I’m readying for 2012, the soul-searching and goals are pointing to what I must do better. Finding Focus Was a Start. Incomplete Manifesto for Growth.