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Polyamory: Dating a Couple. With grateful acknowledgement to JennyOften in poly relationships, one person may be dating or considering dating another person who is already part of an existing couple.

Polyamory: Dating a Couple

Sometimes, one person may be considering dating both members of an existing couple. It's quite common for polyamorous people to begin new relationships while already in a relationship; this is, after all, the nature of polyamory.If you're considering dating someone who's already in an established relationship, it might be tempting to believe that person has less at stake than you do--less risk of hurt, less emotional vulnerability--because, after all, that person already has someone else to fall back on if your relationship doesn't work out, right?

In practice, it doesn't work that way. Being involved romantically with someone does not make the pain of losing a relationship any less. (In fact, I've written an entire essay on this topic.) You can not fix a broken relationship. . - Understand what their "rules" are. Franklin Veaux's Journal. Charlotte and brother Tom. Our house • Charlotte and brother Tom • Kissing and groping • Both in rut • My first fuck • A virginity taken • At a baudy house • In a privy • Tribulations • Charlotte leaves • My despair.

Charlotte and brother Tom

After fathers death, our circumstances were further reduced, At the time I am going to speak of, we had come to a small house nearer London; one sister went to boarding-school, an aunt (I had many) took another, I went to a neighboring great school or college, as it was termed, my little brother Tom was at home; but reference henceforth to members of my family will be but slight, for they had but little to do with the incidents of this private life, and unless they were part actors in it, none will be mentioned. Our house had on the ground-floor a dining-room, a drawing-room, and a small room called the garden parlour, with steps leading into a large garden.

I was soon kissing her constantly. Hugging and kissing a woman never stopped there, I told her I loved her, which she said was nonsense. The PolyOldFart. We Sleep Together. Poly Momma. Poly Big Fun. Gala. I found this the other day & really enjoyed reading it.

Gala

It’s an essay on relationships that was published as a zine called Infinite Relationships: Relationships without bounds or boundaries, love without limits, without ends. Normally I would not just take someone else’s article & repost it, but I think it’s important enough that it can stand on its own — & I’d love to hear your opinions on it, too. For what it’s worth, I think a lot of the points he raises in this essay are important & valid & worth investigating, though I am not necessarily sure that (for me) polyamory is the answer. You can download the pdf here. Unfortunately, there is no name on it so I don’t know who to attribute it to, but it’s very well-written! This is about so-called “non-monogamous relationships,” about some of the benefits of trying out one of the alternatives to the formulaic dating/marriage/divorce model for love. What an open relationship is: Jealousy, and what I’ve learned from it: “But human nature—” Healthy. Open. Honest.

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