How To Be More Confident: 3 Secrets Backed By Research. Want to know how to be more confident?
There’s an easy answer: Don’t. Yeah, it’s a trick question. But we’ve all been led to believe that self-confidence or self-esteem is the answer to everything. It’s not. In fact, research shows it’s the cause of a lot of problems. We don’t need more self-esteem. Don’t believe me? Kristin Neff is a professor at the University of Texas at Austin and the author of Self-Compassion. Her research will turn everything you thought about self-esteem upside down. And she’s going to give you some answers on how to deal with the worst enemy you face on a daily basis; that person who is more harsh with you than anyone else and whose criticism never seems to end… Yes, that person is you. Be Confident & at Ease. How often do you talk yourself out of something before you’ve even tried?
Years of negative messages may have worn you down, but an innate confidence and ease is at your fingertips—if you just take a moment to discover it. 1. Start your day out right The way we start our day makes a big difference in how we feel the rest of the day. Take a moment to pause, check in with how you’re feeling, relax your body, think about what you’re grateful for, and bring a sense of presence to your morning routine. 2. Science shows that how we hold our bodies directly impacts our confidence. 3. Make a list of the people who nourish and encourage you. 4. One of the best motivators to continue a behavior is when we feel like we are “good” at something. 5. We each carry around deep-seated fears about ourselves, from “I’m not good enough,” and “I’m not worthy” to “When will they see that I’m a phony.” 6. We often make big goals without thinking through what’s actually achievable.
Becoming Who You Are How to Cultivate Self-Trust: Advice from Rising Strong by Brené Brown - Becoming Who You Are. A couple of weeks ago, Brené Brown published her latest book, Rising Strong.
If you’ve been anywhere near the internet at some point over the last couple of years, you’ve probably seen her now-infamous TED talk on vulnerability. Rising Strong is the final book in a trilogy on how to live a whole-hearted life, following on from The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly. I won’t go into a synopsis of the book here (I shared more details in my Amazon review) but I highly recommend clearing your diary for this weekend to read all three titles.
One of the topics Brené covers in Rising Strong, and the topic I want to share with you today, is trust. First of all, what is trust? It’s a word we all know and use but what does it mean in tangible terms? Brené quotes Charles Feltman, author of The Thin Book of Trust, who describes trust as “choosing to risk making something you value vulnerable to another person’s actions.” 7 Steps to Gain More Confidence Now. Whenever I speak with leaders about their greatest struggles, the answer I hear more than any other is a lack of confidence.
It’s a universal affliction. Early in my career, I suffered from almost crippling social anxiety. At formal office functions, I’d sweat like crazy and my hands would go ice-cold. Later, as the CEO of Thomas Nelson, I wrestled with heavy feelings of inadequacy. Was I really up for the job? It turns out that most leaders deal with insufficient confidence. Ever dreamed of launching your own self-hosted WordPress blog? How do they stay in the game and keep winning? How to Believe in Yourself. By Leo Babauta There was a long time when the lack of belief in myself was a major factor in my life.
I didn’t pursue an ideal career, or start my own business, because I didn’t think I could.