5 Keys to Great Storytelling: Lessons from Barbara Corcoran. The Best Way to Change Your Habits? Control Your Environment. There’s just one way to radically change your behavior: radically change your environment.
--Dr. B.J. Fogg, Director of Stanford Persuasive Lab Most of us would like to think that our habits follow our intentions. The truth is that one of the mind’s chief functions is to spot and utilize patterns as shortcuts, in order to process the multitude of information we observe each day. We are more reliant on environmental triggers than we’d like to think. In one study conducted on “habits vs. intentions,” researchers found that students who transferred to another university were the most likely to change their daily habits. This mirrors research on the stimulus control theory, or the effect of a stimulus on behavior.
In short, those who had trouble falling asleep were told to only go to their room and lie in their bed when they were tired. Related: The Psychology of Getting More Done (In Less Time) Perhaps we are more like Pavlov’s dogs than first imagined. If you use a big spoon, you’ll eat more. 9 Qualities of Truly Confident People. I'm not particularly confident.
Scratch that. I'm situationally confident: sometimes, very much so; other times, not at all. So I spend a lot of time thinking about how to gain confidence. And that makes me wonder. In a world of "fake it till you make it," how can you tell when someone is truly confident--in his or her ideas, plans, and self--and, just as important, that the person's confidence is justified? Better yet, how do you know when your sense of self-confidence is justified? Unfortunately, I don't have the answer, so I asked Dharmesh Shah, co-founder ofHubSpot (No. 666 on the Inc. 5000 in 2013) and a guy who has met hundreds of entrepreneurs and invested in a number of startups, how he spots truly confident people: Keep in mind confidence is not bravado, or swagger, or an overt pretense of bravery.
Confidence is quiet. I'm fortunate to know a number of truly confident people. It comes as no surprise they all share a number of qualities: 1. 2. 3. 4. Saying "Can you help me? " 5. 6. 5 Things Successful Public Speakers Never Say - Answers.com. Unless you are formally apologizing, don't discredit yourself by apologizing during a presentation.
Remember that your goal is to project authority and expertise, and apologizing has the opposite effect. Apologizing weakens your credibility as a speaker and makes you seem less trustworthy. Even if you make an error during the course of your presentation, talk through the mistake with a positive comment instead of inserting an apology. Teach Yourself To Be More Confident. Are you as confident as you'd like to be?
Few people would answer "yes" to that question. But, according to Becky Blalock, author and former Fortune 500 executive, anyone can learn to be more confident. And it's a skill we can teach ourselves. Begin by forgetting the notion that confidence, leadership, and public speaking are abilities people are born with. In fact, research shows that being shy and cautious is the natural human state. How do you teach yourself to be more confident? 1. The average human has 65,000 thoughts every day, Blalock says, and 85 to 90 percent of them are negative--things to worry about or fear. The point is to be aware that your brain works this way, and keep that negativity in proportion. 2.
"There are so many people that I've asked, 'What do you want to do? 3. Begin the day by thinking about some of the things you have to be grateful for, Blalock advises. 4. There's a funny thing about comfort zones. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. Like this post? Bad Habits That Made Me A Terrible Boss. It's no secret.
I've written many times about the mistakes of my youth. No, not the perm I had when I was a teenager or the time I jumped off a bridge into carp-infested waters. I'm talking about my early days as a middle manager just out of college, working as a shift manager in a shoe store when I was barely old enough to be legally married. You can read all about my issues on my personal blog, byjohnbrandon.com, but suffice it to say: I learned a few things about how to be a terrible leader. By the time I "graduated" to a larger company working as a writing manager with a large team in an IT department, I had put most of my bad habits to rest. 1.
I had this mixed up view of communication: I wanted my project leads to give me regular status updates and send routine emails. 2. I'm not sure why I had this bad habit, and it's the hallmark of a terrible boss. 3. When I worked at a small software startup years ago, I had this cocky attitude about conflict. 4. 5. 6. 7.
What about you? 19 Hard Things You Need To Do To Be Successful « The Luthas Corporation. My goal is for all of us to be happy, successful and grow together.. you can find much more daily motivational material like this here: My InstaGram page: @DameLuthas Twitter: @DameLuthas Enjoy the list below ;-) You have to do the hard things.
