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25 Ways to Save Your Marriage (And Your Life) Oh, and yes, divorce crushes your finances: A study of divorced baby boomers found that a split slashed their wealth to less than a quarter of what they would’ve had if they’d never wed at all. So we’ve collected 25 tips that can protect you from the sickly, cash-poor, single life. Save your marriage before it’s too late! (To see how much work your relationship really needs, check out How Strong Is Your Marriage?)

1. Assume the Best Explanation for What She Did, Not the Worst Think of an annoying thing she does that you regularly misinterpret. 2. How many days this month can you go without doing or saying a single negative, hurtful thing to your partner? You can strike sarcasm off the list too. 3. Related: How to Pleasure a Woman—the complete guide to becoming a master lover! 4. 5. A University of Denver study of soldiers found that exchanging letters with their wives had a more positive and long-lasting effect than texting did. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. In Aruba. 18. 19. 7 Signs You're Giving Up And Settling In Your Relationship. After many failed relationship attempts, I started to think that maybe I’ve been a little too picky in terms of dating. I had been in relationships with several great and good looking guys, who all had plenty of wonderful qualities.

I was reminded constantly by my friends and family that each one was a “great catch.” When I would find myself feeling sad or lonely in those past relationships, I just wrote my feelings off as being too needy, or too emotional. I once even had an ex tell me straight up that I ask for way too much, so I started thinking that maybe he was right and I would just be lonely forever. I started to think that maybe I complained about things that others just dealt with and I needed to suck it up. Maybe, when I thought something was “missing” from the relationship, it was really just a bad judgment call. Maybe my boyfriends really were treating me well, and I was the one who needed to try harder. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. If you secretly feel this way, you’re settling. 7. Unrealistic Expectations about Marriage | Reader's Digest. Take These Active Steps Accept your own expectations — and your partner’s. These hopes and dreams — and even the “you shoulds” — are signs of deep needs.

Your marriage cannot meet them all, but writing them off will leave each of you feeling unaccepted, alone, resentful. Be realistic about what you do ask for. Your spouse probably can’t bring you coffee in bed each morning, prop up your self-image three times a day, or never start an argument. She probably can share the cooking and meal cleanup, spend more quality time with you, and learn to squeeze the toothpaste tube from the bottom a little more often. See what you can do yourself. Grieve what you can’t have. Use disappointment as a signal of unconscious expectations. Don’t compare your spouse to other people’s spouses — or your marriage to other marriages. Look carefully at your expectations for yourself. How to Fix a Relationship: Learn the 20 Bad Relationship Habits. 1. Trying to improve him/her. News flash: There's no such thing as a perfect person, so don't expect unrealistic changes. Reminding him or her to make the bed is one thing, but trying to radically change shyness or anxiety is another — and could be ignoring the underlying causes for those issues in the first place. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. ...Click HERE for 10 more bad relationship habits on Greatist!

5 Relationship Problems Therapists See Over And Over Again—And How To Fix Them : "Our sex life isn't what it used to be." Fix it: Start thanking each other. "Fighting about who pays the bills, cleans, does lawn work or laundry, is more about feeling appreciated and getting credit than doing the actual task," says Melissa Cohen, LCSW, a couples counselor in private practice in Westfield, New Jersey. It's easy to feel like nothing you do is ever good enough if you don't get any credit.

"We see what we do but don't always see what our partner does," says Cohen. To get past the "I do more than you" argument, start by creating a culture of appreciation for what your spouse does, rather than focusing on what they don't. "Say thank you for every little thing your partner does and ask him to return the favor," says Cohen. Then, take the time to write down everything that makes your house function—how to clean the kitchen, who's in charge of buying gifts, remembering birthdays, getting the tires rotated on your car. 11 Non-Sexual Ways To Increase The Intimacy In Your Relationship. What if I told you that by not having sex you can actually increase the intimacy in your relationship?

You’re probably thinking, Hold on a minute! How do you get more intimate than having sex? Or, Doesn’t no sex mean trouble in paradise? Sex and intimacy are two very different things, and one is more influential than the other in creating long-term relationship success. After the initial hot and heavy stage that every couple experiences — when you actually shower, shave, and brush your teeth before each date — things naturally cool off a bit.

It’s the stage where you don’t need to have sex to feel close and connected. In my relationship, it was laying in bed talking about past experiences, taking walks discussing our core values and snuggling on the couch sharing future dreams that formed the bond that is now my happy marriage. Lazy Libidos Or Contentedly Connected? The thing is, not everyone agrees with the stereotypical belief that sex is the most important aspect of a relationship. When You’re Not Attracted to Your Partner « Conscious Transitions. Please Note: If you would like to learn how to feel more love and attraction for your partner, check out my program called “Open Your Heart: A 30 day program to feel more love and attraction for your partner.”

And for an in-depth exploration of this topic and all aspects of relationship anxiety please see my Break Free From Relationship Anxiety E-Course. It seems to be one the last taboos: alongside admitting that you’re not over-the-moon about your relationship and whispering to a friend that your desire for sex with your partner is at the bottom of your to-do list (yes, it’s become a “to-do”) is stating that you don’t find your partner physically attractive. What? In a culture that worships physical beauty and encourages you to place attraction somewhere near the first or second spot on a list of non-negotiables when choosing a marriage partner, admitting that you don’t always find your partner attractive is considered blasphemous and certainly a valid reason to walk away. When You’re Not Attracted to Your Partner « Conscious Transitions. Money and Relationships: How to Make Opposing Views Work. 8 Tips for Dealing with a Depressed Spouse. When one spouse has depression, it can put a strain on a marriage.

