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Healing Words For The Wounded Heart - StumbleUpon. Have you ever experienced any of the following: A past relationship that is impacting your existing relationship or may impact a future relationshipScared to love again, wonder if your heart can ever love againYou’ve found another person that’s worth loving, but your stubborn scared heart won’t allow you to show it to that one person?

Healing Words For The Wounded Heart - StumbleUpon

In your existing relationship, you constantly tell yourself that you’re taking it one day at a time because your mentality is afraid of commitment Well these are all understandable emotions, once a person has been emotionally hurt by someone they once loved, it makes it very difficult to express love like feelings towards another… There are a number of reasons why a person may feel like being distant, from my personal experience, I thought I’d write about the different phases that we all tend to experience some time or another which leads or may be the cause of distancing yourself from someone:

Ultimate Inner Strength - StumbleUpon. Posted by jeanpaul on August 20, 2009 · Leave a Comment Rejection. That’s a big word. What exactly does it mean to you? Knowing how to get over rejection is an important skill. Especially for men like us. I remember the first time I was dumped by a girl. You may be feeling down right now, and the worst thing is that you may actually feel physical pain. I don’t know about you, but there used to be times that when a girl rejected me it could actually affect me for days. But, just like you, I decided to learn how to get over it! Here is how; There is one thing that you have to keep in mind as a man. Ok, so now that we have that cleared up let’s move on and see how we can deal with it.

My favourite way is to actually embrace it. Whenever I’m approaching a woman, I do it with respect for myself and pride that I might be rejected. Well, for many reasons. but mainly because I may still feel the fear of being rejected but I go for it anyway. How do I get over rejection when it happens? Big deal. #53 – How to detect bullshit. By Scott Berkun, August 9, 2006 Everyone lies: it’s just a question of how, when and why.

#53 – How to detect bullshit

From the relationship saving “yes, you do look thin in those pants” to the improbable “your table will be ready in 5 minutes”, manipulating the truth is part of the human condition. Accept it now. I’m positive that given our irrational nature and difficultly accepting tough truths, we’re collectively better off with some of our deceptions.

They buffer us from each other (and from ourselves), avoid unnecessary conflicts, and keep the wonderful confusion of our psychologies tucked away from those who don’t care. But lies, serious lies, should not be encouraged as they destroy trust, the binding force in all relationships. Why people BS: a primer The first lie in the Western canon comes from the same joyful tome as the first murders, wars and plagues: the Old Testament. Please note that in this tale nearly everyone lied. People lie for three reasons; the first is to protect themselves. BS detection. #53 – How to detect bullshit. Love Styles. Not everyone experiences love in exactly the same manner.

Love Styles

Research has shown that love comes in several different forms or styles (see, Lee and Regan). For the most part, people experience love as a blend of two or three of the styles listed below. Essentially, people have different notions of what it means to "be in love. " Styles of Love: Eros – some people experience love with a lot of passion, intimacy and intensity. Ludus – some people experience love as a game to be played with other people's emotions. Storge – some people experience love as a gradual and slow process. Agape – some people experience love as care giving.

Mania – some people experience love as being out of control. Pragma – some people take a practical approach to love. The love styles listed above have also been linked to one's style of attachment (see, Levy and Davis). Eros and Agape are linked to Secure Attachment Mania is linked to Anxious Attachment Ludus is linked to Dismissing Attachment Related Information: