The Happiness Project. :zenhabits. One Simple Way to Be Happier and More At Peace. A few months ago, I noticed myself criticizing a lot of people around me. For example, I would go to work and think – “This Mr X next to me, this co-worker, he talks too much and is always interested in gossip.” I also thought that this other co-worker Ms Y had her own set of rigid beliefs she was not willing to change at all. She wouldn’t even listen to others’ beliefs if they contradicted her’s. Then I thought of another acquaintance (a neighbor) and thought – “The level at which she thinks is so low – she is always thinking of living a mundane daily existence that is socially conditioned and she can’t think originally at all!”
All these thoughts were there in my head even though I was not actively criticizing these people. In fact these thoughts might have been there for a long time, but it was only a few months ago that I noticed them. Then, one day something struck me. But did they not have something nice about them too? Of course no person has ONLY bad qualities. Wow again. 13 Ways to De-Stress, Lighten the Load and Feel Like Yourself Again. If any demands are placed on you, does it all feel like too much, and do you just end up snapping at someone? Most likely, what’s happening is you’re emotionally blocked and full of energetic toxins, but with a few easy exercises you can feel like your best self once more and get back to being able to cope with life. The body’s emotional energetic system works in exactly the same way as the digestive system; digesting and absorbing what’s good and needed and then letting go of the waste.
Feelings such as worry, fear, guilt, shame, sadness, anger and frustration can become toxic and like negative waste to the body. If they are not let go of, they build up, causing emotional constipation. We end up lugging around the equivalent of a bag of crap strapped to our backs,which weighs us down and can easily end up spilling on to other people (by blaming, lashing out and projecting), because there becomes too much for us to manage.
To free yourself, you must choose to put down the bag of crap. Can You REALLY Have It All? Seven Keys to Finding Balance. Career. Success. Power. Financial security. Marriage. Family. Friends. Many people feel like they bought into the “you can have it all” mentality only to find themselves divorced, disenchanted, and burnt out. They had high paying, high pressure jobs that cost many of them their health and their families. They didn’t have as much time as they wanted to invest in their kids, were too tired to invest in themselves, and felt like no one really knew them apart from their performance. Let’s face it, it’s hard to be all things to all people. And there’s only so much time available to each of us in a day; we can only spread ourselves so thin.
Something somewhere has to give if we want to follow the “we can have it all mentality.” If you’ve ever struggled with how you can have it all and still keep the balance in your life, you’re not alone, so here are a few suggestions that may help: 1. First of all, you need to look at the big picture. 2. Setting small goals for your day requires structure. 3. 4. 5. 5 Steps to Laser-Sharp Focus. Procrastination, fear, and overwhelm are just some of the things that stop us from taking action and reaching our dreams. Is focus the absence of all distractions, or is it just a state of mind that can be attained whenever, wherever?
I believe there has to be a few prerequisites in place for being focused and entering the zone. But I also believe that we are more powerful than we give ourselves credit. 1. Build A Routine The first thing you should start with is getting a routine in place. This can be as simple as putting on your action socks, or meditating on what it is that you want to accomplish. Or even you making a coffee, sitting down, taking a sip, and starting. Eliminate Distractions The fewer distractions I have, the better I do. Eliminate whatever distractions you can. Look at it like sleeping; if someone wakes you up, it takes a while to get back to sleep, so guard your state of flow when you enter it. 3. It’s easy to make excuses. You have to ship them off to a galaxy far, far away. 5 Reasons Why You Should Give Up Your Goals and Live Goal-Free. Most people set goals to get away from something.
Don’t have money? Set a goal to make $100,000/year and you’re on your way. But there’s a problem hiding in plain sight. It often doesn’t make you happy. It makes you believe that you need something outside of yourself to be happy. What you may not realize is that even if you reach your goal, you’ll want something else, so you’ll stay stuck on the hamster wheel, forever doing, but never getting anywhere. People live like this without ever questioning what they’re doing, then they look back in regret as they take their last breaths of air. Do you want that to be you? Goals have their place, but if you think they’ll make you happy, you will suffer. 1. You can have a goal, but you don’t have to take it so seriously. When you relax the imaginary shoulds you’ve imposed on yourself, life becomes easier. There’s relief. There’s space. You can finally breathe. You don’t have to constantly keep doing in order to get closer to your goal.
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