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Meg Jay: 9 Ways Twentysomethings Screw Up Their Lives. Things They Don't Tell You. Mind Tools. If You Really Pay Attention, by Paula Underwood. My family calls me Pancho and I'd like you to know that I love you all... I missed Wednesdays but I was there. It seems that all the kindness, all the care, all the understanding absorbed by each cell of my body, all this truth, all this condensed love is coming out of my soul with no control. Yesterday (Sunday), as I was eating the food (including the most delicious dessert I had in many years!) Sent by Mama Harshida, I paid attention to: 1. Food for the Soul and the Body. 2. True Education and Service. 3. Developing Understanding. 1.

My family calls me Pancho and I'd like you to know that I love you all... I missed Wednesdays but I was there. 1. 1. I invite you to pay attention next time you are eating dinner at Santa Clara (or elsewhere! If you pay attention, all that love in some way will land warmly in your heart. 2. It's time to Walk Out. If you pay attention you will see that the greatest leaders of humanity were servant leaders. If you pay attention, we all can serve. 3. Mindset. » Be Able to Walk Away. In any kind of negotiation, your ability to walk away is your strongest tool. Those who can walk away from the negotiation — legitimately walk away, not just make a show of it — are in the strongest position.

Those who are convinced they need to make the deal are in the weakest position. This is true of negotiating when you’re buying a car, closing the sale of your new home, haggling in a foreign flea market, or trying to get a raise. It’s also true of anything in life. Know that there’s almost nothing you can’t walk away from. If you are convinced you need a nice house with a walk-in closet and hardwood floors and a huge kitchen, you now have a weakness. You will give away precious life hours and savings to get it. If you are convinced that you need Stabucks grande lattes every day, or an iPhone or iPad, or an SUV or Cooper Mini or BMW … you are in the weak position, because you can’t give it up.

You don’t need to walk away from everything, but you should know that you can. Mental Heuristics Page. A heuristic is a "rule-of-thumb", advice that helps an AI program or human think and act more efficiently by directing thinking in an useful direction. Some of these heuristics are age-old wisdom, bordering on cliche, but most are actually helpful. If you want something done, do it yourself Comment: Obviously true, and doing it is usually very good for your self esteem. A surprising amount of work can be done this way, and experts are not always necessary.

However, there is a risk of becoming overworked if you try to do everything yourself - we all need other people after all. Never procrastinate anything you can do right now Comment: Very powerful. When you have several things you could be doing and don't know which to do: Just do any one of them! Comments: If you cannot decide between two or more possibilities, then there is a good chance that the differences don't matter. Always assume that you will succeed If you can't find a solution, change the rules. Up to the Mental Enhancement Page. 10 simple mindfulness exercises | Buddhism. I was eating at an Ethiopian restaurant yesterday. For those not familiar with that cuisine, the food is served on thin pancakes and one is supposed to eat one’s dinner with the right hand. For me it was a painful exercise in overcoming my conditionings.

The table went quiet: a measure of the concentration we all needed to not eat warm food with knife and fork. We were suddenly fully there: eating. In this post I’m stepping away from the abstract philosophical to the practical every day. The exercises below are meant for those times when you are so fluttered you bump into doors and chairs, for instance. Mind your feet while you’re grocery shopping. In all these cases the point isn’t to beat yourself over the head if you can’t do it consistently. If you liked that, you may also like these mindfulness calendars and mindfulness books.

How to Stop Worrying. Undoing the Worrying Habit Once acquired, the habit of worrying seems hard to stop. We're raised to worry and aren't considered "grown up" until we perfect the art. Teenagers are told: "you'd better start worrying about your future". If your worries aren't at least as frequent as your bowel movements, you're seen as irresponsible, childish, aimless. That's a "responsible adult" game rule. To the extent that worrying is learned/conditioned behaviour, it can be undone.

Centuries-old cultural conditioning has given us a nasty neurosis: the belief that happiness must be "earned". Laid on top of the first neurosis is the idea that spending money will make you happy. So: we never stop working, we never stop spending money, we're never really happy – ideal conditions, coincidentally, for a certain type of slave economy. You won't stop worrying if you think it serves you. The fight-or-flight response (FOF) is useful on rare occasions of real danger. Worrying is never useful. How To Train Yourself To Be In The Mood You Want.

Dec 27, 2010 When you have major changes going on in your life, or you’re just frustrated about where you are, it’s easy to get trapped in a cycle of depression, bad moods and frustration. I know, I’ve been there … and when I’m not careful, I still get there more than I want to. But when I’ve had a particularly hard time, I hit these moments where I’m in a foul mood, or I’m just feeling paralyzed, and I’m just stuck. Sometimes I just stew in that and stay there, but sometimes I actually get intelligent and pull my way out of it. I’m going to outline the framework that I’ve been using successfully to really get myself resourceful and motivated (and in a better mood) when I’m feeling stuck. Hopefully it will help you, too, and if you do I truly hope you’ll share it with others. First Up: Using A Framework to Escape From Paralyzing Emotions When we feel bad, it’s hard to “feel good” again. A: AGREE With Yourself That You Don’t Want To Be In This Mood Right Now.

You want out of this emotion? 10 simple ways to save yourself from messing up your life. Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Adrian Savage is a writer, an Englishman, and a retired business executive, in that order. Read full content.