Being an Ally versus Being a Nice Person. Harmful Communication, Part One: Intent Is Magic. [Trigger warning for harmful language, emotional manipulation, rape culture.]
This is the first post in a series about language. Specifically, harmful language. We talk about physical and emotional abuse a lot in this space, and, to some extent, we also talk about abusive language: Under the "this shit doesn't happen in a void" refrain, I've frequently addressed hate speech, and we acknowledge that bullying is abusive even without any physical violence. We also recognize, in discussions of rape culture and in conversations about institutional oppressions, that systemic harm is not limited to physical violence, but additionally manifests as harmful language in the form of rape jokes or slurs or violent rhetoric, as examples. Ferguson and Community Trauma: Defining Peace For Ourselves. “There’s blood on many hands tonight — those that incited violence on the street under the guise of protests, that tried to tear down what New York City police officers did every day,” the head of the Patrolmen’s Benevolent Association, Patrick Lynch, said after two NYPD police officers died at the hands of gunman Ismaaiyl Brinsley.
For police forces across the United States, which exist as emblems of institutionalized violence and white supremacy, the blood of slain officers comes as a surprise. Police officers aren’t supposed to suffer; they are instead promised glory for fulfilling America’s agenda to exterminate and destroy. There truly is blood on many hands tonight and many nights past and future; but, for many of us people of color, we are born in bloodshed and will continue to shed blood for a country that depends on our death for its life.
Violence is a fact of life for far too many marginalized peoples, especially for queer and trans people of color. Community Trauma. “I’m not like the other girls.” This post comes from two things: 1) A quote I saw making the Tumblr rounds, which said, “I’m not like other girls!”
It went on to avow wearing Converse instead of heels, preferring computer games to shopping, so on and so forth. When I saw it, about 41,000 girls had said they weren’t like “the others.” 2) A few weeks ago, I posted a comment on Twitter saying that, if the internet had been around in 1980 (the year “Empire Strikes Back” came out), we’d all be Team Luke or Team Han. Some guy took it upon himself to inform me – to explain to me, like I was not alive and aware during that year – that “girls didn’t like Star Wars.” A Response to ‘Women Against Feminism.’ Imagine this: The year is 2014.
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What Women Want To Say (Versus How Society Would Like Them To Say It) It seems that any time a woman expresses a thought in a public space, it’s taken as a political statement.
Women are attacked in comments sections and expected to speak for each other in everything they say. Share a personal experience, and some group will fly at you for making them feel excluded. Say something that implicates an imbalance with men, and watch men take it personally, cry about their own troubles, and tell us how we should express things to make sure we’re much less abrasive. If the silencers had it their way, our thoughts and opinions would be diluted to the point where they’re barely recognizable anymore.
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There are books that are difficult for some people, and easy for others. Julie Falk/Flickr What's the most difficult book you've ever read? 201 : ShitRedditSays. » How to be a fan of problematic things Social Justice League. I like things, and some of those things are problematic. I like Lord of the Rings even though it’s pretty fucked up with regard to women and race (any narrative that says “this whole race is evil” is fucked up, okay).
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"Since this community was created, individuals have been invading this space to post hateful, racist messages and links to racist content, which are visible until a moderator individually removes the content and manually bans the user account," the message said. "reddit admins have explained to us that as long as users are not breaking sitewide rules, they will take no action," the letter added. Therein lies the issue. Push(back) at the Intersections: How About Some -isms with Your Feminism? What do Mary Daly, Margaret Sanger, Nellie McClung, Martha Griffiths, Gloria Steinem, Geraldine Ferraro, Julie Bindel, Robin Morgan, Germaine Greer, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Janice Raymond, Sheila Jeffreys, and Beth Elliott have in common?
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