How to Stop Blaming Everyone & Everything Else for Your Problems. “Whenever something negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed within it.” ~Eckhart Tolle The most common conversation I have with other people includes the blame game. The one where your job, your wife, your dog, your mother-in-law, your neighbor six doors down, the media, the government, the receptionist at your doctor’s office, or the dress maker who measured you wrong is somehow responsible for the problems you’re having. I too played the blame game. I intentionally left a marriage that I was very unhappy in and then blamed him for everything. It was then I had that an “aha” moment. I sat down, took a long deep breath, and thought about the ways I’d contributed to my own unhappiness. In that moment, I realized I was blatantly ignoring vital life lessons.
I believe we are here to learn lessons. Isn’t it weird that the woman who can’t leave her old unhappy relationship without starting a new one is always in an unhappy relationship? 1. 2. 3. 4. Photo by Mendhak. The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom (9780465028023): Jonathan Haidt. Card of the Week: Letting Go - Soul Navigations. Definition: relinquish your hold; allow to move; let go of; release; detach When we let go of something we relinquish our grip and our attachment to whatever it is we have been holding onto, be it a belief, idea, person, or thing.
Sometimes, we need to let go of that which no longer serves our learning or our growth. Letting go can be as easy as a leaf falling from a tree. It seems easy, because there is often a hidden process at work all along. When the process develops naturally, the release can be seamless. In this world of impermanence the letting go process is inherent in the beginning of every creation. The first attachment of human life is in the womb. Letting go can bring the joy of release of moving into an new phase of your life, or work, or finally realizing that you had been carrying another’s burdens that were not your own.
Have you been holding onto something that is no longer serving you? When I rise up, let me rise up joyful, like a bird. Wendell Berrry. Ellen Frankel, Author & Speaker. I promise, this will be the last blog entry about graduation, moving on and letting go. Really and truly, this is it. I swear. But the conversation keeps coming up everywhere I go, and you write what’s on your mind and in your life, so please, if anyone is out there, indulge me one more time. Have you read David Bader’s gem of a book: Haikus for Jews? “Can’t you just leave it?’ " the new Jewish mother asks- umbilical cord. Some of us show signs that we think the cord still connects us. Our son has called us a few times while on his trip in Israel, and my husband and I happily chatted along with him, until I did the math and realized it was 3:30 am in Jerusalem.
The day before our daughter left for a 6-month internship in The Hague, she and her boyfriend took a bike ride. So okay, my kids are grown up, and the umbilical cord is no more. And a call never hurts!! Namaste B’Shalom, Ellen. Work Life Balance. Grief - PubMed Health. 10 Life Lessons Learned From Yoga « Stay Active and Live Life Fully. Just a generation ago, devoted yogis had to travel to India or help organize the occasional visit of their master teacher. Today, yoga classes can be found virtually anywhere people can meet and throw down a mat: in yoga studios, health clubs, recreation centers, churches, schools, and parks.
One of yoga’s enduring strengths is its ability to repackage itself for the contemporary world. Although traditionalists may disagree, I think this is admirable – and also essential for its survival in an increasingly (like it or not) commercial world. Yoga’s stress-busting and anxiety-relieving properties have never been more needed then they are today. While most of us are aware of the physical benefits of yoga postures and training, yoga entails much more. It is also about living in the moment as best you can. A yoga practice teaches many life lessons. Standing straddle forward fold pose (with rotation) Inclined plane pose Preparing proper leg placement for Warrior pose King Dancer pose. Daughters & mothers: making it work - Dorothy Firman, Julie Firman. The mother/daughter relationship is one of the most intense relationships a woman will ever experience-it is strong and primary.
This first and essential relationship has a powerful, though often subtle, effect on an adult woman's interactions with her mate, children, friends-and herself. Often, this crucial bond, which was initially based in love, turns into one of anger, guilt and resentment, the effects of which can permeate a woman's life; a burden from the past that is haunting, limiting and debilitating. In this profound book, coauthors Julie Firman and her daughter Dorothy Firman, both psychotherapists who specialize in mother/daughter workshops, help readers sift through old behavior patterns, feelings and thoughts to transform their relationships and, ultimately, themselves. For every woman who experiences the pain in her relationship with her mother or daughter, there is the promise of finding the joy. 101 Short Stories that Will Leave You Smiling, Crying and Thinking - StumbleUpon.
Post written by: Marc Chernoff Email Since its inception eighteen months ago, our sister site Makes Me Think (MMT) has truly evolved into a remarkable online community. Every day, users share their thought-provoking life stories and vote on stories that other users have shared. Some are happy, some are sad, and others twist your emotions, pulling them in several directions at once. As stated on the MMT About page, sometimes the most random everyday encounters force us to stop and rethink the truths and perceptions we have ingrained in our minds.
These encounters are educationally priceless. They spawn moments of deep thought and self-reflection that challenge the status quo and help us evolve as sensible individuals. I believe the 101 stories listed below perfectly fulfill that description. What do you think? The Study of What Goes Right in Life « Stay Active and Live Life Fully. Everyone’s life involves peaks and valleys. What is good in life is as genuine and as significant as what is not good and therefore deserves equal attention when working with clients attempting to modify lifestyle behavior patterns. The field of psychology has focused much of its efforts on human problems, pathology, and how to remedy the condition. Furthermore, psychology has evolved to embrace the disease model of human nature where people are seen as flawed and fragile, casualties of tough environments or bad genetics, and if not in denial, then in recovery.
Positive Psychology proposes to correct this imbalance and to challenge the pervasive assumptions of the disease model. In simple terms, positive psychology is the scientific study of what goes right in life. Is Positive Psychology Just Happiology? The Three Pillars of Positive Psychology The framework of positive psychology is based on three related topics: 1.