8 Things Top Practicers Do Differently. 14 0Share Synopsis We've all heard the phrase "practice smarter, not harder," but what does that really mean?
What does "smarter" practice actually look like? A study of collegiate piano majors suggests that the key lies in how we handle mistakes. As my kids were (begrudgingly) practicing their Tae Kwon Do patterns not long ago, I caught myself telling my oldest that he had to do his pattern five times before returning to his video game. My goal, of course, was not for him to simply plod through the motions of his pattern five times like a pouty zombie, but to do it once with good form and commitment. It's true that some degree of time and repetition is necessary to develop and hone our skills, of course. But what does that really mean anyway? Pianists learning Shostakovich Seventeen piano and piano pedagogy majors agreed to learn a 3-measure passage from Shostakovich's Piano Concerto No. 1. The setup 24 hours later… Each of the pianists’ performances were then evaluated on two levels. 1. 6.
La pornographie ou la dominance sexuelle rendue sexy - Sylvie Richard-Bessette. Paru dans Revue Sexologique, 3(1), 125-148, 1995.
Parmi les multiples formes que prend la dominance sociale, la pornographie est sans doute la plus sexy. Questions / réponses sur la sexualité. Cet article voulait relancer le débat sur le phénomène de la pornographie en soulevant de nouvelles questions et en proposant quelques avenues de recherche.
J'ai voulu ici traiter de la pornographie la plus accessible, visible, et commercialisée, sans par ailleurs banaliser ou nier l'existence d'autres formes de pornographie. Les exemples utilisés n'écartaient pas non plus l'existence de différents types de représentation des corps. Pornland: How the Porn Industry Has Hijacked Our Sexuality [Trailer] What Women Want: Porn and the Frontier of Female Sexuality. James Deen Porn Star: Porn Women Like to Watch. Photo by Ethan Miller/Getty Images.
In the winter issue of Good Magazine, Amanda Hess has a fascinating profile of James Deen, a young, handsome porn star who is becoming famous for actually appealing to women. Due to his boyish, slightly skate-punk aesthetic, naturally toned body, and ability to connect emotionally (or at least appear to) with his female co-stars, Deen has garnered a following of devoted young women in an industry that in most cases ignores them entirely.
Hess explains that Deen’s school-boy charm is what makes him approachable—and sexy—to his female fans: J. Bryan Lowder is a Slate associate editor. What Does Feminist Porn Look Like? One Man’s Journey: How I Stopped Watching Porn for One Year and Why I’m Not Going Back. Originally published on Change From Within, and cross-posted here with their permission.
I remember when I first discovered internet porn – I was 17 years old. Fascinated by this world of unleashed sexual expression and fantasy, I couldn’t get enough of it. As I grew up and began exploring my own sexuality, I discovered just how different watching pixels on a screen was compared to the intimacy of making love with another human being. I thought I’d outgrow my porn habit over time. But I never did. " Prendre Corps " L’Eglise dit: Le corps est un péché.
La science: Le corps est une machine. La pub: Le corps est un business. Is There Any Evidence That Porn Is Harmful to Relationships? In my last post (link is external), I noted briefly how technology has made it easier than ever to access a variety of pornographic images, whether produced personally or professionally.
Much like concerns about how violent video games might make people who play them more violent, there have also been concerns raised about how pornography becoming more prevalent might also lead to certain, undesirable outcomes, such as rape or weakened relationships. As for the video game concern, there is some evidence that the aggression (or rather anger) caused by video games might have a lot less to do with violent content per se than it has to do with losing (link is external) (full disclosure: I have been unable to locate the paper, so I can’t assess the claims made in it personally, but this explanation should be easily and intuitively understandable to anyone who has seriously engaged in competitive play (link is external). The first study comes from Maddox et al (2011) (link is external).
What Porn Does to Intimacy. The rapid proliferation of pornography is one of the digital age’s legacies; some 40 million people in the United States visit porn websites regularly, many of them emerging or young adults.
