How to Do What You Love - Leigh Newman. Dreams you can never give up on. Never give up on the dream of finding someone who fits your personality.
Take the little things in your life and make it a big part of your existenceShorten the length of your stay or replace the destination to make that life-changing tripDreams are also part reality, and reality gives you plenty of chances to rise to the occasion (Oprah.com) -- As life goes on, it may finally dawn on you: You're not going to win the Olympic gold in figure skating or discover a new species of toucan in the Brazilian rainforest. But there are other valid insane dreams, says columnist Leigh Newman, that you absolutely must pursue. 1.The dream of the (tiny little) thing you were meant to do At times, the big yucky struggle of our life direction and purpose (which, by the way, is the most important struggle in our lives) is just too big and yucky to contemplate. How to Do What You Love - Leigh Newman.
How to Increase the Love in Your Life - Brene Brown. Doing Self Better. ~ Dr. Jeffrey Rubin, Joel Kramer & Dr. Diana Alstad. Pitfalls of Unlivable Spiritual Ideals.
Eliminating selfish behaviors is an important part of most religious ethics. Many religions assume that when human beings are left to themselves, they will be destructively egotistical—even evil. In the face of this, spiritual and religious teachings traditionally prescribe selflessness. In Ethics for a New Millennium, for example, the Dalai Lama, the spiritual head of Tibetan Buddhism, recommends that we put the other first as an antidote to the narcissism that haunts our world. In a similar vein, “we are accustomed in the Judeo-Christian tradition to believe that we should renounce the ego, sacrifice it, forsake it,” psychoanalyst Ann Ulanov writes in The Wisdom of the Psyche.
Laurie Gerber: 5 Blunders That Kill Your Happiness. I believe we were meant to be happy.
I am also pretty certain it was meant to be a challenge to get and stay happy, or else we'd take it for granted and get bored. So then, life is about the pursuit of happiness. I used to be generally unhappy, and now I am generally happy, so I feel obliged to teach you about some blunders you can avoid in your happiness pursuits! 5 Blunders That Kill Your Happiness: Loading Slideshow 1. 5 Mistakes Getting In The Way Of Your Happiness. Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.: You Are (Probably) Wrong About You. If you want to be more successful -- at anything -- than you are right now, you need to know yourself and your skills.
And when you fall short of your goals, you need to know why. This should be no problem; after all, who knows you better than you do? And yet your own ratings of your personality traits -- for instance, how open-minded, conscientious, or impulsive you are -- correlate with the impressions of other people (who know you well) at around .40. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Intention, Attention and Manifestation. The association of a particular sense object over and over again creates a sense of craving for it.
If you are used to drinking coffee every morning, then even though you are not born with a coffee fervor you have begun a habit within you that has created a craving. How did it all start? The habit of drinking coffee didn't happen in one day! Addiction starts with a repeated experience of a particular object. It becomes a habit -- and the nature of habit is that it does not give you joy. Gretchen Rubin: To Be Happier, Write Your Own Set of Personal Commandments. One of the most challenging -- and most helpful and fun -- tasks that I've done as part of my Happiness Project is to write my 12 Personal Commandments.
These aren't specific resolutions, like make my bed, but the overarching principles by which I try to live my life. It took me several months to come up with this list, and it has been very useful for me to have them identified clearly in my mind. It's a creative way of distilling core values. To get you started as you think about your own commandments, here are my 12 Commandments: 1. 2. Martin Boroson: High-Intensity Interval Training for the Mind. According to this article in the New York Times this week, "How 1-Minute Intervals Can Improve Your Health," high-intensity interval training (HIIT) has significant physiological benefits. HIIT is an approach to exercise that involves alternating short, intense bursts of exercise with equally short rest periods -- for example, one minute on and one minute off -- for a total of about 20 minutes.
Although athletes have been using HIIT to boost speed and endurance, according to new research, HIIT has other benefits, too. These include the improvement of blood sugar regulation and insulin sensitivity, improvement in the functioning of the blood vessels and heart, lowering the risk of developing Type 2 diabetes, and the "creation of far more cellular proteins involved in energy production and oxygen. " The most attractive thing about HIIT, however, has to do with its user-friendliness. Dreams you can never give up on. Never give up on the dream of finding someone who fits your personality.
Take the little things in your life and make it a big part of your existenceShorten the length of your stay or replace the destination to make that life-changing tripDreams are also part reality, and reality gives you plenty of chances to rise to the occasion (Oprah.com) -- As life goes on, it may finally dawn on you: You're not going to win the Olympic gold in figure skating or discover a new species of toucan in the Brazilian rainforest. But there are other valid insane dreams, says columnist Leigh Newman, that you absolutely must pursue. 1.The dream of the (tiny little) thing you were meant to do. 31 Life Lessons in 31 Years. Waking up this morning, I smile.
Twenty-four brand new hours are before me.
Rhoda P. Curtis: What We Learn as We Age. A friend asked me what I had learned over 94 years of intense living.
What a question! Since I will be 94 on Feb. 21, she thought it was time I gave the idea some attention. Actually, the only thing I can say I've learned is: "No experience is wasted. " And that has become my mantra. "If only... " is a fantasy. Arthur Rosenfeld: The Simple Life. "You're such a complicated person.
