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Why You Need to Take Care of the People Who Take Care of You. Some leaders believe that customers are their most important priority.

Why You Need to Take Care of the People Who Take Care of You

Others believe their boss, their board, or their investors are their most important priority. Courtesy of iStock/Geber86 I’ve worked in companies where these philosophies were the cultural norm. But I don’t agree with them. I believe your teammates are your most important priority. Why should your team be your top priority? Without your team, you would have no product. When it comes down to it, the truth is that your team is the product. If you have a great team, you can launch a great product and keep customers, bosses, boards, and investors happy. What this means at the most practical level is simple: Put the team first because if you take care of your team, they’ll take care of you. or upgrade to a self-hosted WordPress blog?

How To Get People To Like You: 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior Expert. Meeting new people can be awkward.

How To Get People To Like You: 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior Expert

What should you say? How can you make a good impression? How do you keep a conversation going? Research shows relationships are vital to happiness and networking is the key to getting jobs and building a fulfilling career. But what’s the best way to build rapport and create trust? Robin Dreeke can. Robin was head of the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Program and has studied interpersonal relations for over 27 years.

Robin is the author of the excellent book, It’s Not All About “Me”: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone. I gave him a call to get some answers. You’re going to learn: The #1 secret to clicking with people.How to put strangers at ease.The thing you do that turns people off the most.How to use body language like a pro.Some great verbal jiu-jitsu to use on people who try to manipulate you. And a lot more. 1) The Most Important Thing To Do With Anyone You Meet Ask questions. Here’s Robin: And it kills rapport. Sum Up Related posts: How To Make People Like You: 6 Science-Based Conversation Hacks.

So you want to know how to make people like you?

How To Make People Like You: 6 Science-Based Conversation Hacks

It’s easier than you think. A while back I posted about how to master conversation skills. Here are 6 more research-backed tips: 1) Encourage people to talk about themselves It gives their brain as much pleasure as food or money: Talking about ourselves—whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money, researchers reported Monday…“Self-disclosure is extra rewarding,” said Harvard neuroscientist Diana Tamir, who conducted the experiments with Harvard colleague Jason Mitchell. 2) To Give Feedback, Ask Questions. The Missing Piece Meets the Big O: Shel Silverstein’s Sweet Allegory for the Simple Secret of Love and the Key to Nurturing Relationships. By Maria Popova A gentle reminder that the best relationships don’t complete us but let us grow and become more fully ourselves.

The Missing Piece Meets the Big O: Shel Silverstein’s Sweet Allegory for the Simple Secret of Love and the Key to Nurturing Relationships

The best children’s books, as Tolkien asserted and Sendak agreed, aren’t written for children; they are enjoyed by children, but they speak to our deepest longings and fears, and thus enchant humans of all ages. But the spell only works, as legendary children’s book editor Ursula Nordstrom memorably remarked, “if the dull adult isn’t too dull to admit that he doesn’t know the answers to everything.” Few storytellers have immunized us against our adult dullness, generation after generation, more potently than Shel Silverstein, one of the many beloved authors and artists — alongside Maurice Sendak, E.B.

White, Margaret Wise Brown, and dozens of others — whose genius Nordstrom cultivated under her compassionate and creatively uncompromising wing. At last, one comes along that fits just right, and the two roll on by blissfully. Donating = Loving Share on Tumblr. If You Want People to Listen, Stop Talking. Andrew Nguyen George*, a managing director at a large financial services firm, had an uncanny ability to move a roomful of people to his perspective.

If You Want People to Listen, Stop Talking

What George said was not always popular, but he was a master persuader. It wasn’t his title — he often swayed colleagues at the same hierarchical level. And it wasn’t their weakness — he worked with a highly competitive bunch. It wasn’t even his elegant and distinguished British accent — his British colleagues were persuaded right along with everyone else, and none of them had his track record of persuasion. George had a different edge, which wasn’t immediately obvious to me because I was listening to what George said. George was silent more than anyone else who spoke, and often, he spoke last.

I say “anyone else who spoke” because there are plenty of people who remain completely silent — they don’t say anything, ever — and they are not persuasive. It’s counterintuitive, but it turns out that listening is far more persuasive than speaking.