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12 Toxic Attitudes that Push Happiness Away From You. “It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” ― Dale Carnegie “A 14-year-old patient of mine will be undergoing her 10th surgery in the past two years to combat a rare form of cancer. Even after all the surgeries, I’ve never seen her frown. She’s still 100% certain she’ll survive. And I’m certain her attitude is the primary reason she has survived to this point.

She laughs and plays with her friends and family every day. And her positive attitude has made her dozens of new friends at the hospital. That’s an excerpt from an email I received this morning from one of our readers. “Today I realized that my best friend, who lost her mom last year to cancer, has a happier, more optimistic and thankful attitude about life than I do…” In our line of work, Angel and I hear from dozens of readers, coaching clients and students enrolled in our Getting Back to Happy course every day. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 17 Ways to Conquer Soul-Crushing Negativity. By Scott Sind When we are aware of our weaknesses or negative tendencies, we open the opportunity to work on them.

Ever had one of those moments when all you wanted to do was crawl back in bed, put a pillow over your head and shut out the world for a few hours? For a few days? For the rest of the year? I’m willing to bet that you have wanted to throw in the towel at some point. And it’s okay if you have. Human beings have an elaborate, built-in defense mechanism designed to keep us safe. You’ve said it before: “It just won’t work.” A few years ago I wrote a novel. So I quit writing. A little over a year into my creative isolation, I had an epiphany. The very things that had previously driven me into isolation—fear and insecurity—actually propelled me forward now. 1. “What if I fail?” “What will people think of me if I’m wrong?”

These kinds of questions bait us into negative thinking. Instead, flip the questions around to highlight the positives and advantages. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 12 Toxic Behaviors that Push People Away From You. Your behavior is a little thing that makes a big difference. In our line of work, Angel and I hear from hundreds of coaching clients every month.

Through this experience, we’ve come across scores of toxic behaviors that push people away from each other. And we’ve witnessed the devastation these behaviors cause – to relationships, to personal and professional growth, and to the general well-being of both the individual behaving negatively, and to everyone in their life. Let’s be honest – we’ve all acted in toxic, damaging ways at one time or another. None of us are immune to occasional toxic mood swings, but many people are more evolved, balanced and aware, and such occurrences happen only rarely in their lives. Whether your toxic behavior is a common occurrence, or just a once in a blue moon phenomena, it’s critical for your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you’re behaving negatively, and consciously shift your mindset when necessary. The floor is yours…

10 Things to Remember About Toxic Family Members. Yep. I’ve been undergoing the Extrication Process for a couple years now but in Dec. 2014 I packed up what fit in my vehicle, took my son and we vanished without so much as a goodbye. A year later, our full name changes were ordered and we have established ourselves far, far away. When my former husband committed suicide due to VA malpractice, my absolute ghoul of a mother looked me in the face about 20 minutes after her fake sniffling as if they were best buddies, and said, “He only did it to get away from you, you drove him to it.” It wasn’t that she was aware he and I lived in different states, or that it had nothing to do with me.

It was the revelation, that ultimate proof I’d needed to see my entire life that finally lifted the illusion once and for all – that any mother who would say that to her child, that was the Game Over mark for me. I knew then and there I was done with her forever. My mother has always had some warped jealousy and resentment of me since I was born.