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The Simply Luxurious Life®: How to Let Go of What Other People Think. “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”

-Theodore Roosevelt Walking down the sidewalk, in the hallways at work or school, through boutiques or at your favorite restaurant, you observe glances, stares and perhaps comments as you go about your business. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. InShare0. What You Think of Me Is None of My Business - Magical Moments. Do You Worry About What Others Think of You?

3/25/2009 2:06:00 PM“What you think of me is none of my business.” – Wayne Dyer What would your life look like if you were literally unable to worry about other people’s opinions? What a freedom that would be! You would live according to what you thought was beneficial for you and make decisions without second-guessing, over-analyzing, and shoulda-coulda-woulda-ing. You would no longer have any need for approval nor fear of disapproval. The truth is, we don’t have any need for approval. Not truly. In reality, another person’s thought or opinion about you is never personal, because it is never really about you in the first place. When we let go of worrying over other people’s opinions, we are free to reflect on our own opinions of ourselves. Living according to our own truth is one of the highest acts of self-love and self-care.

"Patterning your life around others' opinions is nothing more than slavery. The Daily Love — A place to Love and be Loved. Do Other People`s Opinions Bother You? Human life is like a pendulum. It is dangling and oscillating between positive and negative, good and bad, right and wrong, the true and the false, highs and lows, thick and thin, and a whole heap of other dualities.

All that is subjective, however. It cannot affect you unless you let it. Let me narrate a little story to you: There was a monk once. For years he practiced meditation, contemplation and forbearance, yet he could not gain enlightenment. He still felt troubled by the world around him, especially when people failed to see his saintliness or disagreed with him what he thought was the truth. One day he approached his guru and confessed his inner turmoil and restlessness. “Go and meditate there for three days unmoving. He obeyed his guru and went to the place to meditate. The room was unclean, without any windows, and looked like an abandoned shop. A million worries engulfed him. “Who is this man?” “God knows! The monk was enlightened as soon as he heard that. Go on! How to Love Your Authentic Self.

“You, yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha In our personal development-focused, life coach-dependent world, it’s all too easy to think you need to change. Not just the things you do, but who you are. It’s one thing to invite transformation for the sake of growth, improvement, and new possibilities. It’s another thing to feel so dissatisfied with yourself that no amount of change could possibly convince you that you’re worthy and lovable. This type of intrinsic self-loathing formed the basis of my adolescence and some of my twenties. Ironically, I won a karaoke contest in the early nineties for singing The Greatest Love of All—yet I hadn’t learned to love myself. On most days, I kept a running mental tally of all the ways I messed up—all the dumb things I said, the stupid ideas I suggested, and the inevitably unsuccessful attempts I made to make people like me. I know that I am not so different from most people. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

Letting Go of Insecurities with Two Realizations. “What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly.” ~Carl Rogers I used to spend an awful lot of time worrying about people liking me. Or what people thought of me. Or what they thought of the clothes I was wearing. Or whatever. It’s taken me a long time to realize two things: 1. 2. Makes sense, right? It’s actually something I’d heard a hundred times before, but it never really sunk in.

So why had it not sunk in? I think, in simple terms, it’s built into our human nature. Otherwise we would become (gasp) social outcasts. I recently moved from my small town to London. I decided, in my quest to try new things and get healthier, to join the gym at the end of my road. Unfortunately, I’ve never felt quite at home in a gym. I have to admit, that doesn’t actually happen—at all. You may have had an experience like this at some point in your life. The problem is, it’s not other people with the problem. I am currently working on developing a positive attitude. Your thoughts create your reality.