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Why Men Fall out of Love—What Every Woman should Know. Everybody talks about falling in love, but rarely do we tackle the issue of falling out of love. Maybe we think “falling out of love” is a fallacy. We ask ourselves, “How is it possible for someone to be in love today, only to fall out of love tomorrow?” Frankly, when I was younger I never believed in falling out of love. Although I was faced with many relationships endings, I refused to believe that they ended because the other person or I, fell out of love.

I would claim that if love was true, it wouldn’t have ended. The truth is, relationships are flimsy. They need a whole lot of work. This is what makes men leave: At first thought, it might seem bewildering to hear this topic coming from a woman. Well, I have been surrounded by men throughout my life. Despite the understandings I have observed in men, one cannot generalize. Now of course, it is not a thing that happens within the realm of 24 hours. Falling out of love is a process. Men are simple creatures, really. Being too clingy. How The Emotionally Broken Man Loves Differently. Taco Bell Enchirito Copycat Recipe (Improved)

1. In a medium bowl, combine the ground beef with the flour, chili powder, salt, minced onion, paprika, onion powder, and garlic powder. Use your hands to thoroughly mix the ingredients into the ground beef. 2. Add the seasoned beef mixture to the water in a skillet over medium heat. Mix well with a wooden spoon or spatula, and break up the meat as it cooks. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Makes 10 to 12. I Love You---Oh, but I Hate You. “…So nearly one are love and hate, the two most powerful and devasting emotions that control man, nations, life.” ~ Edgar Rice Burroughs I sit here as the sun slowly drips down the horizon, my legs motionless, my hands frozen in place, wanting nothing more than to pick up the phone and call you. To hear your voice. To talk about your day. My day. To laugh together, our smiles like slices of sun bubbling with lemon-scented, effervescent joy. But the thought of talking to you also makes my blood boil; it makes the flowers in my hair singe angrily, the paper in my hand turn to ashes with a fierce plume of smoke.

So, I don’t call. Because I love you—oh, but I hate you. I miss you, but I can’t stand you. I’m better off without you, but how I long for the saltiness of your lips. I need you next to me; I need you to get the hell away from me. It is impossible to know love, without also knowing hate. So, I surrender to the shaky pulls of my heart. But right now, I don’t hide. I love you. Honesty. 7 Types of Men to Stay Away from. “You get so frustrated sometimes that you think you’d be better off alone. That love is not worth the heartache and pain. My Dear Beautiful Strong Woman… it’s not love that causes the heartache and pain. It’s the wrong man you choose to give into.” ~ Mr.

Amari Soul As women, we can fall hard for a man. We can’t always explain why it is that when we fall, we can fall hard. Sometimes against our better judgment, we fall for the same type of guy over and over again, only to have the same experience. Total f*cking shitstorm. If you find yourself currently involved with or falling for this type of man, go in with your eyes wide open and just be prepared for what may come by being in that relationship. Ultimately the choice is yours. 1) The Fixer Upper The guy has potential. Maybe he can’t hold down a job.

This will never work. 2) The Non-Communicator This guy couldn’t communicate an emotion or feeling if his life depended on it. 3) The Player The definition of The Player says it all. You didn’t. How it Feels to Have Anxiety in a Relationship. ~ Samuel Leighton-Dore. How does it feel to have anxiety in a relationship? It feels like the pain of your past is being folded into the joy of your future—and you’re left, somewhere in between, unable to grasp the present.

It’s blurring the line between that which is possible and probable, quietly fighting to uncover even the slightest crack in the most brazen of armours. It’s the way you somehow always manage to find one; magnify it, expand upon it—allow it to justify the tidal waves of self-doubt as they build, bend and break to shore. It’s your needing closure to that which you hold open. It’s harboring a silent resentment over the hypothetical scenarios of your own writing, leaving them to play out on a manic loop—sparking a groundless sense of panic which swells and consumes all remaining sense or logic. It’s tripping over your own laces, tied voluntarily between each shoe. It’s believing that heartbreak is, in the end, inevitable—despite your undying hope for the contrary. Relephant bonus: Relephant: You're Not The One: 8 Ways To Tell It's Time To Say Goodbye. We’re used to getting advice on if he’s “the one” or not.

