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My beloved husband Arjuna has together with Gay Hendricks, been diving deep into a process of redefining what it means to be masculine. They are exploring the conscious masculine. One important realization they came to was that in order to move on into a new paradigm of true co-creation between genders, they as men needed to speak to the past. This is what they, and many men with them, do in this video. To me this message speaks to a deep cellular layer of the collective. I find it profoundly healing. conscious men
Exposure and response prevention (ERP) is a treatment method available from behavioral psychologists and cognitive-behavioral therapists for a variety of anxiety disorders, especially obsessive–compulsive disorder and phobias. It is an example of an exposure therapy and was first developed by UK psychologist Victor Meyer. Recent results indicate that ERP can be carried out effectively with minimal face-to-face contact between the therapist and the subject. The results of a 2008 study indicate that simultaneous administration of d-cycloserine substantially improves effectiveness of exposure and response prevention. Organizations ocd - exposure & response prevention
modern male malaise - aom A few weeks ago, I caught the premiere of the Discovery’s Channel’s “Human Planet,” a television show about the ways people have adapted to survive in Earth’s most extreme environments. Perhaps a better name for the program would have been “Man Planet,” as the show primarily chronicled the incredible feats of men around the world–men the tentacles of civilization have barely grazed. There were men mining sulfur from an active volcano; men diving dozens of feet and holding their breath for five minutes at a time to spear fish on the ocean floor; men initiating their sons into manhood by teaching them how to train eagles to hunt. Even seemingly pedestrian tasks like taking your kids to school were fraught with danger; a father escorted his children on a 60 mile journey through the Himalayas, watching for potential avalanches and walking over a frozen river that could have cracked open at any moment. I was immediately taken in by the show’s spectacular cinematography.
Kearneysville, WV. Recently at the University of New Hampshire, Vice President Joe Biden announced new federal guidelines for fighting sexual assault on college campuses. Biden’s speech included such truisms as “no means no” and “rape is rape is rape.” He continued: pride & prejudice & porn
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Photo by Sara Lando As a child, I didn’t quite fit in the role of your average kid growing up. I guess you could say I was a typical sensitive, quiet child—a “Mama’s boy” if you will. I enjoyed music, reading, knitting, and skipping with the girls, while my older brother played pee-wee hockey, little league baseball, and collected sports memorabilia. ms - confessions of a manipulator
In a recent posting I identified a list of the wrong things to say to someone who is upset. Interestingly, this led to a lot of comments on The Huffington Post, which got me thinking. The first thought I had was, "Why do men find it so hard to validate women?" Before I get into this, I'd like you to think about the research by psychologist John Gottman. Gottman has been able to predict with 91 percent accuracy which couples will end up getting divorced. why men don't listen to women
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mel gibson The narcissistic person is marked by a grandiose self-image, a constant need for admiration, and a general lack of empathy for others. He is the keeper of a sacred flame, which is the flame he holds to celebrate himself. There used to be theories that deep down narcissists feel unworthy, but recent research doesn’t support this. Instead, it seems, the narcissist’s self-directed passion is deep and sincere.
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photo credit: vph.photo This article is not particularly insightful. Nor is it all that authoritative. I am not claiming to be the world’s best husband – far from it. But one thing I can attest to is that I am always trying to be better for my lady. I never forget that our relationship is something that needs to grow and change and be worked on. better husband
sex addiction & cell phones As Tiger Woods demonstrated by cell-phone texting his mistress while fighting with his wife about infidelity at the same time, it is impossible to help people understand and heal from sex addition today without dealing with the effect smart phones (iphone, droid) and social networks (Facebook, MySpace) are having on those who struggle with compulsive and impulsive patterns of sexual behavior. And here is the basic issue: as anonymous access and connection to sexual content increases so do the problems, i.e. the faster you can access more material, the easier it is to get into personal or professional trouble. While we estimate that only 3-5% of the online population has a problem with sex addiction, those numbers are rapidly growing related to the increasing accessibility of online sexual content and connections.