" "This is a complex deal. " "It's complicated. You wouldn't understand. " In our speed-and-greed anti-culture, the words complex and complicated, and the nuances and layers the words evoke, have reached a kind of cult status. Levi Ben-Shmuel: Growth and Comfort: How Uncomfortable Are You Willing to Be? While watching Roger Federer lose his recent Australian Open semifinal to Raphael Nadal, I was struck by his seeming unwillingness to play the obvious strategy to have the best chance at winning.
(The current world number one, Novak Djokovic, showed Federer and the world a successful way to do it last year.) After the match was over, I thought about how Roger played it. Did he feel by not playing his usual game, there was no joy in playing? Or, was he unwilling to consistently leave his comfort zone, to go into uncharted territory, and perhaps find victory there?
Rick Hanson, Ph.D.: See Beings Not Bodies. What happens when you look at someone? The Practice: See beings, not bodies. Why? When we encounter someone, usually the mind automatically slots the person into a category: man, woman, your friend Tom, the kid next door, etc. Watch this happen in your own mind as you meet or talk with a co-worker, salesclerk or family member. In effect, the mind summarizes and simplifies tons of details into a single thing -- a human thing to be sure, but one with an umbrella label that makes it easy to know how to act. This labeling process is fast, efficient, and gets to the essentials. On the other hand, categorizing has lots of problems. Aaron Anson: Minding Your Own Life. I've always been fascinated by the slogan of the United Negro College Fund: "A mind is a terrible thing to waste. " While they are speaking of an education in the academic sense, I'd like to give this saying a more literal application.
Our minds are the most amazing part of ourselves. We often think of ourselves as our physical bodies. But since our bodies are physical in nature and will one day decompose, it's not fair to call ourselves our bodies. Yes, your mind is the one unique thing that distinguishes you as individual, and your mind is the ultimate connection to the universe. We were born without knowledge. Russell Bishop: Soul-Talk: What Can You Do With All That Upset? How much upset have you experienced in your life so far? How much more upset would you like to endure going forward? Bizarre questions, perhaps, and yet if you are willing to dig into them a bit, you might be able to dig out from under all that hurt and upset in your life.
Undoubtedly, you have experienced all manner of upsets in your life, some that came seemingly out of nowhere, and some that have been of your own making. It's this last statement that some will find even more upsetting, while others will find it liberating. Dennis Merritt Jones: Are You Hoping 'Things' Will Magically Change in the New Year? "Tomorrow, you promise yourself, will be different, yet tomorrow is too often a repetition of today. " ~ James T. How to Cure Your Money Comparisonitis. At first glance, it doesn’t seem like there are many money lessons to learn from the “Real Housewives.” One spent a season building a $1.8 million mansion and driving around a $1,280-per-month Escalade, only to file for bankruptcy with almost $11 million in debt. Mark L. Walberg: What I've Learned On Antiques Roadshow. Mark Nepo: The One Conversation: 'We Are Each Born With a Gift and an Emptiness' Tune in to "Super Soul Sunday," January 22 from 8-11 a.m.
ET/PT and an encore at noon ET/PT on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network to see Mark Nepo and Oprah's inspiring conversation. Mondays Mindful Quote: Dalai Lama on Kindness. Welcome to Monday’s Mindful Quote. This is a new tradition at the Mindfulness and Psychotherapy Blog. Every Monday I’m going to cite a quote or a poem that is related to mindfulness and psychotherapy in some way and then explore it a bit and how it is relevant to our lives.
For me, quotes and poetry can often sink me into a state of greater understanding. Here is a great and potentially controversial quote to start the week out by the Dalai Lama: “Be kind whenever possible. Beyond Intractability. Laurie Gerber: Gravitate Toward What You Hate. Lauren Mackler: Mastering the Art of Resilience. Do you sweat the small stuff or feel chronically stressed? 10 Ways To Live Longer. Life’s too short, but with a few simple everyday lifestyle changes you could increase your chances of sticking around to enjoy it for that little bit longer. Anne Day: Forget New Year Resolutions, Just Focus on Three Words. The No-Resolution Resolution: How to Really Be Happy in 2012 - Lifestyle.
In mid-December, I celebrated my 30th birthday at a little Scandanavian restaurant in a quickly-changing part of DC. Amy Elias, MS: WHiP It! The Truth Of The Matter. Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed. Sleep is More Important than Food - Tony Schwartz. Sam Sommers: Self-Help Is for Suckers. Rick Hanson, Ph.D.: 10 Steps to Forgiving Yourself.
Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D.: Adjusting Your Default Setting. Deepak Chopra: Why Do Bad Things Happen? (Part 3) Rod Stryker: The 6-Point Method for Breaking Unhealthy Habits. Christina Patterson: Why Leonardo Thought He Wasn't Good Enough. Marie Pasinski, M.D.: 5 Ways to Nourish Your Mind This Thanksgiving. Ocean Robbins: The Neuroscience of Why Gratitude Makes Us Healthier. Michael Sigman: What's Wrong With America's Obsession With Goals. Dr. Judith Rich: What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do Next. How To Know Yourself. Ignorance Isn't Bliss.
Dr. John Grohol: 5 Tips to Increase Your Life's Happiness. Susan Kaiser Greenland: Making Happiness a Habit Through Mindfulness. Allan Lokos: Patience Is the Key to Happiness (And How to Cultivate It) Russell Bishop: Self-Talk Vs Soul-Talk: Is It All Just Psychobabble? Gandhi’s top 10 « Paulo Coelho's Blog. Meryl Davids Landau: 5 Things I Learned From Great Spiritual Masters.
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