We pick petals off daisies, read countless magazine articles and debate it with our closest friends. We make mental checklists of all the reasons he is or isn’t Mr. Right, or even Mr. Almost Right. Determining if he’s “the one” seems to be pretty clear-cut to those who have found him, and as clear as mud to everyone else. But, contrary to popular belief, there is an easy way to figure out if you two are forever. On that note, here’s a list of red flags, so you can stop in your tracks, exit left stage now, call it quits and not waste another second. 1.

Now I don’t mean he’s dishonest in that he tells you you look great in a pair of shorts you both know aren’t flattering. I mean he lies all the time, about big or small things, and you’re always catching him somewhere he shouldn’t be. My mom always told me if someone can look you in the eyes and lie to you, they will do anything to you. 2. 3. This one is tough. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Passive-Aggressive: Explanation & Cure. The first time I encountered the phrase passive-aggressive was during a break-up. Feeling hurt, I was defensive and had no idea what the words meant, and all I knew is that it was an attack and a label. Fast forward a decade filled with a great deal of introspection and inquiry into psychology, self-discovery and personality, and I would have had to agree with her. I used to be passive-aggressive, still can be, and have learned what it is, how to identify it, and the cure.

Passive-aggressive is not having the courage to speak openly and directly. As a highly sensitive person, I am aware of the impact of my words, actions and presence on others. I didn’t always have passive-aggressive traits. It took years for me to recognize my fears, the causes for them, and how to live with and move past them.

Most passive-aggressive people tend to have deep wounds, either from childhood or traumatic experiences in life. The tendency to be fearful is a natural result of trauma. Love remains the cure. How to Love a Man who has Never been Truly Loved. “A wise woman knows the importance of speaking life into her man. If you love him: believe in him, encourage him and be his peace.” ~ Denzel Washington To love a man who has never been truly loved is to venture into a journey of love with never ending optimism and hope. A man who has never been truly loved may not believe in the awe inspiring, soul shaking connection that can exist between two people.

This wonderful man of ours will be reluctant with his heart—and he may run away at times, preferring the quiet of solitude to sort through his thoughts. He is the quiet of the stars and the hush of soft lips upon our collarbone. He is going to have one foot on the gas—and one on the brake, unsure how to best go about navigating this new world of love and intimacy. If our man has never truly been loved—it won’t be for his lack of trying, but for his lack of vulnerability. A man who has never had his soul touched by true love may have a list of failed relationships for which he blames himself. The Magic of a Blue Moon: July 31st. Full moons are always energetically powerful, deeply creative and also intensely magical times. A full moon happens when the sun, earth and moon line up in that order, and the sun’s light shines directly onto the moon. It is also a time when the lunar energy is at its most intense. Therefore, when we have a blue moon, which happens when two full moons occur in the same month, we are empowered more than ever.

All full moons bring us in touch with our emotions, our sensitivities and our inner-selves. When we are in tune with the natural energetic currents of nature, we can combine our own energy forces so that we have an extra surge, which helps to push us in the right direction. This blue moon is a powerful one and it is signalling that it is time for us to take control and take the power back from areas of our lives that have been roaming free and taking us down a road that lead to nowhere. We will be seeing ourselves in a new light and this will mean we will question everything around us. Zzyzx: Revisiting Doc Springer's Boulevard of Dreams | San Bernardino. The Mojave Project is an experimental transmedia documentary by Kim Stringfellow exploring the physical, geological and cultural landscape of the Mojave Desert.

The Mojave Project reconsiders and establishes multiple ways in which to interpret this unique and complex landscape, through association and connection of seemingly unrelated sites, themes, and subjects thus creating a speculative and immersive experience for its audience. Many iconic points of interest dot the Mojave Desert stretch of Interstate 15, the busy speedway linking Los Angeles and Las Vegas. The recent ruins of the Rock-A-Hoola Waterpark, also known as Lake Dolores, are prominent from the highway -- 23 miles east of Barstow and 45 miles west of Baker. Once said to have had the world's longest raft ride, its endless rivers have now sat dry for over a decade, slides removed, and concrete channels marvelously vandalized. The original Zzyzx Mineral Springs sign beckoned highway passerby to its oasis. | Photo: Aurora Tang. Man reunites with gorilla he raised for 5 years. How they reacted when they s... Preparing for Venus Retrograde: Cleansing Rituals to Get Rid of Old Lovers & ...

