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How to Brag About Yourself Without Being Obnoxious. You have an interview—how do you talk about your successes without sounding immodest?

How to Brag About Yourself Without Being Obnoxious

You have to pitch yourself—how do you toot your own horn without blowing it? You’re in an elevator with your boss—how do you share your accomplishments without sounding like a total narcissist? There is nothing worse than talking with someone as they pelt you with their resume skills, how many people they know or how good they are at what they do. No one wants to be with that bragger and no one wants to be the bragger. Here’s the problem: Sometimes our accomplishments don’t speak for themselves. Here’s my big idea: Don’t brag, don’t boast, do best. Besting is a softer, more genuine form of bragging. Besting is how you showcase your best self and your best work in a gracious and genuine manner. Proper bragging is an essential skill for professional success.

Why? So, how do you best? #1: Do F***ing Amazing Work. How to Change Someone’s Bad Behavior. Let me tell you why a visit to the dentist changed my life.

How to Change Someone’s Bad Behavior

First, I should mention that I do not have a great track record with dentists. I freak out at needles, gag when cotton chunks come near my mouth and am disgusted by every flavor of polishing paste (really, can someone disrupt the fluoride industry already?!). 10 Steps to the Perfect Conversation. Conversations are like sports.

10 Steps to the Perfect Conversation

Just like football or soccer you hone your conversational muscles. You train for difficult topics. You re-play miscommunications in your head. And just like elite athletes, you need a conversational game plan. The art of sparkling conversation is one of our most requested topics at the Science of People. I signed up for this networking event a few weeks before and had no idea who was going or what the organization was all about, but a friend of a friend recommended it.On the way over, I caught up on a few calls and checked my email before walking in.My calendar said 5pm start time, so I showed up at 5:30pm hoping I would be fashionably late—and that they wouldn’t have a programming starting right at 5pm or run out of drinks! I want to stop this pattern! I have broken down the structure of a conversation into 10 steps that will take your average interactions and make them awesome ones. Let’s do it: Step #1: Intention Who: Who is hosting the event?

Killer Conversation Starters. We have talked a lot about the importance of having open and approachable body language at networking events or parties.

Killer Conversation Starters

Here is a quick reminder: Open torso with uncrossed armsHead and chest upShoulders pulled backMirroring other’s body languageSmile at people walking byAlways offer to shake hands But what else can you do to encourage good conversation? I have asked friends from around the web to help with some conversation tricks in addition to some of the ones I use. Here are our favorites: Killer Openers: These openers work great for beginning a conversation. 1. Continue the Conversation: If you feel a little awkward asking personal questions right out of the gate, use your environment and surroundings to create conversation.

Make People Want You. The Psychology of Attraction Do people find you attractive?

Make People Want You

Attraction isn’t only about looks. It’s about a certain primal magnetism. Of course, we can be physically attracted to someone, but we are more often drawn to their confidence, passion and personality. Being attractive is about more than just appearance. How to Deal with Communication Breakdowns. A few years back, my family and I set out hiking along a wooded trail, high in the Pryor Mountains of Montana heading to a cave we wanted to explore.

How to Deal with Communication Breakdowns

The short trail led us to the entrance of the cave. With the warm summer air in the forest, we could feel cold air flowing out of the cave entrance. While we were preparing to go in, we noticed on the trail behind us a large black bear staring us down. Usually black bears are shy and won’t hang around if there’s a human nearby. But this one seemed very interested in us. I wrote a while back about our triune brains, consisting of the primitive brain stem (reptilian brain) and the limbic system (mammalian brain), as well as the more evolved cortex (thinking brain). The brain stem and limbic system combine into a kind of ‘feeling brain’ whose focus is to avoid danger, seek food and mate. This is very apparent by watching an argument from the sidelines. We all end up in arguments, misunderstandings and hurt feelings.

9 Ways to Increase Your Social Intelligence. How smart are you?

9 Ways to Increase Your Social Intelligence

We usually answer this question by referring to IQ, test scores and our grades in school. True intelligence is about both book smarts and street smarts. That Guy On my first day of college, I met Max. He was unloading all of his boxes right outside our dorm. In the cafeteria, he had an ever growing table of people laughing and swapping stories. Social Intelligence For our Science of People book club I chose the book Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships by Dr.

Social Intelligence (SI) is the ability to successfully build relationships and navigate social environments.