Part 2: Leaving the Church of Self Improvement... for the Temple of Me. Where did I leave off from?
Right here with Part 1: Leaving the Church of Self-Improvement for the Temple of Me. To read the entire feature now, click HERE to download the PDF and tap into the designed reading experience. I was waking up. I noticed that some very public people preaching tolerance were actually profoundly intolerant. I recognized the same evangelical forcefulness in the holistic community as could be found at any Baptist rally, despite the progressive, rainbow-colored branding.
Because I was such a self-help keener, I made concessions for the general uptightness—and deadly boringness—of many of the teachers I came into contact with, which is to say, I sat through a lot of dry lectures feeling odd about being underwhelmed. As fascinating as they potentially could be, I didn’t find conversations about the constructs of reality very useful for decreasing emotional pain or increasing my everyday happiness.
Enter my favourite dark angel, Leonard Cohen: Want to get unstuck? Maybe it's time to stop analyzing it. You can work out your family of origin issues, and neuroses, and past life traumas with your shrink or your shaman.
You can talk talk talk it out all day long (I know, I’ve done it). You can trace the cause of your wounds and why you’re so stuck. But at some point, eventually, who cares WHY you’re stuck. Instead of focusing on how you got to where you are, you’ve got to shift your attention to where you’d rather be. I’ve had at least a thousand conversations about success and desire. Resentment. And how to (un)block your prosperity. When my first company tanked, I was on the hook for about $150,000.
Before I got slammed with that fact, my CEO, who I hired to run the company, thought it best to fire my Founder’s ass. Shortly after they canned me, the whole business fell apart — because you can’t have a personality-driven business without um, the founding personality there. And because, bad karma. Anywaaaay, I got to sit back and watch them tank without me. Which was only slightly satisfying. I made a conscious choice to not resent the shit out of paying off that bad debt. Resentment … is a major energy drain; … can feel all righteous and cool, but it’s actually totally disempowering; … can be insipid, like water poisoning that you don’t really taste but it’s affecting your whole system. The good news about resentment is that — unlike other so-called negative emotions such as sadness, or jealousy, or grief — resentment can be easily turned around.
Turning around resentment: Own that you are in charge of what you do. Leaving the Church of Self Improvement - A Special Feature. This is a special feature article.
Longer than my usual in this space. I’m publishing it in two parts (Part 2 will run later this week), but if you’d like to read the entire feature now, click HERE to download the PDF. Put on the kettle, or bring your iPad to bed with you. Life is looking everywhere for you. Get on the radar. Life is looking for you.
Cosmic brigades are scanning the horizon to see who is lighting up. They are looking for hungry hearts, unbridled passion, audacity, courage, RADIANCE — glimmers of sincerity and daring. This is how it works: You need to show up to get found. You send out homing signals to the cosmos by being your true self. Blurt stuff out, send the letter, wear that shirt, dance! Then life can see you in the fog of repression, and heaps of unnecessary purchases, and escapism. If you tone it down, Life can’t hear you. If you dull your instincts, you camouflage your soul. Life is looking everywhere for you.
Live out loud and send up a flare. Life is looking everywhere for you. Get on the radar.