Finally Free: The Courage to Be Me | Narcissist, Sociopath, and Psychopath Abuse Recovery. Published on 10-28-2013 08:48 AM In the dark days past the final discard by the psychopath, and No Contact becomes a way of Life, a new person is emerging. A new sense of self is realized as Cognitive Dissonance dissipates. In the place of all the negativity, the real me is forming through a positive affirmation that I am finally free. After months of chaos caused by the psychopath, this new sense of self is the realization of personal growth. The stages of grief have been executed, and as a result of the new self, one great gift has been given.
In a psychopathic relationship, I felt the red flags. I did not see them. Self Forgiveness Meditation I forgive myself for overlooking the red flags in the relationship. Through discovering personal empowerment by recognizing my baby steps by becoming one huge step of knowledge and enlightenment, personal acceptance gains slow ground. Finding a Way Out of the Darkness Through EMDR Therapy | Narcissist, Sociopath, and Psychopath Abuse Recovery. My Experience with PTSD Excruciating emotional pain. Numbness. Loss of appetite. Sleepless nights. Obsessive thoughts. Inability to concentrate. All of the above will probably sound familiar to those of us who have been devalued and discarded by psychopaths. What I did not realize until I had suffered for at least a month was that these were symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)! EMDR Therapy: What’s That?! Looking back, I am struck by how fortunate I was to find my current therapist, given the way in which I stumbled across her.
During the first appointment, she simply listened to me. When she told me that she planned to use the EMDR approach with me, I was very skeptical. My counselor and her commitment to EMDR represent an enormous light for me that I began to follow as I struggled to make my way out of the darkness. EMDR: How It Works Finding a Therapist I am sharing my experience with EMDR because it has literally changed my life. To learn more about EMDR: Psychopathyawareness's Blog | information about psychopaths. Why Does it Take So Long to Get Over a Relationship with a Psychopath? | Narcissist, Sociopath, and Psychopath Abuse Recovery. After Narcissistic Abuse | There is Light, Life, Love & Laughter. Lovefraud.com – sociopaths, psychopaths, antisocials, con artists, bigamists. Understanding How Sociopaths Think: Why It is Good to Ask Why | Narcissist, Sociopath, and Psychopath Abuse Recovery. So often during this recovery process, I have been told by others—those who have been targeted by sociopaths and those who have not—that it does not matter why the sociopath did what he did.
Focus on you, they said. Figure out why you were vulnerable and what kind of behavior patterns you need to change. It does not matter why the sociopath lied to/cheated on/manipulated you, they said. Focus on YOU! Although they meant well, their words did not help me. It is absolutely important and necessary to be introspective and learn everything we can about ourselves as we try to crawl our way out of the darkness. We can find the answers to these WHY questions by understanding how, exactly, sociopaths operate. Sociopaths lack a conscience Sociopaths know the intellectual difference between right and wrong. Sociopaths feel a limited range of human emotions Sociopaths are emotionally crippled. For further reading on the topic, please follow this link: Narcissist Recovery | Narcissist Relationship. 3 Verbal Abuse Examples: 1. Circular conversations You’ll think you worked something out, only to begin discussing it again in two minutes. And it’s as if you never even said a word the first time around.
They begin reciting all of the same tired garbage, ignoring any legitimate arguments you may have provided moments ago. If something is going to be resolved, it will be on their terms. With narcissists, the same issues will come up over and over again—why are they so friendly with their ex again? 2. If you point out something nasty they’re doing—like ignoring you or cheating—they’ll mention something totally unrelated from the past that you’ve done wrong. 3. The entire conversation will have this calm, cool demeanor.
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