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New Tab. 10 Steps To Forgiving Yourself. Andrea Willa 1. Realize you’ve made a grave mistake. Curse the day you ever walked into that room. Text her a billion times even though you know she’s probably asleep. Cry a bit. Blame it on the alcohol. Know it wasn’t the alcohol. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Learn from this, and all will be forgiven. The 6 Worst Things About Being In Love. 1. Your decision-making is impaired. When you are in love, especially in those first heady stages, just about everything seems like a good idea. Let’s just quit work, and spend the rest of our days lying naked in bed watching it rain, punctuated by photogenic trips to the French Riviera! We’ll fund this… with money!

That we’ll earn… somehow! It’s awful, but if you are really feeling those precious hits of love hormones, there is simply nothing that you are going to say no to. 2. You’re going to become that person who promises to go out to lunch with your friend and then end up canceling 20 minutes before because your bed was just so comfortable and your love was just so perfect. 3. One of the downsides of love that is only exacerbated with time has to be the lingering fear of what would happen if you were to lose this person. 4. When you were single, you used to make fun of the couple sitting on the same side of the table and the restaurant and feeding each other veal parmesan. 5. 6. I Snooped Through My Boyfriend’s Journal (And Didn’t Like What I Found) I read my boyfriend’s journal but wasn’t prepared for what it told me. Finding Jacob’s journal isn’t hard because he’s never made an effort to hide it.

Until now, I’ve never given him a reason to do so. He left for work only minutes ago, kissing the bridge of my nose before slinging a worn JanSport over his shoulder and reminding me that he’ll be home in six hours, if I want to stay until then. I’d pretended to be half-asleep and lazily nodded my head. In reality, I’ve been plotting this for days. I listen to Jacob’s Honda Civic pull away from the side of the house, wait several minutes and slide out from under the sheets while keeping my eyes trained on the closed bedroom door. I realize I probably won’t find anything noteworthy, but I need the reassurance. You have to understand that I wasn’t always like this. But then a year ago, I’d developed more-than-platonic feelings for a close friend, and the accompanying guilt I’d experienced had been overwhelming. I know her. “Did you cheat?” 5 Things To Not Be So Judgmental About On The First Date. Being In A Part-Time Relationship Is Awesome. Are you in a part-time relationship? I’m not talking about friends with benefits or someone that you’re kinda sorta dating but haven’t really established any exclusivity with.

I’m talking about a committed relationship where you only get to see each other 2 or 3 days out of the week because they’re over there and you’re over here. Are you worried that this distance is putting a strain on your relationship? From one part-time participant to another, let me show you the bright side! Distance isn’t always such a bad thing. You need a healthy amount of distance to maintain happiness in any relationship. While going over half the week without seeing your lover might be a little more distance than needed, it can really make those couple of days you have with them so much more fulfilling.

Here’s another thing. You know who else deserves your attention? Totally kidding. Happy Father’s Day. You don’t know how much I envy you. Happy Father’s Day. I envy you; get to have a dinner with him. I envy you; get to go shopping gifts for him, get to go to the men’s department, go through every shirt, tie, pants, watches, pens, or whatever that you intend to get him. Have fun doing that! I envy you; get to listen to his lame jokes. I envy you; get to watch the television with him, sharing opinions about sports and celebrities. I envy you; get to hug him, say good night and good morning to him. I envy you; get to eat home cooked food from him. I envy you; get to buy a cake and sing birthday song to him and blow candles with him. I envy you; get to hear him singing birthday song on your birthday, get to open the gifts that he buys for you.

I envy you; get to hold his hand when you are walking with him. I envy you; get to show him your accomplishments. I envy you; get to hear him nagging, stressing, and caring about you. I envy you; get to ask him on dating advice. Happy Father’s Day. :) Four Questionable Sayings About Love. 1. “Love just happens.” People are fond of saying variations of, “Love just happens” or “Don’t look for love, let love find you.” I am indeed the cliché princess but give me a break. How exactly does love just happen to anyone? Take it from a girl who has spent most of her life, albeit very short life, being awesome and busy and waiting, in an effort for love to just happen. 2.

This is a little more difficult. 3. I used to love this saying. 4. I don’t know about this. TC Reader Exclusive: The Patron Social Club gets you invited to cool private parties in your city. I Don’t Want To Love You Anymore. I don’t want to love you anymore because I want to go to sleep. The hours tip toe around one another, while I’m wide-awake, talking the ears off of the sheep above my head.

They are smoking cigarettes, rolling their eyes, yelling profane things back at me hoping I’ll just fall asleep already so they can go about their nightly business. Because I want to be able to go on a date with someone new and not think about you. Not compare the poor lad’s jaw structure to the ways of your chiseled face or think about how I can’t wait to order oysters as an appetizer because I know you’d be thrilled to share them with me. I don’t want to love you anymore because I’m sick of feeling upset, all the time.

I don’t want to love you anymore because everything reminds me of you. Because it’s hard to move on. Because I don’t know how. Because I’m no good at it. I don’t want to love you anymore because you give me permanent acid reflex and indigestion. The One Trait To Look For In A Partner. There were a few comments from people about my post on how to date amazing women saying it was too extreme and that everyone has faults. Of course, everyone has faults. It’s impossible to find someone without some emotional baggage or insecurities. The real question is, what does that person do with it? In the first two articles of this series, I pointed out how to notice emotionally manipulative behavior and how to avoid women who display it.

