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If The Door Doesn't Open, It's Not Your Door: How To Deal With Rejection – Mia In The Media. From the Scarcity Mindset to the Abundance Mindset. Four years ago, I wrote a very brief article on the idea of scarcity and abundance mindsets.

From the Scarcity Mindset to the Abundance Mindset

At the time, it was an idea that was pretty fresh in my head, and so I didn’t yet have the opportunity to really cover it with any depth. Instead, it became an idea that I regularly referred back to over the years in considering my own life and the choices I was making. Today, I see the abundance minset at work in my own life and in Sarah’s life. 23 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy. Being happy should be simple, but with all these insane rules and social pressures that we put on ourselves, it's actually kind of hard.

23 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Isn't that so sad? I think it's the worst, personally. A little #LifeHack, though, is that there are things you probably do every day that make you unhappy. Here are 23 little things you can and should give up if you really want to be an overall happier person. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Lifehack. 16 Signs You Actually Have What’s Known As ‘Anxious Depression’ There are three subtypes of depression: agitated, sluggish and anxious.

16 Signs You Actually Have What’s Known As ‘Anxious Depression’

When we learn about depression as a whole, we’re usually taught to look out for signs of the sluggish subtype: sleepiness, lack of motivation, disengagement, and so on. However, the most common type of depression is actually anxious depression. The symptoms of anxiety and depression coincide because they have the same root. Knowing what you are struggling with specifically can aide in your treatment. Anxious depression is a specific type of mental illness, and it’s effects can be more common – and insidious – than you may realize.

The Bad Rules. Adult Children of Alcoholics ACoAs: Qualities and Traits. September is national recovery month so I thought I’d blog about a population most dear to my heart, ACoAs.

Adult Children of Alcoholics ACoAs: Qualities and Traits

Shows like Intervention along with celebrity after celebrity photographed in sunglasses entering various treatment centers..... has gone a long way to break down walls when it comes to looking at the pain caused by addiction. But what about the rest of the family? The addict isn’t the only person who needs help to become well again. Coping with Distress and Agony After a Break-Up. Codependency and the Art of Detaching From Dysfunctional Family Members.

Detaching is an effective way to cope with a codependent relationship or any toxic or dysfunctional relationship, whether it’s with an alcoholic parent, an addicted child, or a narcissistic spouse.

Codependency and the Art of Detaching From Dysfunctional Family Members

Detaching is the opposite of enabling because it allows people to experience the consequences of their choices and it provides you with needed emotional and physical space so that you can care for yourself and feel at peace. Why do codependents need to detach? Codependents often find themselves in dysfunctional relationships where they spend an inordinate amount of time worrying and trying to control or fix other people. This is done with a loving heart, but it can become all consuming. The FULL Explanation as to WHY Lying Addicts Lie : Compulsive Lying Forum. Lying addicts lie for different reasons depending upon the situation.

The FULL Explanation as to WHY Lying Addicts Lie : Compulsive Lying Forum

The following list is in no way exhaustive. The list goes in order of how many people said they lied for the reasons given. Bryony Gordon's Mad World. 3 Tough Truths About Our “Priorities” No One Wants to Admit. Recovery Quotes - Addiction Quotes - Sobriety Quotes. Let these quotes help support you to maintain your sobriety and to live a great life in your recovery from addiction.

Recovery Quotes - Addiction Quotes - Sobriety Quotes

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. - Reinhold Niebuhr Please sign-up for my Free Daily Inspiration Email on the form below. To confirm your subscription, you must click on a link in the email being sent to you. Each email contains an unsubscribe link. We will NEVER sell, rent, loan, or abuse your email address in ANY way. Uncover ... Today is the first day of the rest of your life. - Anonymous If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you always got. - Mark Twain We cannot change anything until we accept it. - Carl Jung Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase. - Martin Luther King, Jr. Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. - Ralph Waldo Emerson. 2 Reasons You Keep Attracting Commitment-Phobes - mindbodygreen. Regardless of where the phrase was born, the noncommittal man is here today and here, most likely, to stay.

