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Why You Deserve Someone Who Will Give You The World And Nothing Less. There are many things we may settle for in life: the meal that has fewer calories, the bad job in the right city or maybe the clothes on the sale rack.

Why You Deserve Someone Who Will Give You The World And Nothing Less

The one thing we should never settle for, however, is love. There are many average things in life, but love should not be one of them. Through the masses of mediocre, common and run-of-the-mill things that we experience day by day, love should certainly defy them all. We should never settle for someone who could walk away and not turn back. We should never settle for someone who doesn’t recognize what he is holding when embracing our hands or someone who doesn’t remind us every day of how much we mean to him.

15 Dating Clichés That May Actually Hold The Secret To Finding Love. We take comfort in clichés because they’re usually somewhat true.

15 Dating Clichés That May Actually Hold The Secret To Finding Love

If you happen to agree with a typical dating cliché, like “you should never accept a last-minute date,” it is reassuring to know it’s not just you; many people feel this way. However, sometimes, when these clichés take up a permanent residence in the back of your mind, they get in the way of your dating life, as they prevent you from saying what you want to say or acting how you want to act. They serve as a constant reminder of what you, perhaps, should or shouldn’t do. Some of the classic dating clichés hold more legitimacy than others.

Many women find themselves testing the waters to see just how valid a certain familiar tune really is. Take Mandy Stadtmiller, for example. Mandy is not the only woman searching for love and simultaneously figuring out which dating clichés she should actually take to heart. The One Trait You Need for a Healthy Relationship. 11 Things That Instantly Make A Man Hot  Recently someone who follows my Instagram posted this question on one of my photos: "What is the first thing you notice in a man?

11 Things That Instantly Make A Man Hot 

" I thought about it for a moment. Did I notice eyes? 6 Things Men Secretly Love About The Women In Their Lives  If you've been with your husband, fiancé or boyfriend for a while, you may have noticed that he is quite vocal about some things (e.g., sports), but perhaps quite muted about others (e.g., your relationship).

6 Things Men Secretly Love About The Women In Their Lives 

Not that sports are not important -- believe me, they are -- but when it comes to critical relationship questions, many women ask, "What is he really thinking? " The silence can be frustrating, especially with your relationship on the line. "I wish I knew what my man really thinks about... Falling in love: answer these 36 questions to find love. The 5 Ways Not to Talk to Your Partner.

3 Successful Marriage Compatibilities. 5 Habits That Can Poison Any Relationship. Uk.businessinsider. Brain Study Reveals Secrets of Staying Madly in Love. Is it even possible to feel madly in love with someone after five, ten, twenty years together?

Brain Study Reveals Secrets of Staying Madly in Love

Due to recent neurological research, we are a bit closer to answering these perplexing questions and demystifying the secrets behind achieving intense, lasting, romantic love . A recent study published online in the journal , investigated, for the first time, which brain regions are associated with long-term romantic love. Researchers compared the brain scans of long-term married individuals to the scans of individuals who have recently fallen in love. Surprisingly, the results revealed similar activity in specific brain regions for both long-term, intense romantic love and couples in early-stage romantic love.

This Is How We Date Now. We don’t commit now.

This Is How We Date Now

We don’t see the point. They’ve always said there are so many fish in the sea, but never before has that sea of fish been right at our fingertips on OkCupid, Tinder, Grindr, Dattch, take your pick. We can order up a human being in the same way we can order up pad thai on Seamless. A 5-Step Formula To Attract And Prepare For Your Perfect Partner. The 9 Most Overlooked Threats to a Marriage  I feel bad for marital communication, because it gets blamed for everything.

The 9 Most Overlooked Threats to a Marriage 

For generations, in survey after survey, couples have rated marital communication as the number one problem in marriage. It's not. Marital communication is getting a bad rap. It's like the kid who fights back on the playground. Do Not Get Married Unless You Ask Your Partner These 39 Questions  By Jazmine Hughes Do you want to have children, and if so, when?

