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Networking 101 for Introverts. I've written several posts for introverted job seekers, The Shy Job Seeker , and Ten Tips for the Shy Job Seeker , but the challenges of being an introvert hit home for me this past week.

Networking 101 for Introverts

I ran a training session recently for a group of about 100 career counselors from the California community college system. It was a lot of fun and they were a great audience: we mind-mapped, practiced coaching techniques, watched movie clips, shared favorite funny stories, etc. Some participants expressed surprised when I identified myself as an Introvert. (To be specific: INTP for Myers Briggs aficionados) Really? An introvert running a lively training session in front of 100 people? Packaging Is Everything.

Have you ever chosen a product simply because of its packaging?

Packaging Is Everything

Your Personal Brand. Recently I, Thuy, was speaking on a panel about your personal brand.

Your Personal Brand

I thought it would be useful to share some of the key points I discussed as well as what the other experts on the panel were saying. I define your brand as "what you are known for. " We talk about it in all three of our books so this is a concept that we view as extremely important whether you are a leader or individual contributor. Introductions and Networking. "Hi!

Introductions and Networking

My name is Glenn," I say, as I hold out my hand waiting for the ubiquitous handshake. I smile, hoping my nervousness isn't too obvious. Introductions are a challenging part of life. 5 Freewriting Secrets for Being a "Genius". You've heard of freewriting, certainly. At its most basic, it's about forcing your internal editor to stay away while you splash your most raw and unusual thoughts onto the page. In Accidental Genius: Using Writing to Generate Your Best Ideas, Insights, and Content (2nd edition, revised & updated), Mark Levy tells how he uses freewriting, not only to loosen up his writing muscles, but to solve business problems of all kinds.

Levy, author, writing teacher, and marketing strategist, shares a few "secrets" for making freewriting an indispensible tool: 5 Freewriting Tips. 16 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School. I am 28 now.

16 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School

I don’t think about the past or regret things much these days. But sometimes I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over the last few years a bit earlier. That perhaps there had been a self-improvement class in school. And in some ways there probably was. Because some of these 16 things in this article a teacher probably spoke about in class. Some of it would probably not have stuck in my mind anyway.

But I still think that taking a few hours from all those German language classes and use them for some personal development classes would have been a good idea. Why We Procrastinate. There are many ways to avoid success in life, but the most sure-fire just might be procrastination . Procrastinators sabotage themselves. They put obstacles in their own path. They actually choose paths that hurt their performance. Real-Life Role-Playing. Game master Rio Greeley (in cap at left) leads an after-school game of ‘Star Wars Miniatures,’ with special house rules. When Max Delaney came to rural Maine 13 years ago, his itinerant family moved from town to town, school to school.

With few social connections, he felt isolated. Like an outsider. "It was hard for me to find people," says Mr. Body Language of the Hands. When you communicate – are you memorable? Richard Pryor: A Brilliant Communicator One of the habits I have developed in the last few years is watching speeches of TEDsters and Authors@Google .

When you communicate – are you memorable?

I find it is one of the quickest ways to be exposed to great ideas without having to travel to another city or state. The Key to Understanding Body Language. Since writing “ What Every Body is Saying ,” the question I am most often asked is, “What nonverbal behaviors should I be looking for and are they different at home, at work, or in relationships?”

The Key to Understanding Body Language

Perhaps this will help to clarify the matter. Somewhere in our hominid past, as with most animals, we developed the ability to communicate nonverbally and that still remains our primary method of communication, especially when it comes to emotions. The Thick Skinned. Here's an important rule for life: It's not all about you.

The Thick Skinned

To develop a thick skin you must first remember that you are not the center of the universe. Yes, sorry to say, you are not the fixed point around which the universe turns. Say someone isn't paying you enough attention. You brood and brood. "Is she mad at me? " Yet there may be a good reason for her inattention. Procrastination: Ten Things To Know. There are many ways to avoid success in life, but the most sure-fire just might be procrastination .

Procrastination: Ten Things To Know

Procrastinators sabotage themselves. They put obstacles in their own path. They actually choose paths that hurt their performance. The Dark Side of Self-Control. Why do people drink too much, eat too much, smoke cigarettes, take drugs , or have sex with people they've just met? What's to blame for all this bad behavior? Pretty Women Make Simple Men. Scholars, moralists, and writers have warned men to steer clear of beautiful women since antiquity.

Pretty Women Make Simple Men

Homer's Odysseus tied himself to his ship's mast to avoid being lured to his death by the mythic Sirens. (Their voices were beautiful, but scholars disagree about whether they were also physically appealing.) The Sirens aren't alone--they have similarly dangerous counterparts in Lilith, Delilah, Salome, and Cleopatra, all of whom seduced men to grave ends. A spate of recent studies suggests that beautiful women can indeed provoke dangerous outcomes unintentionally, because they induce men to take risks, make mistakes, gamble more freely, and generally behave impulsively. Why Apologies Are Important. Once I requested a sixteen year old to apologize for hurtful remarks he made towards his math teacher.