2 Reasons You Keep Attracting Commitment-Phobes - mindbodygreen

And there are definite red flags that give him away. Before trying to formulate your own personal commitment-phobe repellent, though, it's important to recognize the red flags in you. Yes, you. There are two red flags that indicate you're a woman who may fall in love with and become addicted to a noncommittal man. 1. How Clear Are You About What You Want? (lenzo) It’s so interesting that I talk to hundreds of people about their homes and their dreams- these really impassioned conversations- and so very few people can explain what they want and what it looks like.

How Clear Are You About What You Want?

It’s not surprising to me because that’s how I lived for many many years- in a desperate need of an abstract notion of success that would arrive and make things finally feel better. I realized that people who had a very clear picture of the kinds of homes and lifestyles and creative aspirations they wanted didn’t necessarily “get anything mystically faster” than anyone else… but they were way more chill in the process of doing things… and they seemed to be way more resourceful, clever and, well, they got things done. Why rejection hurts so much — and what to do about it. Rejections are the most common emotional wound we sustain in daily life.

Why rejection hurts so much — and what to do about it

Our risk of rejection used to be limited by the size of our immediate social circle or dating pools. Today, thanks to electronic communications, social media platforms and dating apps, each of us is connected to thousands of people, any of whom might ignore our posts, chats, texts, or dating profiles, and leave us feeling rejected as a result. In addition to these kinds of minor rejections, we are still vulnerable to serious and more devastating rejections as well.

When our spouse leaves us, when we get fired from our jobs, snubbed by our friends, or ostracized by our families and communities for our lifestyle choices, the pain we feel can be absolutely paralyzing. Whether the rejection we experience is large or small, one thing remains constant — it always hurts, and it usually hurts more than we expect it to. The question is, why? The greatest damage rejection causes is usually self-inflicted. Find Your Inner F*ck It: Journal Your Way to Badass Babe. “Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.” -  RDI RDI. At present, I am caught in the mix of three assignments and the dilemma of what to have for dinner. I think the latter is more so because I want to eat something that doesn’t involve me being at a table practising appropriate dining etiquette. Right now, I need food that plays well with my laptop and the multitude of paper in which I’m drowning. During one of my many episodes of getting sidetracked while doing research for an assignment, I came across a quote.

It’s Time You Realize That You’re Too Good For His Games. 15 Signs You’ve Gotten Used To Being Treated Like Shit. 1. When someone is nice to you, you assume that they want something from you. Sex. Money. A ride. If He Won’t Commit, It’s Time To Move The Fuck On. Fear of commitment is a real thing. Not everyone fears it, but most people do. The worst part is that most people don’t know they’re afraid of commitment until the opportunity — or request, rather — presents itself. I’ve been there. I’ve been convinced that a serious, meaningful relationship is what I want and need, even when I feel like I can’t commit to it. How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To.

When do we really learn good conversation skills? Well, we don’t. We’re just kind of expected to pick them up… And we wonder why people aren’t better communicators. How can you be that person people love to talk to? I’ve posted a lot of research and expert interviews on the subject so let’s round up the info and make it actionable. It’s Okay If You Can’t Let Go. Memories get branded into your skin; they get stamped onto your heart. In Emotional Pain? Here’s How To Heal It. Acknowledging emotional pain may seem like an obvious step in the healing process that everyone is already doing. How to Stop Needing Approval. How to Stop Needing Approval. Pinterest. How Altering Your Self-Image Can Change Your Life - Anxiety Cure. Your Own Worst Enemy: 10 Ways To Avoid Self-Sabotage. 15 Ways to Stop Self-Sabotage. 5 Simple Steps to Self-Regulation. Stop Self Sabotaging Yourself! Lesson 3 of 4 of ‘Spiritpreneur Success Strategy’

Stop self sabotaging yourself… Lesson 3 of 4 of ‘Spiritpreneur Success Strategy.’ Hey Sacred Bombshell, A couple of years ago, I ran into a TV producer in the City. She is an awesome woman who had booked me before for something huge. I credit her with opening big doors for me in my current work. She told me that she was working at the new “Bethenny” talk show that was about to launch. Nope! Pinterest. Metropolitan Counseling & Consulting LLC.