10 Cities, 10 Years. Free Advice + Coffee. About 50 people contacted me during that week, and the talks I had with them lasted from ten minutes to one and a half hours, if you leave out the black woman who quickly stopped and asked me the question: Should I marry him or not? And who disappeared again, laughing, without waiting for an answer. The issues that people came to me for guidance on were primarily existential issues. I think my life is off course, what should I do? That type of question.