What It's Like to Be an 82-Year-old on Grindr. This article originally appeared on VICE Canada. If there's one thing gay men recognize about their milieu, it's the rather severe ageism that pervades it. Profiles on sex sites often set strict guidelines around age: No one over 40, no one over 30, some even say no one over 25.
Not only is being gay expensive—a new leather jacket is required every year—but it's also, apparently, a young man's game. Thus Montrealer Chris Wilson—out and proud since the early 70s—is definitely a trailblazer. Chris Wilson. VICE: When did you first get into sex sites? You weren't daunted by the ageism on Grindr? Have you found romance on these sites, or is it mainly about sex? Your sex life sounds like a bit of a UN tour. Do you visit sites other than Grindr and Squirt? Is there anything too kinky that you've been asked to do? Did you see the film Gerontophilia? Do any of these sites offer a senior discount?
Do you take Viagra? On your profile, included in your likes are "younger guys. " An Interview With French Couple Arthus And Nico: Founders of PetitQ Underwear - April 26, 2013. Posted By: Adrian Garcia | April 26, 2013 at 7:31 am EST Meet Arthus and Nico, arguably one of the most popular and open french gay couples on twitter.
They have been together for almost 9 years and have shared almost everything with their online followers during that time. Yes we do mean everything! The boys have a large following on twitter, but also have a sizable following on Xtube, where their very intimate videos have been viewed over 7.5 million times! The couple also describe themselves as entrepreneurs who love to visit the U.S., spending up to 5 months every year in the States. Visit their online blog here, or follow them on instagram here, twitter here, and xtube here. Tell us about your men’s underwear line? We launched a men underwear online retail – www.petit-q.com – while in college. Petite-Q Behind The Scenes Why do you think you both have such a large following online?
I guess people follow us cause of our free spirit. Jorge Freire recently photographed the boys in Miami: Cody Cummings Vs. Next Door Studios: “I Hired An Attorney To Reclaim My Name” In addition to his retirement video posted earlier today, Kevin Lengyel (a.k.a. Cody Cummings) has also posted a lengthy video detailing his explosive falling out with the owner of Next Door Studios.
In the YouTube video below, Lengyel explains that his decision to retire was based in part on the fact that customers were growing tired of watching him get his dick sucked in update after update without ever reciprocating or even touching his gay male scene partners (unless you count the time he used his knee to massage Donny Wright’s butt cheek or that other time when he used his toes to jerk off Hunter Page’s cock).
In response to the blowjob fatigue, Lengyel proposed shooting more bisexual content (with more women, obviously), but Next Door Studios and its affiliates were like, uhhh, no. Does the person in this video comprehend that he’s been working in the gay porn industry for the past decade? UPDATE: Kevin Lengyel decided to pull his original YouTube video. From your own site. Other Than Anal [How's That Work?] This post is the first in what I'm planning as a regular Sunday feature called "How's That Work? " This feature will draw on my experience as an alternative sexuality educator, as well as that of my colleagues, to explain the whys and hows of a range of sex and relationship practices that Bilerico readers may be less familiar with.
Some gay guys don't enjoy, or can't have penetrative anal sex. For most of us, this is not news. However, many heterosexual people, TV pundits, equality opponents, and even young gay men think that life as a gay guy must revolve around an endless schedule of ass-pounding. As a sex educator, I probably talk to at least one or two gay guys a month who are worried that they can't have a fulfilling sex life because for one reason or another anal sex is off the table.
So why then might a gay guy not participate in anal sex? The obvious answer can be as simple as not liking it. That's not the only reason someone might not engage in anal sex though. Why I Stay Closeted In Asia. The World's Most Homoerotic Homophobes Are Now Mounting a Giant Pole in Tiny Pink Shorts - Alexander Abad-Santos. In France, there wages a (bizarre and perhaps unintentional) war among the country's anti-gay groups. In this war, there is apparently a race to to be, at once, more homoerotic and more homophobic than the next anti-gay group. Today we meet La Manif Pour Tous, who decided a bunch of very fit shirtless men straddling a giant pole is the best way to flaunt their anti-gay stance. "Shirtless guys ... on top of one another ... clutching a giant pole ... in pink shorts and those guys are protesting gay marriage? This has to be some kind of joke," your brain is probably telling you. But we kid you not. France legalized same-sex marriage this past May, and has seen a bevy of protests and clashes between supporters and opponents.
