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The Half-Your-Age-Plus-Seven Rule: Does It Really Work? What is the acceptable minimum age for your own (and others’) dating partners? When this question comes up in conversation, someone inevitably recites the “half your age plus seven” rule (detailed here). This rules states that by dividing your own age by two and then adding seven you can find the socially-acceptable minimum age of anyone you want to date. So if you’re a 24 year-old, you can feel free to be with anyone who is at least 19 (i.e., 12 + 7) but not someone who is 18.1 The lesser-applied other side of the rule defines a maximum age boundary.

Take your age, minus 7, and double it. A Chart of the Rule's Max and Min Partner Age Discrepancies Based on a Person's Actual Age The utility of this equation is that it lets you chart acceptable age discrepancies that adjust over the years. But how legit is this rule? How well does the rule reflect scientific evidence for age preferences? Figure 1: Male Participants' Minimum Preferred Partner Age as Compared to the Rule End Notes 1. Interview: Allie Brosh, Author Of 'Hyperbole And A Half' Courtesy Touchstone Books Allie Brosh's humorous, autobiographical blog, Hyperbole and a Half, has a huge following. In 2011, an editor of PC World included it in a list of the funniest sites on the Internet, and this year, Advertising Age included Brosh in its annual list of the year's most influential and creative thinkers and doers.

That's pretty amazing considering that, as Brosh describes it, she lives like a recluse in her Bend, Ore., bedroom, where she writes stories about her life and illustrates them with brightly colored, intentionally crude drawings. Most of the stories are funny, whether they're about her dog's behavior problems or her favorite grammatical pet peeve — "a lot" written as "alot. " Brosh talks with Fresh Air's Terry Gross about drawing with a "very precise crudeness," and her struggle to cope with depression.

Interview Highlights On her writing style I would describe it as stand-up comedy in book form. On how she draws herself It's me on the inside. Sarah Henderson. Covert incest. The term covert incest (also known as emotional incest or psychic incest) is used by some mental health professionals to describe a relationship between parents and children that is sexualized and expects a child to fulfill adult emotional roles, though without actual incest. Proponents of the concept describe the relationships as harmful and one-sided, and similar to a relationship between adult sexual partners, but without the type of physical contact that would be considered child sexual abuse. Its effects are described as similar to, though less severe than, that of actual incest. The concept has been criticized as an overly broad set of criteria that excessively expands the definition of child sexual abuse. Description[edit] Criticisms[edit] Critics of covert incest have claimed that the concept dramatically loosens the definition of incest, making child abuse seem more prevalent than it actually is.[11][15][16] See also[edit] References[edit] ^ Jump up to: a b c Jacobson M (2001).

Why You Never Truly Leave High School. Throughout high school, my friend Kenji had never once spoken to the Glassmans. They were a popular, football-­playing, preposterously handsome set of identical twins (every high school must have its Winklevii). Kenji was a closeted, half-Japanese orchestra nerd who kept mainly to himself and graduated first in our class. Yet last fall, as our 25th high-school reunion was winding down, Kenji grabbed Josh Glassman by his triceps—still Popeye spinach cans, and the subject of much Facebook discussion afterward—and asked where the after-party was. He was only half-joking. Psychologically speaking, Kenji carries a passport to pretty much anywhere now. The party was fine. You’d think Kenji’s underwhelmed reaction would have been reassuring. “Well, right,” said Kenji. “And maybe the way life is, still, sometimes,” said Larry. Not everyone feels the sustained, melancholic presence of a high-school shadow self.

To most human beings, the significance of the adolescent years is pretty intuitive. Why Americans Are the Weirdest People in the World. Mature – Freedom – Person? — Osho Online Library. A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone, they are together so much so that they are almost one.

Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Remember, freedom is a higher value than love. So anything that becomes destructive to freedom, one starts hating it. Love, to be really love, has to be being-love, gift-love. How can you give something which you don’t have? 22 Things Happy People Do Differently | Successify! This article is from Chiara Fucarino. Enjoy! Disclaimer: This article is not intended to address those with clinical depression or other mental illnesses. There are two types of people in the world: those who choose to be happy, and those who choose to be unhappy. Contrary to popular belief, happiness doesn’t come from fame, fortune, other people, or material possessions.

The question is: how do they do that? It’s quite simple. 1. Happy people understand that it’s better to forgive and forget than to let their negative feelings crowd out their positive feelings. 2. Did you know that it has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier? 3. The word “problem” is never part of a happy person’s vocabulary. 4. There’s a popular saying that goes something like this: “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.” 5. 6.

Happy people ask themselves, “Will this problem matter a year from now?” 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. What our sleeping habits say about our love lives. 80% of Britons are too tired to kiss their partner goodnight at bedtime90% do not say 'I love you' before drifting to sleep46% turn their back on their partners as soon as they get in to bedBut it is sleeping positions that really reveal what is going on in relationships By Toni Jones Published: 11:17 GMT, 12 October 2012 | Updated: 14:38 GMT, 12 October 2012 What happens in your bedroom when the lights go out? If a new survey is to be believed, the answer is not much. As a nation we are becoming a loveless lot, turning our backs on our partners as soon as we settle down, not bothering to kiss each other good night or say I love you and in 25 per cent of cases hoping that our partners don't even touch us as we try and drift to sleep.

