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What’s Wrong with S&M? | RubySlippers. I’ve listened with inner surprise as friends explained their preferences in bed. You really do that? I want to say. We all have the capacity to surprise each other with what we do in private. I’m not a sex therapist. But, as a philosopher I have some ideas. Photo credit: BDSM is an acronym for bondage and discipline (BD), sadism and masochism (SM).The goal of BDSM relationships is to take on complementary but unequal roles (role-play like master/slave, pirate/captive, Nazi/Jew) in order to create a dominant/submissive situation. I had to rely on wikipedia for that. I’ve already weighed in on the novel, for this post I want to zero in on the whips and punishment question. Issue #1 – Masking Knowledge Role-playing, as Phyllis from The Office says (yes, I’m quoting a fictional character for this one), can be “really fun.” Which to choose? Dominants (Dom) and Submissives (Sub) know all about role-playing.

I think Ana’s reticence is spot-on. Don Draper “Again,” he yells. BDSM Backroom - Slave Positions. Preface We have been asked often to do an article about slave positions. To be honest, we hesitated for a long time to publish such an article, because there is nothing like written slave positions. For this reason we decided to provide a description of some basic positions which are commonly used and to write a few things about the their background. Of course, the presented positions are only samples and every couple develops their own style and variations. Some of the elements of the shown positions can of course be combined and varied. The shown positions are not a "Must", but an interesting addition to a D/s play and can also be a good start for a D/s play and its atmosphere.

Basics All positions are constructed to work against the natural body adjustment. Basic Positions. Xeromag | BDSM: A Guide for Nice Guys. (This page is written to address BDSM for nice guys; there's an introduction to BDSM for good girls on the Web here.) So you're a nice guy. You think that people should be treated with respect and courtesy; you find violence, particularly violence against women, reprehensible; you would never, under any circumstances, raise your hand in anger against someone you love. And now your partner is asking you to tie her up, or call her names, or spank her, or maybe even "rape" her. All this goes against everything you believe. What do you do? For starters, it's not what you think. The first thing to do is to understand, deep down inside, that it's possible to do these things and still be a good person.

But I was always taught to treat women with respect! There is nothing wrong or disrespectful about treating people the way they want to be treated.Even if the way they want to be treated is not what you're accustomed to.Not everyone has the same desires, wants, or needs. Ah, that's a bit tricky. Play (BDSM) Play is broken down into two broad categories, physical and mental. Physical play is better known and consists of the typical activities the average person thinks of as BDSM. As the BDSM scene matures and gains greater mainstream tolerance, mental play is becoming an increasingly noteworthy part of the community. Mental BDSM is the collection of activities intended to create a psychological impact, often without a physical component.

Recreational hypnosis is the most prominent example, with a well-developed international community. Participants in BDSM typically recognizes different types of play, based on their intensity and social acceptability. Heavy play indicates elements that are intense and/or carry substantial social stigma. Edgeplay is a term used for types of play that "push the edge. " Edge play can also literally refer to playing with an edge, for example knives, swords and other implements.

Glossary of BDSM. BDSM Play 101. So you wanna be kinky? Welcome to Bondage, Discipline, and Sadomasochism 101! Whatever your gender, whatever your orientation, there are elements of kinky play that you may enjoy. Not everyone likes everything, but many people enjoy one or many types of kinky play and find the introduction of BDSM into their lives to be both a physically and emotionally enriching experience. If you are interested in exploring kinky sex, and curious how to get going, here are a few things to get you started.

The first thing to get comfortable with are the three golden rules of BDSM play. These should really apply to all sexual encounters, but us kinky folk have adopted them as a mainstay for keeping ourselves safe and satisfied. 1) Safe: All parties involved in kinky play together must take their partner(s)’s safety to be of utmost importance. 3) Consensual: Only yes means yes. Equally as important as the three golden rules is communication. Another key element in kinky play is power. Abrasion. While the world at large thinks of "abrasion" as a wearing or grinding away by friction or as an irritation, we who are s/m-aware know that abrasion is an erotic stimulation of the skin by rubbing, scratching, or pricking.

Abrasives are referred to in the Bible and are depicted in Egyptian drawings and Roman statuary. During the 13th century, the Chinese made a crude kind of sandpaper from crushed sea shells, natural gum, and parchment. But none of these historical examples illustrated the "delightfully agonizing" experiences of the participants in a recent GMSMA workshop on erotic abrasion. The men in attendance spent an afternoon discovering how a few ordinary objects can rub you the right way. In his booklet Oh, the Pleasure of the Pain: An Ode to Abrasion, GMSMA member David S. states that anything that generates friction can be used for an abrasion scene, since it is the skin's resistance to what is rubbed against it that creates the sensation. Graphics provided by. BDSM Education- Original checklist. I am the creator of the original D/s (BDSM) checklist. I first wrote the checklist in the 70's and published the checklist back in 1982. A bit of history- Back in 1982 my checklist had over 160 items.

I created the list as a way to check off things to see if there was enough play interest with potential playmates, which was easier than trying to remember it all when planning play with them. Back when the Internet was not so big, we talked about my checklist and other BDSM things on a private mailing list where it was understood that you didn't steal people's work and plagiarize it or post it anywhere else without permission from the author.

As a lot of us have learned the hard way, people post copyrighted work on their web sites all the time, and people plagiarize things almost as much. About 1996 I found a person using my checklist claiming they just happened to find it on a web site. I NEVER gave him permission to add to my work and/or make it public domain. Instructions Home Toy Care. BDSM Dictionary. Not everyone will agree on "definitions" or “terminology”...but I hope this will help. Just remember definitions and terminology only need to be clear between those involved in the activity together. This group of definitions is always growing. If you find something you feel we missed, drop us an e-mail and we will consider adding it to our dictionary. Non Alphabet * 24/7- 24 hours a day 7 days a week * Abrasion play- Stimulating body parts with an abrasive material. i.e. fine sandpaper, hair brush bristles, chamois leather, brillo pad.

. * Abuse- To assault. . * AC/DC- Term used back 20-30 years ago to mean bi-sexual. * Acomoclitic- One who has a preference for hairless genitals. * Acousticophilia- One who is aroused from sounds. * Age Play- Usually the Dom/me is the grown up and the submissive is a baby, child, school girl/boy. * Aftercare/Cooling down/Ramping down/Winding down- Time following play/scene. . * Algophilia- One who is aroused from experiencing pain.