How Our Insecurities Can Reveal Our Deepest Gifts. In my decades of practice as a psychotherapist, this is the insight that has inspired me most: Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts.
I've found that the very qualities we're most ashamed of, the ones we keep trying to reshape or hide, are in fact the key to finding real love. I call them core gifts. It's so easy to get lost in the quest for self-improvement. Every billboard seduces us with the vision of a happier, more successful life. Over the years, I realized that the characteristics of my clients which I found most inspiring, most essentially them, were the ones which frequently caused them the most suffering. Some clients would complain of feeling like they were "too much"; too intense, too angry, or too demanding.
Other clients said they felt that they felt like they were "not enough"; too weak, too quiet, too ineffective. Clients would describe lives devastated by codependency, and I would see an immense generosity with no healthy limits. © 2011 Ken Page,LCSW. YouTube. How To Have A Better Relationship (Committed Relationships) Has your relationship gone boring?
Here are some games for you and your partner to try on to bring back that excitement into your relationship. Hello, I'm Sarah Lloyd-Hughes from Ginger Training and Coaching, and today I'd like to give you a bite-size coaching technique on personal development. If you would like any more information about my self or my company, please visit go-ginger.com. How to have a better relationship? We all dream of that ideal relationship where everything is perfect. Game 1: the Appreciation Game. Take it in turn and see how many things you can think of about each other. You're not allowed to tell the other person, “Oh, me too” to their appreciation. Game 2 is the Generosity Game. It could be anything from getting lunch ready to leaving a little love note in your partner's pocket, to buying a bottle of wine instead of the usual beers. If you don't expect anything in return, then whatever comes back to you will be a wonderful surprise.
Get Happy (Happiness And How To Get It: The Clergyman) Neal Tadken ( Associate Rector for Pastoral Care) gives expert video advice on: Is happiness worth pursuing?
; What are the essential ingredients of happiness? ; What gets in the way of happiness? And more... What are the essential ingredients of happiness? Love, connection, relationship. What gets in the way of happiness? I think the things that probably most interfere with happiness are self-absorption and insecurity. How can I cultivate happiness? We cultivate happiness when we enter into authentic relationships of caring for another, stepping outside ourselves. What mistakes do people make in trying to attain happiness? I think the most common mistakes that people make in attaining happinesses are focusing or taking on other people's values, other people's dreams for them, or seeking the approval of people and bending your essence to who you are to make someone else happy. Why are some people chronically unhappy? Does complaining help or hurt the quest for happiness?
What makes you happy?