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70 Things To Do Before Having Children. Post written by: Marc Chernoff Email They say having children changes everything. While it’s unquestionably a remarkable time in one’s life, I can also see how the transition introduces obvious limitations. Suddenly you have dependent beings of life to care for. Before settling down to start a family. Here’s our list of 70 things to do before having children. Live in a high rise condo with an amazing view.Take a month long vacation on the opposite side of the world in a city with a completely different culture.Attend the Super Bowl live.Jump out of a perfectly good airplane.Make love in places you aren’t supposed to.Swim with the sharks.Scuba-dive to a large ship wreck.Audition to be on TV or in a movie… even if you’re just an extra.Throw the house party of all house parties.

What’s on your list? Also, check out these books for more awesome bucket list ideas: Photo by: Dawvon If you enjoyed this article, check out our new best-selling book. Heartless Bitches International - "The RED FLAG List" Too many women are misled by the romantic myth that men are "diamonds in the rough" and we are supposed to "help" them become better men, often by sacrificing our own needs.

We are socialized to believe that if we help them, take care of them, give up our own needs for theirs, they will "take care" of us. BLEAH. Of course, men are just as vulnerable- they often marry women they barely know, feeling that they have to be "mature" and "grown up" and then end up miserable because they're stuck with someone they have nothing in common with. Or they play "rescuer" and take up with women who are little, fragile dolls who need to be 'taken care of' and they say things like "She needs me, she's so fragile.

She's like a little wounded deer. " Barf. The sad thing is, that the men/women who CAN change, do it on their own. As the mother of this Heartless Bitch once said, "A man is who he is by his 16th birthday. Sensitivity - Hurt Feelings - How Not to Overreact. There was a carpool mix-up: I thought it was my night to pick up the kids outside the gym; another parent thought it was his. "What happened? " he snarled, shaking his head. "Why are we both here right now? " As chauffeuring snafus go, this was small potatoes. It isn't like we left our boys standing in the snow.

I admit, I can take things too personally. The hamster wheel in my head runs something like this: First, my feelings get hurt. I consider myself a sane, logical person, yet I fall into this cycle again and again. The downside: By reading too much into what others say or do, we can over-react to innocuous remarks. In evolutionary terms, being sensitive to criticism could be a lifesaver. Despite this primal instinct, people may be growing less sensitive over time, says Jerome Kagan, Ph.D., a psychology professor whose lab at Harvard has studied traits like sensitivity for decades. I'll say. It turns out that my gender doesn't help matters, either.

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7 Habits of Highly Effective People. In his #1 bestseller, Stephen R. Covey presented a framework for personal effectiveness. The following is a summary of the first part of his book, concluding with a list of the seven habits. Inside-Out: The Change Starts from Within While working on his doctorate in the 1970's, Stephen R. Covey reviewed 200 years of literature on success. However, during the 150 years or so that preceded that period, the literature on success was more character oriented. The elements of the Character Ethic are primary traits while those of the Personality Ethic are secondary. To illustrate the difference between primary and secondary traits, Covey offers the following example.

The problem with relying on the Personality Ethic is that unless the basic underlying paradigms are right, simply changing outward behavior is not effective. The Character Ethic assumes that there are some absolute principles that exist in all human beings. The Seven Habits - An Overview Habit 1: Be Proactive Habit 1: Be Proactive.