Popular media have capitalized on cautionary tales about porn addiction and stories of boyfriends objectifying their girlfriends and wanting them to behave like porn stars. But studies confirm that the preponderance of young men—and slightly less than half of women—thinks that watching sexually explicit material is okay. wavebreakmedia/Shutterstock That’s what Spencer B. The cost of growing up on porn. Guess what, guys?
Turns out pornography -- the much-maligned bugaboo of feminists, prigs and holy rollers -- is nothing more than good, not-so-dirty fun. The proof comes from the University of Montreal, where recent research showed that connoisseurs easily parse fantasy from reality, shudder at the idea of dating a porn star (what would Maman think?) And wholeheartedly support gender equality. "Research contradicts anti-pornography zealots," gloated a column's headline in the Calgary Sun. The Social Cost of Pornography. Porn On The Brain - Channel 4 documentary. Why Boys and Grown Men Surf Porn. If you’re honest with yourself and you’re a dude, you’ve surfed porn at some point in your life.
I know I have. Maybe it was a phase, maybe you’re still doing it. Do you pay for sites? Just browse the free ones and leave, deleting your cookies and any trace of your porn tracks so no one knows your little secret? If you ever meet a man who denies surfing porn, I’d call BS on him right then and there. In my opinion, nothing is fundamentally wrong with masturbation and your own sexuality, despite what strict religious organizations may tell you.
Your Brain vs. Porn. Is internet porn the beginning of the end for the human race? After a particularly robust discussion on the topic of internet porn addiction involving a frank and open exchange of views I took it upon myself to do some ‘research’ into the subject out of interest. To be honest, pornography has never really phased me. Nor have I ever really worried about whether or not my partner looked at porn. I just thought it was something that ‘all guys do’ whether they admit to it or not so why bother getting upset about it. Each to their own was my attitude. But more than that, I also considered myself a pretty ‘open minded’ individual when it came to sex and sexuality. However, putting all morality and feminist discourse aside what I discovered about the very recent phenomenon that is high-speed internet pornography and the effect it is having on men and in particular very young men, is actually pretty terrifying to say the least.
Naomi Wolf on Why Porn Turns Men Off the Real Thing. At a benefit the other night, I saw Andrea Dworkin, the anti-porn activist most famous in the eighties for her conviction that opening the floodgates of pornography would lead men to see real women in sexually debased ways. If we did not limit pornography, she argued—before Internet technology made that prospect a technical impossibility—most men would come to objectify women as they objectified porn stars, and treat them accordingly. In a kind of domino theory, she predicted, rape and other kinds of sexual mayhem would surely follow.
The feminist warrior looked gentle and almost frail. The world she had, Cassandra-like, warned us about so passionately was truly here: Porn is, as David Amsden says, the “wallpaper” of our lives now. So was she right or wrong? She was right about the warning, wrong about the outcome. But the effect is not making men into raving beasts. Men: Learn How To Validate Your Woman’s Feelings. Men often struggle to validate their woman’s feelings. And, it’s a crucial skill to learn in a long-term partnership. This one took me years with my wife. “Honey, I totally get your experience,” I’d say… “But I don’t feel seen or understood here,” she would respond.
Grrrrr. Love Letter To Men From One Brave Woman (guest post) The other day I sent out a call for feedback for men everywhere (Stay tuned…). My request was for one sentence from anyone and everyone. Interesting that several women completely disregarded the “one sentence” rule and just went for it. Desires of an Older Woman (guest post) The question of what it is we miss most in the opposite sex is a poignant one, and let’s face it – the opportunity to address it in the public realm doesn’t come along very often.
For men, messages from women about what they want more of have, in the last few decades at least, often been laced with the darker shades of feminism, delivered as complaints or demands or that “what you do is never enough” thing. We want you to be more civil. We want you to express your feelings more. We want you to be more attentive. Sacred Sexuality: Everything is Sacred, Everything is Sexual (guest post) Art by Paul Kagan I was tagged in a note recently by a new Facebook friend, Jennifer. The topic intrigued me as I have been exploring a lot around sexuality lately.
