Cassandra Phenomenon - Through a glass darkly. It's what I have, what a lot of people have who share their life with an Aspergers Partner.
It's not something I'm proud of having. I mean I'm a psychology person so you'd think I'd know how not to get something like this, but I didn't. It crept up on me whilst I was trying to hold my head above the water, dealing with the day to day problems with Aspergers. Effects of differing neuro devt levels on nt asd adult relationships english. Asperger's Syndrome Wives Need Understanding. Stunning Example of Lack of Empathy @ Heartless Aspergers. Autism activists vehemently deny that people close to them suffer significant trauma from their lack of empathy, just as they deny that they lack empathy.
The truth is that spouses, partners, children and siblings of individuals who have social disorders such as Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) and high functioning autism (Hfa) suffer significantly. They are subject to chronic, repetitive psychological trauma within the context of their relationships with persons with AS. This is a normal stress reaction to the ongoing abnormal interactions within these relationships. This stress reaction has been named Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Syndrome (OTRS), AKA Cassandra Phenomenon (CP). Cassandra Syndrome : I My Spouse Or Partner Has Asperger's Syndrome Story. I was an emotional wreck when I met him, I was 25 and divorced with an 18 mo daughter.
He represented the security I longed for. He was the strong silent type, good-looking, the perfect husband. So what if he was a little cold and distant? I figured this was the price of security. Emotional guys are losers, right? Cassandra and the Aspie: Marriage and Asperger’s Syndrome. I’m trying to finish a post on Russian painting, but it seems stuck.
In the meantime, I wanted to write about this … According to widely-quoted statistics, somewhere between 1 in a 100 and 1 in a 250 people have Asperger’s Syndrome. A recent, as yet unpublished, piece of research at Cambridge University puts the figure at 1 in 58*. Asperger’s Syndrome is sometimes otherwise called “high functioning autism” – those with Asperger’s Syndrome (often called “Aspies”, just as the syndrome is shortened to “Asperger’s”) do not show the same developmental indications as those with full-blown autism and, almost by definition, have an intelligence well above average if measured using the traditional IQ scale.
ASPIE STRATEGY: ASPERGER'S AND PARTNERS: THE 98 PERCENTER. Asperger’s and Marriage. Lessons from an Aspergers-NT Marriage As a woman with Asperger’s Syndrome who’s been married to a neurotypical partner for 25 years, I’ve found some surprising benefits to an aspie-NT partnership.
I’ve also encountered some serious challenges. This series summarizes 12 lessons that my husband and I have learned (often the hard way). Aspie-NT Marriage - Autism Asperger's Digest Autism Asperger's Digest. She says we “don’t connect”/”have intimacy.”
I have no clue what she means by these wordsI thought she knew my quirks/eccentricities/nuances/differences and accepted them. Now all she brings up is how I need to change and how terrible of a person I amShe says, “Why can’t you do this or that like so and so’s spouse?” I feel nagged/bullied/criticizedI wonder why bother trying, nothing is rightHow can a couple, who seemingly fell for each other based on the other’s Aspie or NT traits, now feel so differently about those same traits? One of the first things I address is that NT’s enter a marriage with expectations of an NT-NT marriage.
When the wife hears about Asperger’s, she may first feel elated that “this was not in her head” or that “I’ve tried everything and thought it was all me.” AANE - Asperger Marriage: Viewing Partnerships thru a Different Lens. Asperger Marriage: Viewing Partnerships thru a Different Lens By Grace Myhill, LICSW and Dania Jekel, MSW The excerpts below focus on interventions and suggestions for relationships in which a man with Asperger Syndrome (AS) is partnered with a woman who does not have AS (or a non-AS woman).
The article in its entirety may be found on the AANE website or at NASWMA.org. AANE - Marriage with Asperger’s Syndrome: 14 Practical Strategies. Marriage with Asperger's Syndrome: 14 Practical Strategies By Eva Mendes, M.A., Psychotherapist & Couple's Counselor The excerpts below focus on interventions for relationships in which an individual with Asperger Syndrome (AS) is partnered with a spouse or partner who does not have AS (a neurotypical).
The article in its entirety may be found at www.evmendes.com. The Asperger's Association of New England (AANE) has been offering the Partner/Spouse Support Groups and the Couples' Support Groups for about ten years. Research studies. The Most Toxic Pattern in Any Relationship. What Everybody Ought to Know About Aspergers and Marriage. How An Asperger Syndrome Diagnosis Saved My Marriage. It was my wife Kristen, a speech therapist who had worked with autistic children, who was most suspicious about my behavior.
After we were married and living together, she started noticing little “things” about me that were consistent with Asperger Syndrome, a mild form of autism: impaired social reasoning; persistent, intense preoccupations with certain interests; unusual rituals and behaviors; and clinical-strength egocentricity. Oh, and my thumbs look like toes, so I’m, like, a total catch. At that time, things were not going well between us. Though we had been best friends since high school, our relationship had been reduced to little more than delicate coexistence.