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Why It’s OK to be Lost And Confused. In the fall of 2007, I was confused as hell. I had recently graduated from college but still had no clue what I wanted to “be when I grew up.” I’d jumped from mediocre job to mediocre job… from a psychosocial therapist to an insurance salesperson to a nanny to a cocktail waitress to a retail manager. After years of having been in a steady relationship, I suddenly found myself single and bombarded by d-bag after d-bag… each of whom I seemed to fall for. And to top it all off, I had no established hobbies or interests aside from partying and trying to impress said d-bags. To say that I was lost would be an understatement. I had no clue who I was and I had no clue what I wanted from life— all I knew was that it sure as heck wasn’t this. So what do you do when you’re lost and confused? Conventional wisdom would say, “Think hard and figure your sh** out at all costs.” I quit my job, applied for a year-long foreign work visa, and bought a one-way plane ticket to Australia.

Nope. Get career clarity. How to Get Hired By Anyone: 5 Foolproof Methods for Landing That J-O-B. A few weeks back, I announced that I’d be hiring a HO (Homework Officer– getchyer head out of the gutter!) To help me out with my new project. After laughing for 45 minutes straight at the barrage of hilarious innuendos and email subject lines I received (“Why I’m Your HO”; “Is a HO that doesn’t get paid simply called a SLUT?” ; “Ho Fo Sho!” ; “I would like to be a ho, please :-)”; “LEMME BE YO’ HO!”

; “I’m Your HO, Baby!”) , I sat down and took a good looksie at the apps I’d received. Lemme tell you, guys: THESE APPLICATIONS ROCKED MY SOCKS OFF. I’ve written before about how even the best candidates can easily get lost in the crowd of applicants, and how it’s no longer enough to be insanely qualified– instead, you’ve got to find a way to STAND OUT in a relevant way. [Warning: THESE TECHNIQUES WORK INSANELY WELL! Today I present to you: 5 lessons learned from hiring a HO. If there was just ONE thing you could do to blow an employer’s socks off, this would probably be it.

What I was looking for: Attention, Whiny Complainers: NOW's The Time To Make A Diff! “I sort of what to punch you right now. Seriously.” So began an email I received in January of this year from one Unlost reader, Miss Jody Lamb. “But then I’d probably hug you and give you a big high five. You really majorly stuck a pin in my behind to move forward with a huge project, actually a life endeavor, I’ve been thinking about for years but putting off because of fear and other mumbo jumbo like having an insanely consuming job.

A little about me: I grew up with a loving family but I felt the detrimental effects of parental alcoholism early on. As an adult, I became as knowledgeable about alcoholism as I could be and discovered something super, super disturbing: 1.) 2.) This bothered me. At 26, I was beyond lost, got zero satisfaction from my day job and had accidentally moved up the corporate ladder in an ill-fitting career. Nonetheless, I spent two years on four drafts of it and gave up most of my non-working time to learning how to write for young people. Damn it. Woooooot! Emotional Fitness: How to Calm Yourself in 4 Easy Steps. Whether you are aware of it or not, unmanaged emotions often hijack your energy and behavior. The limbic brain, considered the emotional brain, can quickly override rational thinking.

The decisions we make determine our quality of life and our future. Try this simple, step-by-step practice to enhance your life and achieve emotional well-being. Steps to Calm Yourself STEP 1: Identify your feeling STEP 2: Ask how you would like to feel STEP 3: Shift your perception to support how you would like to feel STEP 4: Take one action to change the way you feel Your spouse is working too much and not making your relationship a priority. STEP 1: You might feel lonely and resentful. STEP 2: You want to feel loving toward your spouse. STEP 3: Think of what you are grateful for as a result of the financial security he/she provides from working. STEP 4: Thank your spouse for how hard he/she works. For more keys in emotional fitness, see Compassion for Conficting Emotions or check out our other free resources. David Allen's Getting Things Done® Methodology.

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