Magazine - Why Women Still Can’t Have It All. The culture of “time macho”—a relentless competition to work harder, stay later, pull more all-nighters, travel around the world and bill the extra hours that the international date line affords you—remains astonishingly prevalent among professionals today. Nothing captures the belief that more time equals more value better than the cult of billable hours afflicting large law firms across the country and providing exactly the wrong incentives for employees who hope to integrate work and family. Yet even in industries that don’t explicitly reward sheer quantity of hours spent on the job, the pressure to arrive early, stay late, and be available, always, for in-person meetings at 11 a.m. on Saturdays can be intense. Indeed, by some measures, the problem has gotten worse over time: a study by the Center for American Progress reports that nationwide, the share of all professionals—women and men—working more than 50 hours a week has increased since the late 1970s.
Revaluing Family Values. A spark of bravery - Lisa Leonard Designs Blog. Since David is about to turn 10 years old {gasp!} I’ve been reflecting on how his life has changed and molded me and made me more brave. I remember a sunny Saturday when David was a baby. Steve and I {although we had no money} decided to splurge and go to Baja Fresh for lunch. I gathered diapers and food for David’s diaper bag while Steve strapped him into his car seat and off we went. When we arrived, Steve went up to order while I found a highchair for David and grabbed a table for us. While I was getting organized, I saw two boys, about 8 and 10 years old laughing and pointing to David. My cheeks flushed bright red and my heart shattered into a thousand pieces.
And then a spark of bravery ignited somewhere inside me. My first instinct was to go over and grab those kids by the collars of their tee shirts and scream at them. Slowly, I unstrapped David from his carseat and carried him over to where the boys were sitting with their parents. Escape Into Grey | Daily Generous Wife Tips. I had a friend in college who used drugs … a lot. I understood why. His life sucked. Stresses were growing and drugs gave him a “time out” from all the bad in his life.
The problem was that the drugs weren’t really helping. What does this have to do with you and me? Lately you’ve probably heard a lot about a book called Shades of Grey. It’s understandable, really. The problem is that reading erotic novels is like eating Twinkies to stop your hunger. The same could be said of reading erotic novels to fill your hunger for intimacy. Yes, life can suck, some days quite a lot. Just a heads up ~ publishers see this kind of literature as a cash cow.
I do not know what became of my friend. I’m praying for y’all too. Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst. Image credit (c) Lori Byerly The Romantic Vineyard has a listing of blog posts about Shades of Grey ~ Stop Grey From Becoming The New Black And White. The Hidden Power In Your Marriage. Why Learning Leads To Happiness. By Philip Moeller for U.S.
News Your mind may be the closest thing to the Holy Grail of longevity and happiness. Education has been widely documented by researchers as the single variable tied most directly to improved health and longevity. And when people are intensely engaged in doing and learning new things, their well-being and happiness can blossom. This effect becomes even more valuable as we get older. Even in old age, it turns out, our brains have more plasticity to adapt and help us than was once thought. Old dogs, in short, can learn a lot of new tricks. More from U.S. "I think most social scientists would put their money on education as the most important factor in ensuring longer lives," says psychologist Laura Carstensen, director of the Stanford Center on Longevity. In a paper published earlier this year by the National Bureau of Economic Research, authors David Cutler and Adriana Lleras-Muney reviewed education-longevity research around the world.
Also on HuffPost: Millennial Women Speak Out About The Gender Ambition Gap - It's Real And They're Living It. Touré: Inside the Racist Mind. After a recent event where I spoke about racial identity, a white woman sidled up to me, leaned in close so no one near us could hear, and said, “I’m racist.” Many people would be repelled. I was entranced. Here was someone who could tell me first hand how the racist mind worked. Social scientists have done studies on Klansmen and Neo-Nazis but those sorts of people are outliers, socially and mentally, while this woman was the sort of person you might encounter on a normal day.
She seemed indicative of the sort of racist mind we’d be mostly likely to meet. Studies show most people have some sort of prejudice or bias. (MORE: The Problem With The “My Best Friend is Black” Defense) Still, most people today are ashamed to be racist and know to do their best to never reveal it. “I just have these thoughts,” she said, almost whispering into my ear. I wanted to hear more but I had heard enough to understand. Racism is a mental tumor. (MORE: Michelle Alexander: The Myth of Desegregation) Are You Attractive? 9 out of 10 Women Say NO. A thousand women were recently surveyed on the topics of beauty and confidence. The Dove Body Confidence Census 2012, conducted in the UK among women aged 18 to 64, suggests that low self-esteem apparently runs quite high. “If you ask a normal woman on the street how she describes herself — her looks, her body — the biggest response that comes back is that she feels average,” said a spokesperson for Dove in an interview with Female First.