These were women who had problems and baggage and used them as a weapon with the men they date. In this article, I will be talking about the traits that you want to actively look for in a relationship parter when deciding to date or commit to them. My first handful of significant relationships were mired with a lot of manipulation and victim/rescuer dynamics.

It was until I managed to find myself in relationships with some emotionally healthy women who were able to manage their flaws well, that I really learned what to look for when dating someone. This Is Why I’m In Love With You. I’m in love with you because you’re lovable. If you were to be put in a line-up of people and someone asked me, “Who would you love the most?” , I would pick you. You know why? You have kind eyes. You have eyes that make everyone else’s look dark and scary, including mine. How does one even get kind eyes? How do I convey warmth and vulnerability all in one glance? I’m in love with you because you make me feel safe. I’m in love with you because I’m not obsessed with you. I’m in love with you because you’re my best friend. I’m in love with you because we aren’t afraid to fight. I’m in love with you because you’re the peanut butter to my jelly.

How You Know Someone Cares. Someone who cares will ask you how your day is. They want to know what you’re doing; they want to know if something significant has happened in your life. You don’t have to talk to them all the time, but when you do see them, they will want to know how you are. Not out of some sort of obligation, but because they genuinely want to know. Someone who cares will tell you things. They’ll tell you how ridiculous that parking ticket was; they’ll tell you a joke they found hilarious. Some people share more than others, but someone who cares will tell you things that matter to them, no matter how small that thing is. Someone who cares will listen. Someone who cares wants to see you. A person who cares about you will take time for you.

Someone who cares will not make you feel bad for taking up said time. People are never perfect, so you will not always get along with the person who cares about you. Sometimes a person who once cared for you stops caring. Things You Forget When You’re Single. I’ve been single for a long time now. Too long. I feel my private parts getting swallowed up, making me look like Barbie but with cellulite and a size-12 waist. I’m starting to forget what it ever felt like to be in a relationship, what it felt like to always have someone to call and make plans with. This feeling that someone needed you more than they needed anyone else.

I’ve had this before. It does stop. I’m forgetting more and more each day. I forget what it’s like to see the same naked body over and over again, learning every crevice and sketching the outline with my fingers. How To Be Single. When people ask you how things are going you tell them “Fine. Everything’s fine.” Because it is. You’ve settled into a nice career, you love your roommate, and you’ve been eating well. Those five pounds you gained in the winter are gone and now you just stare at your flat stomach in the mirror, hoping it will unleash some secret about being happy. Watch everyone around you get into relationships that make sense. You had problems. That didn’t happen though. You’re bored. That kind of thinking is disgusting, isn’t it? You date but you’re underwhelmed by everyone. Getting Someone To Fall In Love With You. How do you get someone to fall in love with you? Do you “like” their Facebook statuses?

Not too much, of course, because that would seem desperate. But a little bit, sparingly, so they know that you like the things that come out of their brain. Perhaps you can even leave the occasional comment on their Facebook wall so they remember you, they remember that they should love you. Do you wear a flattering outfit when you go to meet them for coffee? That way you can remind them that you’re someone worth seeing naked. (It’s all an illusion anyway. Do I text you? There are so many games you can play. I guess it is. So fine.

For the record, I don’t care if you call or text me. Be kind. What It’s Like To Be A Pretty Girl. Being pretty has some major benefits. I’ve definitely passed a few classes I shouldn’t have by batting my big brown eyes and crying crocodile tears. I used to be a hit at the bars (back when I still went to bars) because I could get free drinks just by asking for them, and I’ve avoided arrest a few times when I probably shouldn’t have. If you’re funny and smart, people tend to think you are a legitimate genius – probably because people never have expectations for pretty people anyway – except to stay pretty. It ain’t always easy, though. People expect you to be an idiot, and when it turns out you have brains too, they tend to get freaked out. Prepare to get passed over for jobs with female hiring managers, and prepare for a string of jobs working for pervy male managers who gave you the job because they could see down your dress during the interview.

You won’t have many girlfriends; that much should be obvious. When You Get Back Together With Your Ex. Everyone says, “Don’t do it.” It’s wrong, you broke up for a reason, they aren’t good enough for you. (It almost feels like an insult, in a way, because that implies that this person who is now not up to your imagined standard was at one point a match for you — were you worse back then?) Your friends will take your hands in theirs and look you in the eye and get really, really serious. “Don’t you remember all the bad things? The way they made you feel?” You do, of course, but it’s not the same kind of feeling they’re talking about. Maybe it’s that touch, anyway. It’s like stepping into a hot shower after standing naked in the cold for way too long.

Everyone wants an explanation, everyone wants to be part of this decision. But you have, and it’s lighting everything on fire. Your friends want so badly for things to work out for you, they don’t want you to get hurt again, they don’t want you to stay up at night and look at their pictures online. The Time I Had To Say Goodbye. A Portrait of Infatuation. 5 Reasons Why Falling In Love Is So Hard. Sometimes Good Guys Are The Bad Guys. 10 Ways to Defend Yourself Against Negativity.

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