Of course, I have not mentioned sex much to my blog readers, thus buying into more secrecy, shame, and “it’s personal” crap. Jennifer, through the below note, and without knowing it, lovingly called me out and invited me to share more on the topic of sex and sexuality. So stay tuned… I am still very much in process around sex and sexuality. Men and Sex. Art by Bryce Widom Most men are locked up and confused sexually. I am a student when it comes to sex.
Sex has brought me incredible shame and unbelievable joy in my life. Men & Women Telling the Truth Together–Busting Out of The Gender Boxes. Let’s face it. Men and women are stuck in gender boxes. I remember only a year ago saying to my wife when she tried to put a light colored shirt on my son, “Honey that’s too feminine.” WTF? After her calling me on that, I realized what was driving that comment— me being trapped in the gender code of “boys wear blue, girls wear pink.” Below that code was fearing my son would be labeled gay or feminine. Why Most Men Resist Couples Counseling. Healing The Gender Divide. I’m inspired to bring men and women together with the intention to reconcile whatever stands in the way of us loving and accepting each other more fully. Why Men Objectify Women. Why Some Men Objectify Women. Sex. The Year of Self Love. Porn. NoFap® Learn about NoFap, our challenges, potential results and more.
NoFap: Get a new grip on life. Thepracticeoflove.net. Turn Yourself All The Way ON! The Boy Code. My son finding a bug. The cost of growing up on porn. The Social Cost of Pornography. Is Porn Driving Men Crazy? Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's Internet porn. How Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life - Being in a Romantic Relationship When You Don't Feel Like You're Lovable. How Porn Is Affecting the Libido of the American Male. The Masculine Heart: Davy Rothbart - Do men want women anymore... or just porn?
The Cost of Porn on Men. Why Does Porn Seem Hotter Than My Partner? - What Porn Does to Intimacy. The Masculine Heart: Search results for porn. The Masculine Heart: Revolutionary Man - The Elixir of Radical Personal and Spiritual Development. Why It's Important for Men to Feel Their Feelings. How to Change Your Relationship with Failure in 5 Steps. Giving Up On Guilty Pleasures: 4 Reasons to Stop Feeling Guilty About Things You Like. Giving Up On Guilty Pleasures: 4 Reasons to Stop Feeling Guilty About Things You Like. 6 Things I Learned When My Husband Had an Affair. The Neurobiology Behind All of the Ridiculous Things You Do When You’re in Love. Want the Best Sex of Your Life? Just Ask! How I Learned That A Healthy Relationship Is More Than Having A Sexually Satisfied Partner.
An Anti-Marriage Feminist Gets (Happily) Married. Being in a Romantic Relationship When You Don't Feel Like You're Lovable. How to Compliment Women without Objectifying Them. Maintaining Your Identity in a Relationship. How to Mend a Broken Heart. Love Without Boundaries: The Practice of Loving Many. To Love Well. How to Heal Brokenness in a Relationship. Help Your Partner Change a Bad Habit in Five Simple Steps. How to Introduce Your Partner to Feminism. More Than Two: Examining the Myths and Facts of Polyamory. Relationship Social Norms Vs. Feminist Ideals. The Truth We Live Vs. The Story We're Coerced into Telling. How to Survive Engagement Season: A Guide to Healthy Marriage Expectations. Why I Call Her My 'Partner' and Not My 'Girlfriend'
5 Benefits of Sharing. How to Work through Personal Conflict in a Healthier Way. What Does It Mean When a Boy Says He Loves You? So You Want to Try Polyamory. On Approaching Women Who Distrust Men. What Boys Look For in Girls. Don't Call Me Beautiful (And What to Say Instead) 4 Things You Need To Do To Address Power Dynamics and Have a Balanced Relationship. 3 Steps Toward Identifying Your Feelings (And Therefore Stopping Your Self-Silencing)