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A lesson for men's rights activists on real oppression - The Drum. Updated 4 hours 58 minutes ago Any time a disparate system of power is equalised, one side must surrender some privileges - that may upset men's rights activists, but it certainly doesn't mean feminism is subjugating men, writes Clementine Ford.

A lesson for men's rights activists on real oppression - The Drum

In a couple of weeks, an 'International Conference on Men's Issues' will be held in Detroit, Michigan. 5 Things to Never Say to a Woman Who Doesn't Want Kids. May 27, 2014 | Like this article?

5 Things to Never Say to a Woman Who Doesn't Want Kids

Join our email list: Stay up to date with the latest headlines via email. This originally appeared on Everyday Feminism. Republished here with permission. Tim | Impostor Syndrome: Part 1 of 4. This is the first post in a 4-part series about impostor syndrome.

tim | Impostor Syndrome: Part 1 of 4

I'll be posting one installment per day. "Compare the best of their days With the worst of your days You won't win... " -- Morrissey I can't remember exactly when I first encountered the term "impostor syndrome", but I know I was less than ten years old at the time, and I know where I read about it: a book called The Gifted Kid's Survival Guide. Female Friendships: Hitting All the Right Notes. In a society in which female friendships are devalued, it is nice to see a movie that turns that on its head.

Female Friendships: Hitting All the Right Notes

We all need to realize that, contrary to the messages we hear, female friendships are important. Photo by lululemon athletica - Models of Sex. When I was sixteen, my boyfriend Kevin brought me a vibrator.

Models of Sex.

(His mom had bought it, which... awwwwkward, but it was her well-intentioned effort to keep me from getting pregnant by her son. It didn't stop us having intercourse, but I didn't get pregnant so it all worked out in the end.) The first time he used it, it was mind-blowing. "What's a girl doing here?" About consent, or, the legalization of women’s humanity « I Blame The Patriarchy. The Problem with consent Although this condition does not obtain with regard to any other crime you can think of, when it comes to rape, women are currently considered to exist in a state of perpetual “yes!”.

About consent, or, the legalization of women’s humanity « I Blame The Patriarchy

This is because “yes!” Is consistent with global accords governing fair use of women. The MRA Mirror. [Trigger warning.] by Shaker Sunless Nick When MRA-types can be bothered to acknowledge rape as a problem at all, they inevitably claim false accusations of rape as a comparable problem, one that happens at least as often, and one that is—unlike rape, they claim—ignored and belittled.

The MRA Mirror

For the record, that is not true. But I thought I'd look through that MRA mirror and see what would happen if false rape accusations were really "taken as seriously" as rape. What empowerment is. I'm Not A "Person With a Disability": I'm a Disabled Person. I am not a “person with a disability.”

I'm Not A "Person With a Disability": I'm a Disabled Person

I do not “have a disability.” Given that I look like this: You probably think I’m either delusional or in denial. I’m not, I just have a real problem with the phrase “person with a disability” and the notion of “having a disability.” I am disabled. On having a black name. My blog name is my grandmother's name, Daisy.

On having a black name

My real name is one that would identify me very easily, so I don't use it. But I recently realized that something is missing in my online identity. While reading about The Carnival of Allies (proposed by The Angry Black Woman), I noted that I have never had to pointedly present myself as an ally to black people (not every minority; I specifically refer to black people) because they have usually assumed that I am. Racism And Meritocracy. Editor’s note: Guest contributor Eric Ries is the author of The Lean Startup.

Racism And Meritocracy

Follow him @ericries. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you can’t have missed the recent dust-up over race and Silicon Valley. Like almost every discussion of diversity and meritocracy in this town, it turned ugly fast. One side says: “All I see is white men. Therefore, people like Michael Arrington must be racist.” A Chemical Imbalance. Sacrificing Privilege. By far one of the most challenging obstacles to building a meaningful dialogue about privilege is the extreme ease with which we’re able to take it for granted.

Quick: when was the last time you thought about proprioception? Unless you’re a neurologist, or read a lot of Oliver Sacks, the answer could very well be “never, I guess”. We don’t think about it because we’ve never gone without it. Proprioception, the sense of ownership of one’s body and the ability to know the location of different parts of it, the ability to sense its position in physical space without relying on other sensory cues, is something completely, totally innate; something we can have difficulty even imagining living without. Nerds and Male Privilege. Latia I. Am - An Observation At Charlotte Russe. Gawker's Violentacrez Expose And How 'Buffy The Vampire Slayer' Predicted Geek Misogyny. By Alyssa Rosenberg on October 15, 2012 at 10:33 am "Gawker’s Violentacrez Expose And How ‘Buffy The Vampire Slayer’ Predicted Geek Misogyny" On Friday afternoon, Gawker published a long profile of a Reddit moderator who went by Violentacrez.

A Texas programmer in real life, Violentacrez has helped shape Reddit’s norms, mentoring and writing documentation for moderators, scrubbing the site for patently illegal content, but also helping establish some of its most distasteful subsections, some openly racist, and others devoted to posting and discussion of sexualized images of very young women taken or republished without their consent. 'Back Home': Female veterans often find unwelcoming system, insensitive treatment. Editor’s note: This report is part of a project on post-9/11 veterans in America produced by the Carnegie-Knight News21 program.

Sixth in a series of articles. The fight to feel like a veteran weighs substantially on female soldiers returning from war, though their numbers have been historic, with more than 280,000 returning from deployments in Iraq and Afghanistan in the last decade. A News21 demographic analysis shows that 17.4 percent of post-9/11 Iraq and Afghanistan war veterans are women. Feminism 101. Rape Culture 101 can be found here. On Divorcing Slurs from Their Contexts: There are men (and women) who would swear up, down, and backwards that they're not homophobic, and may even genuinely be supportive of full LGBTQ equality, but nonetheless continue to use the word fag to malign other men—or use "gay" as a negative descriptor.

They just like the words. Some Thoughts on “Crazy Women” A post on HuffPo Women from a few months ago is making the rounds again. Author Yashar Ali’s article A Message to Women From a Man: You Are Not “Crazy” makes some excellent points on the ways that some men use accusations of craziness to control women: My friend Anna (all names changed to protect privacy) is married to a man who feels it necessary to make random and unprompted comments about her weight. Whenever she gets upset or frustrated with his insensitive comments, he responds in the same, defeating way, “You’re so sensitive. I’m just joking.” Rape Culture 101. Roma women in Europe: the silenced, underreported gender oppression. Human Rights Issues in Serbia and Hungary. Sanguinity, raptorific: Okay, so imagine there’s a doctor.... How White LGBTQ People Can Be More Inclusive of People of Color. Trans Women Carmen Carrera and Laverne Cox Respond Flawlessly To Katie Couric's Bigoted Questions | Socialism Art Nature.

Is love universal? : Popular Romance Project. True Blood: The Vampire as A Multiracial Critique on Multicultural Pluralism (Nicole Rabin) Where Does Validation Come From?