You have to do the hard things. Those are the things that define you. The hard things are the easiest things to avoid. The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do. Do the hard things. Source Article: Like this: Like Loading... Categories: Strategies Tags: Success. How to retain 90% of everything you learn. Imagine if you had a bucket of water.
And every time you attempted to fill the bucket, 90% of the water would leak out instantly. Every time, all you’d retain was a measly 10%. How many times would you keep filling the bucket? The answer is simple: just once. The first time you noticed the leak, you’d take action You’d either fix the bucket or you’d get another bucket, wouldn’t you? Yet that’s not at all the way we learn. That weird thing is that you’re wasting time. To summarize the numbers (which sometimes get cited differently) learners retain approximately: 90% of what they learn when they teach someone else/use immediately. 75% of what they learn when they practice what they learned. 50% of what they learn when engaged in a group discussion. 30% of what they learn when they see a demonstration. 20% of what they learn from audio-visual. 10% of what they learn when they’ve learned from reading. 5% of what they learn when they’ve learned from lecture. 5000bc now has a Waiting List.
15 Reasons You Need To Start Singing Every Minute Of Every Day. The trick to multitasking better. If there’s one thing we all have in common, it’s doing more with less—and that has turned everybody into a multitasker.
But doing too many things at once can leave us doing nothing particularly well, as researchers have proven and millions of ordinary people have discovered on their own. Robert Sutton, management professor at Stanford University and co-author of Scaling Up Excellence: Getting to More Without Settling for Less, calls this “the problem of more.” “As job responsibilities grow, as organizations grow, all this stuff comes down on us,” Sutton--who also wrote the bestsellers Good Boss, Bad Boss and The No Asshole Rule--tells me in the video above. “The more cognitive overload we have, the dumber we get and the worse we do everything.” In Scaling Up Excellence, Sutton and his co-author Huggy Rao, also a Stanford professor, describe how leaders can tap the qualities found in the most effective parts of their organization and spread them to every other division.
Pamela Meyer: How to spot a liar. How to Tell if Someone's Lying. Steve Van Aperen has worked on more than 50 serial-killer investigations as a behavioral interviewer, and trains people across the globe in detecting deception.
He says there are three surefire ways to tell if someone is lying. WATCH: How 'SVU' Made Danny Pino a Better Parent The first thing to look for is, "Are they answering the question, or are they deliberately being evasive or dismissive? " Steve says, "A truthful person will give a clear-cut direct answer," while a deceptive person will object, saying something like "Why would I do that? " The second red flag: Deceptive people will talk in different tenses. WATCH: Mariska Hargitay on What's Next for Olivia Benson Finally, "Look for conflict or contradiction between what a person says and their body language, in fact, shows. " To find out the difference between lies men and women tell (and who lies more) and learn about Steve's app Tracker Assist, check out this episode of "Daily Shot.
The Human Body's Talents. The Best Way to Win an Argument? Be Confident. The secret to winning an argument?
Be loud. It makes you seem more confident. (Photo: Getty Images) When it comes to winning an argument , simply being right isn't enough. According to a pair of graduate students at Washington State University, the best way to win is by out-shouting your opponent. Also on Shine: Tricks to Win Any Argument Well, you don't actually have to raise your voice. Also on Shine: 17 Easy Confidence Builders Jadrian Wooten and Ben Smith sifted through more than 1 billion tweets predicting the winners and losers of the 2012 baseball playoffs, the 2012 World Series, and the 2013 Super Bowl to see whether there was a connection between confidence, accuracy, and popularity among pundits.
"In a perfect world, you want to be accurate and confident," Wooten told WSUNews . "They’re trading away some of their accuracy to be a Jim Cramer ,” the loud-mouthed former hedge fund manager who is the host of CNBC's "Mad Money," says Wooten. Also on Shine: What Science Says About Successful Bosses. Over the past year, I've been writing a book about the future of sales and marketing with Howard Stevens, chairman of the leadership assessment firm Chally.
As part of a decades-long research project, Chally has gathered extensive personality data about 150,000 salespeople, including 9,000 sales managers. Last week, I had a conversation with Howard where he described the results of a statistical analysis on the cumulative data on sales managers. While the data set is specific to sales, I believe that personality traits that emerged apply to any management position.
