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8 Things Never to Say in a Text. Source: pathdoc/Shutterstock Have you ever sent a text you wished you could take back? Or have you ever received a text that confused you, hurt you, or made you angry? If you have, you may understand how texting can be a risky framework for building relationships. Face-to-face is where relationships live and thrive, so, as a rule of thumb, try to save the important stuff for face-to-face conversations. 1.

“I told you not to text me during finals.” or, “You should be nicer to my parents.” 2. “I knew I could count on you to be late,” or, “Typical male response.” 3. “I was so tired, I wasn’t thinking straight.” 4. “Why didn’t you text me back yesterday?” 5. “I think we should see other people,” or, “They found a lump.” 6. Texting wasn’t intended to be a substitute for serious conversations about heavy topics like child custody issues, IRS audits, health problems, etc. 7. 8. “J. doesn’t know that M. and C. are dating behind D. and N.’s backs,” or “Betsy is such a klepto.” Why Your Estranged Child Doesn’t Want to Reconcile. Source: Auremar / AdobeStock When your adult son or daughter won’t talk to you, you might wonder why they can’t be more forgiving.

Sure, you weren’t always the perfect parent, but who is? You did everything you could to help them get along in life. Why can’t they cut you some slack? If your child offers up specific complaints about your relationship, you’ll need to be able to hear, understand, and validate them in order to make repairs. However, the central idea of something called "attribution theory" throws an extra wrench into the works that it’s important to understand. Why Other People Do What They Do In a nutshell, attribution theory says that we tend to explain other people’s behavior in terms of traits, and our own in terms of circumstances.

For instance, if I notice you driving over the speed limit, I assume it’s because you like to drive fast. However, if I drive over the speed limit, I think it’s because I’m in a hurry. Attribution Theory & Estrangement.