Living with a depressed partner who is often unhappy, critical and negative isn't easy, and at the same time, it may also be hard to persuade a husband or wife to get help. "Depression varies tremendously in severity, but it has many behavioral impacts that can profoundly affect all significant relationships," said Dr. Jay Baer, a psychiatrist and director of ambulatory services in the department of psychiatry at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston.

Depression results from shifts in brain chemistry that influence mood, thoughts, sex drive, sleep, appetite and energy levels — all factors that could affect a marriage, as well as disrupt home and family life. "Have marriages been broken up by depression? Here are his tips and advice when one spouse has depression.

Try to stay on the same team. Don't get bogged down in stigma or angry feelings. Help your spouse get a proper diagnosis and treatment. Show receptivity. 9 Things Only People With Depression Can Truly Understand. There’s been a lot of dialogue surrounding depression — particularly in light of recent events — as people struggle to understand why and how it affects people in the ways that it does. And for the 350 million people worldwide with the condition, it can be just as hard to articulate its effects as it is to understand it.

Depression can make people feel like their minds have completely rebelled against them. From a lack of will to physical pain, it can cause people to function poorly at work, in school and in social activities, according to the World Health Organization. Many people who experience depression can also experience symptoms of anxiety. But those factors are just the start. Below, find nine things people with depression know to be true (and what others can do to help alleviate them). The frustration that comes when someone suggests you can “snap out of it.” People constantly confusing depression with sadness. There is no such thing as a little victory. Need help? About.com. Here’s the Secret to Communicating With Irrational, Angry or Crazy People. We all have to deal with our share of hotheads and crazies. What does research say works with them? First off, you can’t get angry too.

Because then there are two crazy people arguing. While very entertaining to onlookers, this doesn’t accomplish much. Tell yourself they are having a bad day and that it’s not about you: Telling yourself that an angry person is just having a bad day and that it’s not about you can help take the sting out of their ire, a new study suggests… the researchers monitored participants’ brain activity and found that reappraising another person’s anger eliminated the electrical signals associated with negative emotions when seeing angry faces. They’re being crazy. They don’t think they’re wrong. But here’s the important part: just shutting up is not enough. Listening isn’t just listening. This is “active listening.” Keep in mind that good listening is “non-evaluative.” It has three components: paraphrasing, inquiry and acknowledgment: It’s not all in your words. Tags:

How Sex Isn't The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days. It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing. Meetings, conference calls and project deadlines all loom. Why is there always so much to do and never enough time to get it done? You grab your phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half awake. Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text message: “Good morning, baby. This text serves as two reminders: You want her to know she’s the first thing on your mind. It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality. Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on the way to work.

Relationships these days lack direction. Something is missing. Relationships thrive on communication. We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things: sitting at the dinner table with our phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social media. Do you know what trumps all that? The Power of Two. Sharing goals, priorities and dreams with your significant other is not only a great way to build strength in your relationship but it’s also a way to achieve a personal goal you’ve set for yourself. The power of two literally translates to strength in numbers and can be utilized not only in math problems but as an activity for couples to join together and achieve their goals.

We all keep a mental bucket list in our heads of things we want to accomplish in life. These goals can vary in intensity like wanting to go skydiving, traveling to a different continent, dedicating time to write a novel or even simpler ideas like losing weight, keeping track of your finances, setting time aside during the day for yourself and much more. Unfortunately the responsibilities and stresses of life tend to get in the way of our bucket lists and force those dreams to the back of our minds behind energy draining things like work and finances. Make a List: Reminders and Rewards: Friendly Competition: 30 Signs Of Emotional Abuse In A Relationship.

15 Crucial Warning Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship. If he (or she) does ANY of these things, you need to get out and get help. Women don't plan to enter into abusive relationships. In fact, many women who've escaped abusive relationships swear to themselves that they will never get into another one, only to find themselves becoming victims of abuse once again. Sadly, it takes an average of five to seven acts of violence before a woman leaves her abuser.

So, why not plan to avoid entering into an abusive relationship in the first place? It's easier to avoid an abusive relationship if you're able to detect the early signs. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. If you've experienced domestic violence in the past, you may benefit from this article, Healing From Trauma With EFT.

NOTE: Though females are the primary victims in Domestic Violence, it is not always the case; males can also be victims (over 25 percent). 21 Warning Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship. Is it possible that you are being abused and not even know it? Domestic violence is once again in the forefront of the news. This is in part due to abusive incidents with sports figures or celebrities that have become very public. Abuse is not always as obvious as being hit or shoved, called degrading names or cussed out. In fact, it can very well be underhanded or subtle. You may find yourself feeling confused about the relationship, off balance or like you are “walking on eggshells” all the time. This is the kind of abuse that often sneaks up on you as you become more entrenched in the relationship. I am talking here about psychological abuse, which is also known as mental or emotional abuse.

Psychological abuse occurs when a person in the relationship tries to control information available to another person with intent to manipulate that person’s sense of reality or their view of what is acceptable and unacceptable. All abuse takes a severe toll on self-esteem. Types of Abuse « Center For Relationship Abuse Awareness.