Do Not Get Married Unless You Ask Your Partner These 39 Questions 

How many? The Biggest Cause Of Relationship Failure. What if there was ONE major cause of relationship failure?

The Biggest Cause Of Relationship Failure

And what if there were something you could do to create a truly loving relationship? Well, in the 46 years I've been working with individuals and couples, I've discovered ONE underlying issue that, when healed, addresses all of the problems that contribute to relationship failure. This one issue is self-abandonment. 19 Ways to Tell If You Expect Too Much From Your Partner. Monkey Business Images/Shutterstock We all come to expect that our closest romantic partners will “be there” for us in times of need.

19 Ways to Tell If You Expect Too Much From Your Partner

Like it or not, you also unconsciously measure whether your partner is good enough for you, or vice versa. Research into relational entitlement is now putting under the microscope this set of attitudes and trying to determine whether and how it relates to a couple’s satisfaction with each other. Bar-Ilan University’s Sivan George-Levi and collaborators (2014) decided to test a measure of relational entitlement developed with college students on a real-world sample of adults in their 50s who had been married since their 20s, many of whom were also parents.

Unlike the typical undergraduate sample, these individuals had a far more extensive set of shared experiences on which to draw when contemplating their relationship and the extent to which it met their needs. Their scale divided the concept into four subscales. Lasting Relationships Rely On 2 Traits.

Every day in June, the most popular wedding month of the year, about 13,000 American couples will say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love that will carry them forward to their final days on this earth. Except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages, as psychologist Ty Tashiro points out in his book The Science of Happily Ever After, which was published earlier this year. Social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action in the 1970s in response to a crisis: Married couples were divorcing at unprecedented rates.

Psychologist John Gottman was one of those researchers. 15 Honest Questions The Person You Marry Should Be Able To Answer. Marriage really is a beautiful thing. I used to think it was a bit pointless, just a piece of paper that allows you an extra tax cut. However, the more I thought about it, the more I learned to appreciate what marriage could be.

Marriage gets a bad rap because most people are really bad at it. 50 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships. Shutterstock If you can say yes to most of these, it's very likely you're in a healthy relationship: 1. You can name your partner’s best friend and identify a positive quality that the person has. 2. 13 ingredientes necesarios para cocinar una relación perfecta - Blog Phronesis. Si supiésemos cuál es la clave para tener un matrimonio perfecto, nos iría mucho mejor, ¿verdad?

Sin embargo, las tasas de divorcios parecen aumentar continuamente y la convivencia en pareja tiene que afrontar cada vez más dificultades que no existían en momentos pasados, como una mayor incertidumbre laboral o una creciente incapacidad para conciliar la vida personal con la laboral. Por ello no es de extrañar que se haya disparado el número de psicólogos dedicados a la terapia matrimonial. Una de ellas es la doctora y profesora de la Universidad de Pensilvania Judith Coche, que en sus publicaciones ha intentado identificar cuáles son las cualidades que definen a las parejas que mejor funcionan. La autora ha desarrollado el modelo “Psicoterapia de Pareja en Grupo” que posteriormente ha aplicado Laurie Abraham en el superventas The Husbands and Wives Club, un ensayo sobre la terapia matrimonial. 7 Questions That Can Strengthen Your Relationship. Bikeriderlondon/Shutterstock One of the biggest mistakes we can make in a relationship is not asking enough of the right questions.

Yearning for Your Soulmate? Relax, Here’s Why Time’s On Your Side. The New Rules of Relationships. Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved, and function best when they are. Yet people have much trouble maintaining relationships. It's clear from the many letters I get to my advice column that lots of folks, men and women, have no idea what a healthy relationship even looks like. 5 Signs Your Relationship Is Going To Last. 6 Sure Signs of a Healthy Relationship. Myths About Low Sexual Desire. Sex is the purest form of self-expression, the most intimate way two people can give their love to each other—and when it goes wrong, it disrupts the entire relationship. The Most Important Quality You Can Find in a Partner. What it Really Means to Be in Love. What Neuroscience Tells Us About Being in Love.