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My Top 3 Sex Problems as a Woman. 3 Ways To Disengage From Conflict. From sports teams, to political parties, to gay marriage, to abortion, conflict and differing opinions are as abundant in our own communities as in the whole of the world.

3 Ways To Disengage From Conflict

So, how does one disengage from the cortisol-fest of a disagreement? Here are a few simple steps: 1. Let go of the need to have the last word. 3 Ways To Disengage From Conflict. Do You Want To Be Right Or Happy? How To Resolve Conflict. I love the phrase, Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?

Do You Want To Be Right Or Happy? How To Resolve Conflict

Maybe you have an uncle who constantly engages you in heated discussions about politics when you obviously have a different opinion. Or maybe you and a friend have a very different idea about what happened with a past issue. You've tried to convince her many times before and she's not seeing it your way. It's time to give up winning the argument and start taking charge of the situation by taking charge of yourself. When you feel the urge to defend yourself against the ridiculous point your relative has just made, you can use the Peace Survival Kit and take an Aikido approach instead. Aikido is a Japanese martial art (also known as the art of peace) that empowers people to protect themselves without having to hurt other people. So going back to your argumentative relative, you can use the three steps in an Aikido move in your verbal differences:

Ibrahim Maalouf - de Beyonce à une France obscure. 10 Things I've Learned About Gaslighting As An Abuse Tactic. Originally published on Medium and cross-posted here with their permission.

10 Things I've Learned About Gaslighting As An Abuse Tactic

Gaslighting is the attempt of one person to overwrite another person’s reality. There’s a good chance that you now know more about gaslighting than most therapists. And that is really unfortunate, because if you have experienced gaslighting, it’s going to be really hard to untangle it yourself. Unfortunately, you may have to, and I want to tell you that you are not alone. Let me share my experience. 1. About the fifth time I called a close friend of mine on the phone, gasping for air, asking “Am I a monster?” What the hell is gaslighting? Wikipedia told me that it came from an old movie, where the main character makes changes in the environment and then insists to his victim that she is simply imagining these changes.

Whaat? Unfortunately, the first definition I looked up was woefully inadequate. The rest just happens organically when a person who holds that belief feels threatened. 2. Emotional Labor: What It Is and How To Do It. Ages ago, I read this fantastic piece about practical things men can do to support feminism.

Emotional Labor: What It Is and How To Do It

Almost every item on the list really resonated with my experience, and this was one of the most resonant: 2. Do 50% (or more) of emotional support work in your intimate relationships and friendships.Recognize that women are disproportionately responsible for emotional labour and that being responsible for this takes away time and energy from things they find fulfilling. How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars. The message that women are untrustworthy liars is everywhere in our culture—from TV and music, to politics and religion, says Soraya Chemaly.

How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars

Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. Everyone “knows” this. Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying. Fast-forward three years, again in a car.

No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. 3 Ways Men Wanting to 'Focus On Her Pleasure' During Sex Can Still Be Sexist. We’re starting to talk more about giving equal weight to women’s pleasure in man/woman sexual encounters, and that’s awesome.

3 Ways Men Wanting to 'Focus On Her Pleasure' During Sex Can Still Be Sexist

As a woman, you’d think I’d be all for focusing more on women’s pleasure in sex. And I am – mostly. Sometimes, though, I’ll hear a hetero guy talking about how important women’s pleasure is, and it leaves me cringing. Worse yet, sometimes I’ve had sex with men who said they were all about my pleasure – and in a sense, they were – yet I still ended up feeling like their feelings and needs were more important than my actual experiences. JC Lattès, Le Masque. Lucie Scalbert était la plus belle fille du lycée.

JC Lattès, Le Masque

Avec un je ne sais quoi de dingue dans le regard. Je n’ai pas été surprise qu’elle devienne comédienne, je l’ai perdue de vue alors que le succès semblait l’attendre. Voilà que je la retrouve cinq ans plus tard. Elle n’est plus que l’ombre d’elle-même. Elle a abandonné sa carrière, elle prononce le nom de VDA, son mari, avec un mélange d’effroi et de rancœur. Huffingtonpost. Identifying Domestic Violence and Abuse Information and Articles.

These Adorable Illustrations Remind Us That Love Is In The Little Things. Men Just Don't Trust Women. It took five months of marriage, eight months of being engaged, and another year of whatever the hell we were doing before we got engaged for me to learn something about my wife.

Men Just Don't Trust Women

Actually, that's misleading.