Mike Bundrant
Co-founder of the iNLP Center. Blogger, creative writer, and disruptive strategist.
Body Compensation and Pain. Glutathione and Lung Health. Yoga Beneficial for Kids. What is NLP Reframing and How Do you Reframe Complaints? Tame the DMN Student Response. Life Coaching Client Statement of Purpose. Lazy and Unmotivated: Client Example. Trust Issues Case Study. 9 Steps to Healing Your Inner Child. Why Do Men Lie? The Short and Long of It - Thor's Hearth. Why do men lie… The short answer: Men don’t lie.
Boys do. Still, you might be inclined to call some of these overgrown boys ‘men’ because they are big and hairy. Fine. Call them men, but realize you are dealing with the mentality of a child. Because they are afraid to be discovered for who they are (which includes what they’re up to). Some men believe their lies as much as they want you to believe them. (Image credit to Gecko and Fly) If you want to know why a particular man lies, then start with a different question: Who are you, really?
Of course, this is a vague and difficult question to answer, even for a mature, self-aware person. How do you really feel about….? Answers to these more specific kinds of questions reveal what’s behind the facade and get to the heart of why men lie – what they’re hiding. Not being able to handle childish fears prevents them from dealing with: Men lie because they can’t deal with the limitations and consequences of reality, just like toddlers. No. About Those Men Who Use NLP to Manipulate Women - Thor's Hearth.
They’re cowards, not men.
According to the iNLP Center, NLP or neuro-linguistic programming is a set of skills used by coaches, consultants, and therapists to help people overcome obstacles and get what they want. NLP is a very useful set of communication skills, revealing patterns and nuances in our non-verbal communication that happen to be powerful influencers. It’s great stuff. Because NLP is primarily focused on non-conscious communication, it’s power to influence often goes undetected by casual observers. Enter the NLP-trained men who use NLP communication skills to get women to give them what they want – mostly sex. How Mindful Meditation can Benefit Everyone. Neuro-Linguistic Programming: Deserving Criticism?
Why has the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) been so widely criticized by professionals and lay people around the world?
What can NLP trainers and practitioners do about it? After 25 years practicing as a clinician, NLP and life coach trainer, here are my conclusions and top suggestions for NLP trainers and practitioners who must deal with criticism and stigma in the field of NLP. But first, let me say this…. In my lifetime, I don’t know that I’ve witnessed a greater ‘tragedy of opportunity’ for psychological science and related fields. When Neuro-Linguistic Programming is dismissed out of hand, it’s an epic loss for the body of knowledge that is modern psychology. After all, Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a universally adaptable and intellectually sophisticated field of practice.
Is the criticism deserved? Let's look at how (in my opinion only) this all came about. Here are four reasons why Neuro-Linguistic Programming has been widely criticized. 1. Think about it. Got it? 2. 3. Self-Sabotage Erupts in the Form of Food by inlpcenter on DeviantArt. Why we choke: a fresh perspective. Underperforming when it counts or choking is one of those frustrating problems we'd do well to redefine.
Choking is not well understood. How can you perform something to near perfection in practice, then somehow screw up when it matters most? Typical explanations, once analyzed, don't hold up. Here are some examples of conventional wisdom: The pressure was on. Yes, and that would be the most logical time to do well. It was a fluke. This could be true, of course. I just seized up. This may be the most commonly offered and accepted explanation. Here are two separate and distinct processes from start to finish: • Kicking a ball • Nervously kicking a ball These two processes are separate and distinct from one another. Choking due to nerves could be summarized as: You planned on kicking a ball the way you have kicked it 1000 times in practice but ended up nervously kicking a ball. Afterward, you'd be tempted to think, "My nervousness caused me to mess up.
" Unconscious Influence. Role of Harvard's Disruptive Strategy Course.