» Best Procrastination Tip Ever. Post written by Leo Babauta. Your first thought as you look at this article will be, “I’ll read this later.” But don’t. Let the urge to switch to a new task pass. Read this now. It’ll take you two minutes. I’ve written the book on ending procrastination, but I’ve since come up with a very simple technique for beating everyone’s favorite nemesis. Try it now: Identify the most important thing you have to do today. Clear away distractions. Sit there, and focus on getting started. Pay attention to your mind, as it starts to have urges to switch to another task. But don’t move. Notice also your mind trying to justify not doing the task.
Now just take one small action to get started. Get started, and the rest will flow. The 9 don'ts of dealing with anger. "For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness. " Ralph Waldo Emerson Okay, I'm not probably not the best person to be writing this post, considering it was just yesterday in therapy that I started to deal with my own "anger issues," but, hey, I figure I can probably learn something from whatever ideas come to mind.
After all, sometimes it's the person with the problem that gives the best advice (even if s/he doesn't always follow it...). So, I'll be the first to admit that sometimes I can be a bit...angry. I'm not the type to scream or cause a scene (usually -- I've had my moments), but I tend to let my anger come out in less productive (often passive-aggressive) ways, which, of course, is not at all healthy. The more I started thinking about this, the more I came up with things I need to stop doing in order to avoid getting to the point where I'm filled with anger. Quite often anger can be avoided if we just pay attention. Nine Don'ts of Dealing with Anger. How Other People’s Unspoken Expectations Control Us. We quickly sense how others view us and play up to these expectations. A good exercise for learning about yourself is to think about how other people might view you in different ways. Consider how your family, your work colleagues or your partner think of you.
Now here’s an interesting question: to what extent do you play up to these expectations about how they view you? This idea that other people’s expectations about us directly affect how we behave was examined in a classic social psychology study carried out by Dr Mark Snyder from the University of Minnesota and colleagues (Snyder et al., 1977).
They had a hunch that people automatically sense how others view them and immediately start exhibiting the expected behaviours. Feeling the attraction To test this in the context of interpersonal attraction they had male students hold conversations with female students they’d just met through microphones and headsets. Changing others’ behaviour. 6 TIps to Tame Negative Thoughts for a Less Limited Life. “You are your choices.” ~Seneca Lately I‘ve been feeling a bit down in the dumps. A few things have happened at work to make me feel like nothing’s going my way. I’m guessing that pretty much everyone experiences weeks like this from time to time. You know, where it feels like the whole world is against you. This has been my life for the past few weeks.
And my initial reaction was to feel sorry for myself. And then like a lightening strike out of the blue, amidst my dark cloud of pity I had an epiphany: I have a choice. Instead of reacting in a way that renders me helpless, I have the choice to pick myself up, dust myself off, and turn those negative thoughts into positive ones. When it comes to filtering our thoughts, even though at times it may not feel like it, we do have a choice. Just because some of our thoughts are negative doesn’t mean we have to listen to them.
Did you know that our brains produce 70,000 thoughts every single day? The truth is, you are not your thoughts. 1. 2. 3. 4. The Six Best Ways to Decrease Your Anxiety. We all know the uncomfortable feeling of anxiety. Our hearts race, our fingers sweat, and our breathing gets shallow and labored. We experience racing thoughts about a perceived threat that we think is too much to handle. That's because our "fight or flight" response has kicked in, resulting in sympathetic arousal and a narrowing of attention and focus on avoiding the threat. We seem to be locked in that state, unable to focus on our daily chores or longer-term goals . As a Cognitive-Behavior Therapist with more than 15 years of experience, I have found a variety of techniques that I can teach my patients with anxiety disorders such as phobias, panic attacks, or chronic worry.
Some are based on changing thoughts, others on changing behavior, and still others involve physiological responses. The more aspects of anxiety I can decrease, the lower the chance of relapse post-therapy. {*style:<i><b> Techniques to achieve inner peace of mind {*style:<b><i> (6) Exposure </i></b>*} 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. 28 Ways to Stop Complicating Your Life.