30 Days, 30 Ways to Improve Your Relationship. Why our relationships fail - Robin S. Cohen, Ph.D. How do we first begin to experience love?
Perhaps as babies, as early psychoanalysts Fairbairn and Guntrip believed, the only way we could feel loved was by having our needs met. The language of bodily transformation was the language of love. Mommy feeds us, changes our diaper or picks us up and we feel satisfied. This feeling of satisfaction and security may be the early equivalent to feeling loved. Love becomes represented by how satisfied and safe our caretakers make us feel; how easily and well they transform our bad feelings into good ones. This is not an unreasonable perspective– we do want our loved ones to be attuned to us and to care enough about us to do what they can to add to our lives.
How can we negotiate this impossibly thorny paradox of love if we both believe deep down that we can only feel loved if someone loves us enough to be who we need them to be? D.W. Related Articles and Authors Tara Parker-Pope: The Happy Marriage is the “Me” Marriage. 50 Things Men Wish Women Knew. I just came across this article and thought it would be great for all of us ladies on here.
I know my single friends and I always question what guys really want and this gives us a little more insight into that. Not to mention it's some great advice from men about what they wish we ladies knew/understood about them. Hope you enjoy!! (Also, be sure to check out our list of 50 Things Women Wish Men Knew) What He Wishes You Knew #1 Express yourself. What He Wishes You Knew #2 You look hot in running shoes and shorts. What He Wishes You Knew #3 Bare, tan shoulders are underrated. 25 Tips on How to Make Your Boyfriend Happy Every Day. Looking for ways to make your boyfriend happy?
Well, that’s a really sweet gesture. After all, one of the most important aspects of a relationship is the ability for both partners to look for new ways to keep each other happy all the time. [Read: How to keep a guy interested in you in 30 super sexy ways] How to be Graceful and Elegant in 10 Steps. A graceful woman attracts attention and draws respect from all men.
Find out how to be graceful and elegant and wow anyone or any place you walk into. The art of being graceful isn’t a trait that’s just used to impress a guy or look good at a social gathering. 10 Truths To Keep Your Relationship Healthy. I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be.
Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction. 75 Ways to Show Love - For Healthy Relationships. The Science of a Good Marriage. If anyone understands the chemistry of a good marriage, it's John Gottman, Ph.D.
For over three decades, Gottman has interviewed almost 700 couples, recording their interactions and monitoring their heart rate and stress levels in his "Love Lab" -- an apartment outfitted with video cameras and sensors. The co-director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute (with wife and fellow psychologist Julie, also a Ph.D.), Gottman has compiled his well-studied strategies for beating breakups in a new book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (Crown, 1999).
"At the heart of my program," writes Gottman, a University of Washington psychology professor, "is the simple truth that happy marriages are based on deep friendship. By this I mean a mutual respect for each other's company," plus an intimate knowledge of each other's quirks, likes and dislikes. Amicable partners are less combative during shouting matches than spouses who don't understand each other. You're Driving Me Crazy! Without doubt, there are big problems that afflict relationships; infidelity , abuse, and addiction are not perishing from the earth.
A highly sexualized society delivers an alluring drumbeat of distractions. But it may be the petty problems that subvert love most surreptitiously. The dirty socks on the floor. The way our partner chews so loudly. Like the relentless drip of a leaky faucet, they erode the goodwill that underlies all relationships. Yet irritations are inevitable in relationships. We each have differing values and ways of looking at the world, and we want different things from each other. Sometimes a sock on the floor is just a sock on the floor. But small problems coalesce into a vast, submerged force when they take on a different meaning in your mind—when you add them up as evidence of a character flaw or moral defect.
10 Ways to Perk Up Your Relationship. If you've ever gotten relationship advice, you've probably heard plenty of don'ts.
Don't nag. Don't stonewall. Don't blame. Don't leave the toilet seat up, don't squeeze the toothpaste tube from the middle, and definitely don't assume he's that into you when he's just not. 25 Compliments for Guys They'll Never Forget.