According to the success vs. failure statistics that Howard shared with me, successful bosses tend to be: 1. Failed bosses defined their role as some form of telling people what to do. Successful bosses put themselves and their own egos into the background. 2. Failed bosses couldn't tolerate change themselves and so found it nearly impossible to get their employees to embrace necessary change. 3. 4. 5. 6. Read More. Six Things to Keep in Your Wallet. Eight Products the Facebook Generation Will Not Buy. Consumer tastes are changing at a greater rate than ever before.
Not surprisingly, the purchasing habits of the youngest generation present the most dramatic shifts — a reflection of what they find important. 24/7 Wall St. has identified eight popular products that the “Facebook generation” is not buying. Generation Y, generally defined as those born between 1980 and 1999, have lost interest in many of the services and products their parents found important. For example, younger Americans are less interested in cars. In 1998, 64.4% of potential drivers 19-years old and younger had drivers licenses.
By 2008, that rate had dropped to 46.3%, according to the Federal Highway Administration. [More from 24/7 Wall St.: America’s Nine Most Damaged Brands] What young adults care about has shifted. However, many products that have declined in popularity among the youth are more a result of the changing tastes across all ages than a generational shift. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. USA Memory Championships competitors provide tips for remembering the stuff we always forget. The event includes memorizing 99 names, a shuffled deck of cards, a poem, and a list of 500 words. We'll find our keys. Memory competitor Mike Mirski (AP Photo/Alex Brandon) We forget. Every day, we forget. We forget names, numbers, dates, where we left our keys, even what we were thinking a few seconds before. These people can help. They are athletes of a sort.
[Related: More Eric Adelson features] Here are some of the best: • Exercise: Seriously. "If you have a healthy body, you'd better have a healthy mind," says Memory Championships founder Tony Dottino. Top competitor Paul Mellor, 53, has run a marathon in all 50 states. . • Wild Imagery: If there's something you're likely to forget, imagine an action you wouldn't normally do. Mellor does this when he goes shopping. Take the number 207-4563. If that seems too complex, divide up digits into jersey numbers.
"I know these sound totally arbitrary," Dellis says, "but when I see numbers I instantly see pictures and make stories out of them. " Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are. Nitin Nohria, Practicing Moral Humility. Larry Smith: Why you will fail to have a great career. Tali Sharot: The optimism bias. Steve Jobs: How to live before you die. The ten habits of remarkably charismatic people. Some people instantly make us feel important. Some people instantly make us feel special. Some people light up a room just by walking in.
We can't always define it, but some people have it: They're naturally charismatic. Unfortunately, natural charisma quickly loses its impact. Familiarity breeds, well, familiarity. But some people are remarkably charismatic: They build and maintain great relationships, consistently influence (in a good way) the people around them, consistently make people feel better about themselves--they're the kind of people everyone wants to be around...and wants to be. Fortunately we can, because being remarkably charismatic isn't about our level of success or our presentation skills or how we dress or the image we project--it's about what we do.
Here are the 10 habits of remarkably charismatic people:1. Ask questions. That's all it takes to show the other person they're important. Then when you do speak, don't offer advice unless you're asked. Don't believe me? 2. 3. HABITS. So Real: No Fear In The Now! From my files: Mistakes. I haven’t shared any favorite quotes here in awhile. Today’s selection comes from my file on Mistakes. I hope they inspire and encourage you. And if you want to keep them for future reference, try my filing system to record them. You miss 100% of the shots you never take. –Wayne Gretzky The fellow who never makes a mistake takes his orders from someone who does. Most of my advances were by mistake. The greatest of faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none. All discoveries in art and science result from an accumulation of errors. Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new. Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience.
The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one. How does today impact tomorrow’s success? People Who Worked Incredibly Hard to Succeed. What successful people do in the morning. 10 Ways to Appear More Authoritative at Work. T. Boone Pickens: Let's transform energy. 10 Things to Leave Off Your Resume. Being a Good Houseguest.
10 Reasons You're Not the Boss. Jonathan Foley: The other inconvenient truth. Dan Ariely: Beware conflicts of interest. Rory Sutherland: Perspective is everything. Susan Cain: The power of introverts. Barry Schwartz: Using our practical wisdom. Top 10 Ways To Become An Evolved Man. 12 Tips For Becoming Charismatic & Unforgettable. Peter Diamandis: Abundance is our future. Simon Sinek: How great leaders inspire action.