“Only 2 percent of women are saying, ‘I’m beautiful’ and only 1 in 10 are saying, ‘I feel attractive.’ That’s just not where we want to be.” The survey contains telling insights, though you can’t quite call it a serious scientific study. It’s no mistake that the survey was conducted by Dove, the body-products company whose self-esteem campaign has been noted for challenging modern body-image norms — or at least the norms in advertising and the media. Why the apparent lack of confidence among women? Gay and Mormon: Is it Safe Yet? In Therapy Forever? Enough Already. In graduate school, my classmates and I were taught to serve as guides, whose job it is to help patients reach their own conclusions. This may work, but it can take a long time. I don’t think patients want to take years to feel better. They want to do it in weeks or months. Popular misconceptions reinforce the belief that therapy is about resting on a couch and talking about one’s problems. But there’s a difference between feeling good and changing your life.
I’m not against therapy. U.S. Opinion Published: April 21, 2012 FacebookTwitterGoogle+EmailSharePrintReprints FacebookTwitterGoogle+EmailShare Log in to discover more articles based on what you‘ve read. What’s This? Inside NYTimes.com More in Opinion (1 of 24 articles) Op-Ed Contributor: The Tobacco Ties That Bind. Child Abuse Prevention Month: Traditions. Falling in Love with your Family by Alison In a Nutshell: Some traditions help families thrive. Some destroy them. Be a “transitional character” and celebrate your ability to choose to send healthy traditions down to your children. In the Broadway musical Fiddler on the Roof, Tevye explains his culture then remarks, “You may ask, ‘How did this tradition get started.’
I’ll tell you…I don’t know. But it’s a tradition!” As Easter approaches, I’m thinking about traditions, both those I want to keep from my childhood, and those that my husband and I are changing. What traditions have been passed on to you from your family? April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month, and my posts this month will focus on this theme. Carlfred Broderick A transitional character is one who, in a single generation, changes the entire course of a lineage. I’ve been blessed to know some of these people. Try it today: What family traditions have you inherited? 3 Months In. Apr11 PHOTO: Kelly Beall I realize not everyone is going to care about what I’ve been going through as a caregiver. But with the crazy statistic that 65.7 million Americans care for a family member with a terminal illness, I thought I’d continue to share my journey with Pete with you. It seems as though Pete’s reached the late-intermediate stage of Alzheimer’s, there is no set time table with the disease just a person-by-person pace.
He easily fixates on things for long periods of time, particularly anything of extreme size or quantity. Think car dealerships, skyscrapers, etc. A big source of anxiety is the idea of something he needs running out, so several of everything are kept on hand at all times. Pete still gets great joy out of reading the daily newspaper cover to cover (sometimes several times in the same day) and walking outside, so we take full advantage of both. As we’ve moved deeper into the disease more symptoms are revealing themselves. 37 Comments on “3 Months In”
Child Behavior Problems - Tween Behavior Problems. Smoking, drinking, huffing, sexting: it's a scary world ahead. Start now to build the bonds that will keep your kid on track. Last summer while we were visiting family, my then 12-year-old daughter, Anna, and her cousins went to a neighbor's BBQ to hang out with their friends under the watchful (or so we thought) eyes of the adults there. Less than an hour later, they were back at the house. What happened, we asked? Yes, we were relieved -- and grateful that our kids told us what happened. It also doesn't help calm a parent's fears when every stat about teen behavior is scarier than the last (like the ones from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention showing that one in every four teenage girls has a sexually transmitted disease and more than half of all teens have engaged in oral sex). "It's completely normal for kids to spread their wings and test their limits," adds Kenneth R.
Plus: 5 Big-Kid Discipline Dilemmas - Solved! 8 Discipline Mistakes Parents Make Raise Your Expectations. Kids Ask YouTube: "Am I Ugly?" A disturbing trend has recently broken out on YouTube involving young kids, mostly girls, seeking honest answers about their looks by asking viewers: “Am I ugly?” Simply search the phrase “am I ugly?” And tons of videos with preteen girls in front of their computer screens will pop up. The tweens fidget and smile awkwardly in their videos as they wait for viewers to scrutinize them. A few hope we think they’re pretty, and others make sure we know that they already think they’re ugly. Plus: Helpful Anti Cyber-Bullying Websites The videos are described as "a masochistic way to diminish their anxiety," says New York-based child psychiatrist Francisco Gonzalez-Franco, as reported by Yahoo's Trending Now. Plus: Dealing With Tween Drama All around it’s painful to watch and becomes even more painful once you read the uncensored (and often cruel) comments.
Do you monitor your kid’s online accounts?