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The Art of Rejection: How to NOT Give Out Your Phone Number. Photo Credit Everyone recognizes how difficult it is to deal with rejection, but many overlook the fact that having to reject someone can be equally as difficult.

The Art of Rejection: How to NOT Give Out Your Phone Number

In college, there are inevitably going to be scenarios where a guy asks for your phone number and you’re not interested. Allowing yourself to be guilted into giving out your personal information in order to avoid hurting someone’s ego is not the answer. Instead, try one of the strategies below to minimize the awkwardness the next time you want to withhold your digits: Put Safety First Say that you don’t feel comfortable sharing your personal information. How to Plant Ideas in Someone's Mind. How to Persuade People. Persuasion is one basic motive behind human interaction.

How to Persuade People

Whether you are talking to yourself or talking to others, we constantly tune our mind and heart either to persuade ourselves or to persuade people around us. IWTL How to be a better conversationalist : IWantToLearn. Improve Your Communication Skills. Conflict Resolution Skills. How To Make Difficult Conversations Easy: 7 Steps From A Clinical Psychologist. Someone is screaming in your face at the top of their lungs.

How To Make Difficult Conversations Easy: 7 Steps From A Clinical Psychologist

The One Conversational Tool That Will Make You Better At Absolutely Everything. Ask yourself: If you could interview like Walter Cronkite, would you get more value from your meetings? Would your mentors become more valuable? Would your chance encounters with executives in elevators and thought leaders in conferences yield action items and relationships? The answer is yes. “As someone who had little to no experience in business--outside of running my own one-man freelancing operation--all that's really saved me (so far) from madness are the skills I used as a journalist,” says Evan Ratliff, who wrote for magazines like The New Yorker before founding his startup, The Atavist.

One of those skills, he says, is “being able to formulate questions that deliver useful answers, whether from advisors or clients or whomever.” Good questions can move your business, organization, or career forward. The problem is, most of us ask terrible questions. 9 Ways to Get People to Do What You Want. SCHOPENHAUER'S 38 STRATAGEMS, OR 38 WAYS TO WIN AN ARGUMENT. Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860), was a brilliant German philosopher.

SCHOPENHAUER'S 38 STRATAGEMS, OR 38 WAYS TO WIN AN ARGUMENT

These 38 Stratagems are excerpts from "The Art of Controversy", first translated into English and published in 1896. How Can I Be More Convincing and Get Anything I Want? Say what you mean. In the film ‘The Breakup’ the two characters played by Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn have a blazing row that seals the end of their relationship after a dinner party that doesn’t go quite as planned.

Say what you mean

If you’ve seen the film you might remember the exchange: 38 Ways To Win An Argument—Arthur Schopenhauer - The India Uncut Blog - India Uncut. For all of you who have ever been involved in an online debate in any way, Arthur Schopenhauer’s “38 Ways To Win An Argument” is indispensable.

38 Ways To Win An Argument—Arthur Schopenhauer - The India Uncut Blog - India Uncut

Most of these techniques will seem familiar to you, right from questioning the motive of a person making the argument instead of the argument itself (No. 35), exaggerating the propositions stated by the other person (No. 1) , misrepresenting the other person’s words (No. 2) and attacking a straw man instead (No. 3). It’s a full handbook of intellectual dishonesty there. Indeed, I generally avoid online debates because they inevitably degenerate to No. 38. The full text is below the fold. Perfect Persuasive Messages.

Craft messages that change minds using these 20 principles of persuasion, all based on established psychological research.

Perfect Persuasive Messages

Perfection is hard to achieve in any walk of life and persuasion is no different. It relies on many things going just right at the crucial moment; the perfect synchronisation of source, message and audience. But even if perfection is unlikely, we all need to know what to aim for. To bring you the current series on the psychology of persuasion I’ve been reading lots of research, much more than is covered in recent posts. As I read, I noticed the same themes cropping up over and over again. Here are the most important points for crafting the perfect persuasive message, all of which have scientific evidence to back them up. Change minds. Top 10 Conversation Hacks. How To Treat Others: 5 Lessons From an Unknown Author.

Five Lessons About How To Treat People -- Author Unknown 1.

How To Treat Others: 5 Lessons From an Unknown Author

First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady" During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school? " Surely this was some kind of joke. "Absolutely," said the professor. I've never forgotten that lesson. 2.

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. A special note was attached. Sincerely, Mrs. 3. In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.