Get elephant's newsletter We perform rituals every day—getting ready for work, how we make our coffee the same way or how we prepare to go to bed. In our modern era we have largely lost track of rituals that cleanse, clear or make space and rarely do we talk about literally cleaning ourselves and our space after a relationship ends or we have conflict in our current one. With Venus, the planet of love, intimacy and creativity, going retrograde on July the 25th, now is the perfect time to clear out exes, old lovers or even past strain and pain in your current relationship.

It will give us an opportunity to “go back” and clear up our own energy in these areas and create the space for literally new relationships or new forms in our current relationship. A Blast From the Past I Didn’t Need. Don’t think your physical world is affecting you? No Room for Mr. Our physical world is made up of energy and should support our inner world with a sense of harmony, happiness and hopefulness. 1. 2. 3.

10 Quotes to Read When you’re Ready to Quit. Some days are not easy days. Some days, things seem pointless and purposeless. Some days, we just want to throw in the towel, crawl back in bed and ignore the world for awhile. That might be that’s the right choice, on occasion. Other times, it’s quite simply because we don’t want to sit in the discomfort for one minute longer. But maybe we should. Sometimes, the lesson to be learned is just on the other side of that place, should we choose to stay. For those days, these quotes offer me grounding, reassurance, inspiration and a plain old kick in the behind to get (or keep) myself moving.

“What you’re believing in the moment creates your happiness or your suffering.” ~ Bryon Katie“Do you have the patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear? May your days be courageous, purposeful, and full, as is your heart. Relephant read: Author: Michelle Sweezey Editor: Cat Beekmans Photo: TheeErin/Flickr About Michelle Sweezey. I Miss You Today. Via Kelly Smithon Jan 28, 2015 You are the first thing on my mind as I wake up this morning. You have not been on my mind or in my heart for a long time now, but today, lying in the bed we once shared, I wish your legs were intertwined with mine; your feet on top of my feet, your knees bent towards me, feeling the warmth of your skin on mine. I lay on the side of the bed that was once yours and with my eyes closed, I can feel your arms around me, holding me close as your morning body heavily settles against mine. Your face snuggles into my neck and the sigh you give every morning comes alive in my memory.

Barely awake, I feel you squeeze me, making me feel safe and protected in our home, our bedroom and in your arms. I miss you today. Standing alone in the kitchen I suddenly crave breakfast food. We would call your parents from the car and make funny faces as they went on and on about the latest family gossip. I loved the way you would grab onto me as if you were afraid of losing me. How Surfing a& Yoga Can Change Our Lives. ~ David Flores. Via David Floreson Jul 17, 2014 Surfing. We all know the amazing movies, photographs and hype for this super-stoked sport. It can become a way of life, or even a religious pursuit, all for the perfect wave or the deepest barrel. It is something to admire for us average human beings who don’t charge the 60-foot waves of Jaws or mavericks. My childhood dream was to marry a surfer girl and live at the beach drinking coconuts all day, laying on a hammock and playing the ukulele.

I never imagined how a combination of the two disciplines would stir my life in an amazing turn of events that would uncover my true path. So, for the sake of this article I’ll get to the highlights and keep it short, because this is one of those long stories. So I figured that it was appropriate to share the lessons that I learned both on the board and on the mat, after all, we’re all here to learn and experience clarity, joy, peace and love.

I was following the plan, going to college and fitting in. And what did I do? Soulmate Love is Not the Stuff of Fairytales. When I was young, I believed in fairytales—or at least I wanted to. I wanted to be a princess and be rescued and taken care of. But no one ever told me that once the princess was rescued, married and set up in her own castle, it wouldn’t be very fun. It’s no fun living like that, just because someone somewhere said that’s how it’s supposed to be done. After I ditched my crown, I went through a bitter cynical phase. I scoffed at the idea of soulmates. I didn’t believe in romantic ideals or the poetry of love. Now, the smarter, older me is calling bullshit. There’s a reason why so much has been written about that once-in-a-lifetime kind of love—it actually exists. But soulmate love exists.

And although I’m confident in this deep type of connection between two people, I don’t believe in fairytales. The love we crave doesn’t look anything like what it’s supposed to. The soulmate love that we crave is dirty and imperfect. And that’s what keeps us coming back for more. That is the difference. I Choose You. 7 Daily Habits That Are Aging Your Skin, What to Avoid Doing to Look Younger.

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