The WIO (Wait It Out) Method of Sleep Training. (Please read this first: I Am Not A Better Mother Than You.)
Dear Daughter, You are three months old, almost everyone agrees that you are too young for “sleep training”, “cry it out”, “Ferberization” and all those other methods of sleep training that the parenting circles buzz about. Others say that three months is plenty old enough. Everyone has their rules, their ages, their advice, their books, their suggestions.
With your oldest brother I became anxious and felt like I was doing “nothing” to help him learn to sleep. Where History And Science Meet Parenting. The following was printed in an article in the Daily Mail when discussing how one UK politician decided to take on Gina Ford, claiming her methods were “absolute nonsense”: Source: The Daily Mail Given Ms.
Ford hasn’t taken the Daily Mail to task and this fits with what I have read more generally on her methods (albeit in earlier books), so I can only imagine she finds this a good (or at least decent) representation of her methods (if not, then she should take issue with the Daily Mail, and should happily agree with what I’m going to write about these rules – note: the idea that the problem is with the Daily Mail when Ms. Ford is notorious for taking issue with any slight against her work seems off to me, but I accept that some people actively feel this is not a good representation of her work because they *selectively* used her methods and my own reading of her site and earlier version of book supports these “rules”).
I’m going to have to agree with Mr. [One extra note here – Ms. .  Controlled crying story. Letter from cio baby. Cry It Out - 6 Educated Professionals Who Advise Against It. If you’re a parent, you’ve probably heard about the cry it out method to get your baby to sleep.
Well-meaning family or friends might suggest letting your baby cry himself to sleep, so he can ‘learn to be independent’. Or perhaps they suggest ‘cry it out’ because they say, ‘it works’. However, parenting techniques like ‘cry it out’, which originated in 1913 (and potentially earlier), aren’t always best. And when we know better, we do better. What some people believe ‘works’ on babies, actually has effects that go beyond their own understanding of the infant brain. In order to understand what cry it out really does to the infant brain, and why highly educated and trained professionals refuse to support it, I interviewed some leading experts in the baby sleep world.
ISIS : Things to Consider - Potential Costs of Sleep Training - ISIS Online. How does sleep training work?
From what is known as a 'behavioural' point of view, sleep training methods work by either rewarding or encouraging desirable behaviour (e.g. using bed-time routines to help babies realise it is sleep-time), or by not-rewarding undesirable behaviour (ignoring babies' crying). Since a wakeful baby who does not disturb his or her parents is not usually considered to be a problem, it is no surprise that many of the most 'effective' sleep training methods have focussed on managing babies' crying, rather than their sleep per se .?
'Extinction' methods - including Cry It Out and Controlled Crying - fall into this category, and are the methods that are supported by the research literature as being effective. Whilst from a behavioural perspective we can see why and how these methods work, there are alternative viewpoints, from which the picture is not so clear. The effect of sleep training on SIDS-risk, and on breastfeeding. Your Baby Week by Week - Consultant Paed Advocates Cry It Out? Unless you've been living in a parenting cave the last few days, you can't have failed to see the image on the left which has been doing the social media rounds.
A baby book which appears to suggest that should a baby cry so hard they vomit, you can change the sheet half the cot at a time. And resist any urge to comfort, cuddle or speak to baby as parents need to be strong minded. I noticed when reading the discussions, some people claimed the snippet had been taken out of context. And they're right; the next line might read "don't ever do this! ". So I decided to take a look on Amazon at exactly what the book does and doesn't say. Book Title: Your Baby Week by WeekAuthor: Dr Caroline Fertleman & Simone CaveISBN-13: 978-0091910556Relevant Pages: 260+