Most recently, some of the more sinewy members of Hommen stormed the beach of Montpellier (where the first legal same-sex marriage in France was performed) in tiny shorts: And sausage: And one more shot of the pole-riding boys: Science of Gay Marriage. Scientifically proved that gay marriage is wrong A University of Lagos post graduate student, Chibuihem Amalaha, from Imo State has used science to prove that gay marriage is improper among other breakthroughs, writes Charles Ajunwa His persistence during our conversations on the phone that I should give him an opportunity to explain some of his scientific breakthroughs made me to agree to meet him at his residence at No.38 Godwin Way, Ireakari Estate, Isolo, Lagos. With a disarming smile on his face, he introduced himself as Chibuihem Stanley Amalaha, a student of University of Lagos studying Chemical Engineering at the School of Post Graduate Studies.
He talked about his researches and scientific breakthroughs with the confidence of an achiever. “I was the first to publish report about the 2006 total solar eclipse in the newspaper in Nigeria when I was writing for the defunct New Age newspaper. He continued: “Ever since then I have been doing a lot of researches in the country. The World's Most Homoerotic Homophobes Are Now Mounting a Giant Pole in Tiny Pink Shorts - Alexander Abad-Santos.
Abonnez-moi. Award-winning author Basil Papademos opens up about his bisexual novel - National bisexual. Mount Royal by Basil Papademos was a finalist for Bisexual Fiction and the winner for Bisexual Erotic Fiction at the Bisexual Book Awards. Having enjoyed this raw, edgy, creative novel filled with a pansexual panoply of quirky characters, I wanted to find out more about what makes it tick. SL: Johnny, the main character of Mount Royal, is unabashedly bisexual. He has two girlfriends, a boyfriend, plus other lovers and tricks, but he never does any hand-wringing over it…it just comes naturally to him. This is one of the things I liked most about the book. Did you go into the book knowing you wanted to write that kind of character? BP: The sexuality of the characters was my way of trying to remove specific orientation as a defining characteristic of an individual.
SL: What inspired the character of Johnny? BP: In many ways Mount Royal is autobiographical. BP: A few of the characters are very close to real friends of mine. BP: They created themselves. BP: It sure did. Shawn Ahmed: Why We Need Gaybros. "I hate women," my ex-boyfriend once told me. I had met him through OKCupid. On his profile he described himself as "straight-acting" and a "regular guy who likes regular guys. " When it came to the men he was attracted to, he had little patience for femininity. But it turned out that even I, in the closet at the time and with stereotypical "straight" mannerisms, couldn't live up to his standards.
Getting teary-eyed when saying "I love you"? It's possible that my ex was like this because, despite being out, he might not have been comfortable accepting his own sexuality, perhaps a vestige of his Arizonan, Southern Baptist heritage. My ex was many things, but he was not a gaybro. "Gaybros" is an online community that primarily operates out of a subsection of the social news site Reddit. This is but one of many LGBT-centric subsections on Reddit that pivot around a cluster of shared interests. But beyond the funny name lies a very deep, substantive and complex community. Guys, It's Time to Stop Shaving Your Junk. There is nothing more disappointing than taking a new guy home for the first time and ripping his clothes off, only to find that he has "manscaped" himself to look like some sort of dude-shaped topiary.
When I bring home a man, I want to see a masculine wreath of pubes around his dick, not a shaved walrus. Tragically, it’s becoming harder and harder to find a guy whose chest stubble won't give you a rug burn or whose bare nutsack doesn’t look like a dismembered turkey waddle. Guys, this has to stop. The social scientists over at Cosmopolitan recently published a study claiming that 95 percent of men now trim or shave their body hair in one way or another, a practice that has taken on the cringeworthy title of manscaping.
I hate it and want it to die. Presumably, many other true lovers of the male form feel the same way. Body hair is one of the secondary sex characteristics of being a man, so why would anyone want to eradicate it altogether? I'm here to tell you that it's stupid. Hollywood Can't Handle Gay Sex. James Franco, that jack of all media, is on yet another artistic mission: The star of the soon-to-be-released Disney film Oz: The Great and Powerful is hell-bent on bringing gay sex into mainstream Hollywood cinema. Adding to an already considerable oeuvre of gay-themed projects such as Sal, Howl, Milk, and The Feast of Stephen, Franco and co-director Travis Matthews’s Interior. Leather Bar., which premiered at last month’s Sundance Film Festival, attempts to recreate the “missing” 40 minutes of footage that William Friedkin had to cut from his controversial 1980 film Cruising in order to obtain an ‘R’ rating from the MPAA.
In the quasi-documentary, Franco discusses how it was “a little shocking” to watch two men have sex, but only because his “mind has been twisted by the way that the world has been set up around me.” Does he have a point? If anything, things may be getting worse. About Fucking Time: Flushing Out the Shitty Side of Bottoming | Nightcharm: Gay. Sex. Culture. Anal is the most intimate sex we’ve got as gay men, yet most of us rarely ever talk about it.
This I discovered on Fire Island last summer, while conferring with various guys. I became convinced that we just don’t talk enough about butt-sex, especially regarding the necessary prep. So, here’s my attempt to crack open a discussion. Why go there? Without the flexibility to consult one another on the mechanics of anal sex, we lack the best tips for safety, cleanliness, and achieving maximum pleasure — a real problem for the young, and/or sexually inexperienced, who may have to endure unnecessary confusion, embarrassment, or pain during intercourse. It’s no wonder we’re so retentive, given the relentless disparaging of butt penetration that surrounds us. Many gay men I consulted for this article said they never respond to derogatory anal sex references. This internalized shame corrodes our minds and contaminates our sex lives. In the spirit of Bersani’s essay Is the Rectum a Grave?
An Open Letter to the Girl I Pretended To Have a Crush On in Eighth Grade | Dear Tracy Dolan, Every gay teenager has a different strategy for surviving adolescence. Some join the choir, some write or paint, some play sports, some try to make themselves invisible. And some, like me, make themselves as visible as possible. You were the first girl I pretended to have a crush on so no one would know I was gay. I want to tell you how it happened. She had red cheeks, a cheerleader’s skirt and a big triangle smile. ‘What are you drawing?’ We were sitting in staggered rows, in those cagelike middle school desks. We were three years into middle school, two months into our eighth grade year, and 30 seconds until Mr. ‘Huh? Trevor leaned forward over his desk to get a better look. But I had never really noticed what Trevor wore. ‘Is that Tracy Dolan?’ ‘It’s just a doodle,’ I lied. Mr. ‘Why are you drawing Tracy Dolan on your notebook?’
Who the hell, I thought as Mr. You were from Montana, that much I knew, and you had the blondest hair I had ever seen. He had his hand up. Mom And Dad, I'm Gay And Also Stronger Than Both Of You, So Don't Try Any Shit. Mom, Dad, there's something we have to talk about. I've been wanting to tell you this for some time, and I want you to know that while I'm fully aware this might be difficult for you to hear, remember, I am still your son, and I love you very much: Mom, Dad, I'm gay, and so help me God, I am stronger than the both of you, and I won't hesitate to beat you back to the Stone Age if you give me any shit about this.
I know this must be tough for you. I understand this isn't how you expected your son to turn out, and I know you might be disappointed, but just remember that I go to the gym seven days a week and can bench-press 275 pounds easy. I take excellent care of my body, so while you can be upset, you better be careful and watch how you handle yourselves here, because if you so much as make a sarcastic remark or do anything to take advantage of how vulnerable I am right now, this will end ugly for the both of you.
Bottom line: I was born this way. It wasn't a choice. Look, I'm not naïve. Lost in Space | Narratively. I am at my local hipster restaurant, in Park Slope. The young straight guys next to me are talking about how the dating website Plenty of Fish has a new GPS-oriented smartphone app that finds women nearby, listing their profiles and proximity, and of course, showing a photo. “Look at this one!” Says one guy, tapping and stroking his phone, “I hooked up with her last week.” They all gather around and look at her. “She’s, like, three hundred feet away from here.” I sit at the end of the bar and laugh to myself like an old, salty sea captain.
Way back in 2002, I already felt behind the curve when I was finally brave enough (and finally had an Internet connection with enough bandwidth) to go online and try to hook up. My friend told me about this one site he frequented. I was so nervous. Those first days on the Internet were memorable. Here’s one timeless truth about mankind that becomes clear very quickly online: there are a lot of people who are hot but dumb.
Am I ever truly alone now? Jacob Tobia: Gay Men and Body Image: It's Time for a Revolution. Last week Lady Gaga made history yet again by "coming out" as someone who has struggled with both bulimia and anorexia for the past 10 years. In doing so, she launched a movement through the Born This Way Foundation and littlemonsters.com called "Body Revolution 2013. " The premise of the campaign is simple: Gaga fans from across the Internet are invited to post pictures of themselves online that celebrated their "triumph over insecurities. " To date, thousands of little monsters have participated, and the momentum is swelling. However, as I was perusing littlemonsters.com (not that I have an account or anything), I noticed something: While many of the women who posted on the site have emphasized scars, physical disability, or insecurities with their weight, the same is not true of the majority of men.
Among Gaga's male fan base on littlemonsters.com, most of the pictures are of gay men sporting their tanned, chiseled physiques in skimpy designer underwear. And I'll start with myself: The Battle For Gay Rights is a Wrestling Match Over Masculine Identity. How to Be Gay - The Chronicle Review. Watching The Defectives.
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