But despite our efforts to ward off intimacy as we are trying to fall asleep, psychologists say it is the positions we take up when actually deep in sleep that reveal how we really feel about each other. The research highlighted a new trend for sleeping apart. Throw Away Your Vision Board. Vision or Dream boards have achieved notoriety in the past few years with the release of the book, An endorsement from Oprah also didn’t hurt. Vision boards are based on the Law of Attraction. The idea that your mode of thinking directly affects what the universe gives you. If you put positive mental energy into the universe, you’ll be the recipient of positive outcomes. The Law of Attraction is not new. Before , there was the book, Creative Visualization which described the same phenomenon. As classically taught, the Law of Attraction is universal and as such, always works if you do it correctly. Creating your own vision board is considered the key to success. Here’s my take on Vision Boards.

Cutting out pictures and writing down positive affirmations may be beneficial to some; in particular, helping us organize and more clearly delineate our goals. The evidence: (Pham and Taylor). . . (Oettingen). Here are some thoughts: 3) The universe may have other plans. Action vs Dreaming. Personality types.

TypeLogic Home Page. The Personality Page. Ganzfeld hallucinations. The cognitive science journal Cortex has just released a special issue on the neuropsychology of paranormal experiences and belief, and contains a fantastic article on hallucinations induced by the Ganzfeld procedure. The Ganzfeld procedure exposes the participant to ‘unstructured’ sensations usually by placing half ping-pong balls over the eyes so they can only see diffuse white light and by playing white noise through headphones.

It is probably best known for its uses in parapsychology experiments, but it is also used to induce hallucinations and sensory distortions which are much more likely to occur in the absence of clearly defined sensory experiences. The article reviews the sorts of hallucinations reported in during these experiments and discusses what electrophysiology (EEG or ‘brain wave’) studies tell us about what happens in the cortex when these perceptual distortions kick off. Some of the descriptions of hallucinations are really quite striking: Link to Cortex special issue. Sandra Bem. Sandra Ruth Lipsitz Bem is an American psychologist known for her works in androgyny and gender studies. She was born June 22, 1944 in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania to Peter and Lillian Lipsitz. She grew up in a "working class" family. Sandra had one younger sister named Beverly. Both of Sandra’s parents worked all throughout her life so she grew up with the assumption that she would always be working.

Her mother instilled great morals in her daughter and encouraged her to be the absolute best that she could be, and that “being just a housewife was not very desirable” (Makosky, 1990, p. 30). Personal life[edit] Sandra was raised by her Jewish "working class" parents in a government-subsidized neighborhood for the first eight years of her life. Education and career[edit] Bem attended Margaret Morrison Carnegie College, now known as Carnegie-Mellon University,[2] (1961-1965) and majored in psychology. Influences on the field of psychology[edit] Works[edit] Bem, Sandra L. (1974). References[edit] Bem Sex-Role Inventory. The Bem Sex-Role Inventory (BSRI) is a measure of masculinity-femininity and gender roles. It assesses how people identify themselves psychologically. Bem's goal of the BSRI was to examine psychological androgyny and provide empirical evidence to show the advantage of a shared masculine and feminine personality versus a sex-typed categorization.[1] The test is formatted with 60 different personality traits which participants rate themselves based on a 7 point Likert scale.

Traits are evenly dispersed, 20 masculine, 20 feminine, and 20 filler traits thought to be gender neutral.[2] All traits in the BSRI are positively valued personality aspects.[3] Numerous past studies have found that gender categorizations are correlated with many stereotypical gendered behaviors.[2] History[edit] "In the field of psychology, much research is conducted involving individuals' perceptions of gender roles, and behavioral as well as attitudinal correlates.

Scoring and interpretation[edit] The BSRI Test with JavaScript scoring. Daryl Bem. Early life and education[edit] Bem received a B.A. in physics from Reed College in Portland, Oregon in 1960 and began graduate work in physics at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. The civil rights movement had just begun, and he became so intrigued with the changing attitudes toward desegregation in the American South that he decided to switch fields and pursue a career as a social psychologist specializing in attitudes and public opinion.

He obtained his Ph.D. in social psychology from the University of Michigan in 1964.[2] Career[edit] Bem taught at Carnegie-Mellon University, Stanford, Harvard, and Cornell University. He testified before a subcommittee of the United States Senate on the psychological effects of police interrogation[4] and served as an expert witness in court cases involving sex discrimination.[2] Bem speaks at the 1983 CSICOP Conference in Buffalo, NY. Self-perception theory[edit] Exotic Becomes Erotic theory[edit] Ganzfeld experiment[edit] Family Life[edit] Is Everyone on the Autism Spectrum? “Is every man in America somewhere on it?”

Nora Ephron wondered about the autism spectrum in an e-mail to a friend a few months before her death. “Is every producer on it? Is every 8-year-old boy who is obsessed with statistics on it? Sometimes, when we say someone is on the spectrum, do we just mean he’s a prick? Ephron was hardly alone. Meanwhile, out on the Great Plains, one Dennis Stillings, writing in the Bismarck-based Dakota Beacon about Barack Obama, has adduced such telltale evidence as his “legendary clumsiness … He has actually bowled a 37,” “verbal glitches—possibly the reason for the ever-present teleprompters,” and “infamous inability to relate” to arrive at a boldly contrarian thesis: “Obama may well not be narcissistic at all, but simply manifesting a typical feature of autism.” The diagnosis is everywhere: Facebook’s former head of engineering has stated that Mark Zuckerberg has “a touch of the Asperger’s.”

Still others are seeing it in themselves. What is happening? Serial Cheaters - Narcissists. @brokenopen, I completely empathise with you. I have been involved with a serial cheater, who is very narcissistic..I have only just gotten to realise this, and see through the wool he pulled over my eyes..He told me he was single, and that he shared a flat with a little 'flatmate' whom he has known for 20 years, and who helped him when his marriage (one of 2) ended. It later came to light, that he was her partner (most would not be so naive to be fooled by this!). He started supplying me with clothes and scent, which I later discovered were her rejects. Bettany.