A Lesson in Affection: So You Say You Want it. You say you want "it" -- now the question is, do you feel worthy?
Whether it is a loving relationship or the house of your dreams, we can only attract and manifest what we believe we deserve. Relationships are like mirrors; they reflect back to us aspects of ourselves. When our partner has good qualities, we sometimes put them on a pedestal of admiration, thinking, "Wow, they are so generous or smart or beautiful! " When a person has worthiness issues, they cannot see how these positive traits exist inside themselves as well. While they may be hidden deep inside them and not often expressed, they too are generous and smart and beautiful, if they would only do the work to discover it. Mark Hyman, MD: Relationships, Menopause, and Health. Who you spend time with and the quality of your relationships not only says a lot about who you are as a person, but it has a tremendous impact on your health.
A now classic study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association showed that -- even after controlling for risk factors like smoking, poverty low socio-economic status, alcohol consumption, lack of exercise and obesity -- lack of social relationships, personality dispositions, and acute stress, including the stress of racism were better predictors for increased risk of death and disease. (i) Other studies have shown that you are more likely to be overweight (and suffer from all of the resulting health consequences) if your friends are overweight than if your parents are overweight. And we are now learning that when you join together in community to lose weight and heal you are far more likely to succeed. We get better together. Dr. Fran Cohen Praver: How To Get Your Needs Met In Marriage. "I'm so angry with Sam.
He still doesn't think about my needs, only his. " Laurie's fists clenched and tears welled up in her eyes. I asked, "What happened? " "He went to his womanizing cousin's wake and left me here alone all day with my sick mother. I've been her care-taker day and night for the last month and I needed a break. Elisa Taub: The Tortoise and the Hair: One Mother's Attempt to Loosen the Reins. As I drove toward the salon I started to panic.
What had I agreed to? Why had I suddenly had a change of heart? What message did this send? For the love of g-d, what was I thinking? Dr. Louis A. Tenaglia: Moving Children Into Mindful Living. How do we become people who live mindful lives?
So much of our society today appears to be mindless. We see evidence everyday of mindless name-calling and divisions, mindless killing, mindless suffering and pain that we cause for one another and ourselves. Is there another way to live together? More importantly, is there an approach to raising our children so that we move them, consciously, into a more mindful way to living? Wendy Strgar: Top 10 Tips for Healing Your Love. Recognizing that our relationships are our most gentle teachers in life is a great way to approach the work involved in staying with them.
We too often don't value and trust the huge amounts of resources that we have invested into them and are too willing to dispose of them before really digging into the work before us. While some relationships were a bad idea from the day they started, the majority are actually perfectly designed to help us grow into the best people we can be. I have been sharing these love tips for years and consistently hear back from our friends and customers that doing the work of love rewards them in ways they couldn't have imagined. Remember that often the feeling of hitting the wall in love lives in us only moments before a breakthrough that gives meaning to our promises. Make this new year full of love. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. For more by Wendy Strgar, click here. For more on conscious relationships, click here.
New Year, Shining You: 10 Ways to Polish Your Personal Brand. Dr. Irene S. Levine: Rachel Bertsche Talks 'MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search For A New Best Friend' You might call Rachel Bertsche a serial dater.
But that doesn't quite capture her unique adventure. After relocating to Chicago, bereft of the strong network of friends, colleagues and familial supports she had in New York, the author spent 52 weeks prospecting for girlfriends in her search for a bestie. She's written a highly praised book, MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend (Ballantine Trade Paperback, 2011) distilling her experience into practical lessons for women hoping to make new friends. How to be the life of the party. John Tsilimparis: Creating a Healthier YOU: The Power of Separateness. The kind of separateness we are discussing here does not mean indifference or isolation from others, and it does not mean avoiding intimate relationships either.
The power of separateness comes in the form of a human connectedness that values the treasured spaces that exist between us and others. When we are not striving for this identity, we are allowing for that "space" to be compromised, and we begin to lose ourselves. In other words, the power in the separateness lies in our ability to stay intellectually differentiated from others regarding ideas, thoughts and feelings and in our ability to stand alone amidst the chaos that surrounds us. Www.huffingtonpost.com/drs-ron-and-mary-hulnick/relationship-advice_b_1134490.html?ref=healthy-living. In this, our third article about relationships, we'll once again begin by sharing the single greatest relationship myth in recorded history.
How to raise a grateful child. You can raise your children to be grateful for what they have.
Life won't always gift your child with exactly his heart's desireTeach your child that showing appreciation for gifts is importantCreate excitement surrounding gift purchases for other family members (Parenting.com) -- I was 7 years old when I received a tiny Christmas present -- about the size of an eraser -- awkwardly wrapped and covered in tape. My sister's boyfriend, Jeff, was visiting and had considerately brought gifts for his girlfriend's three younger siblings. Mine, though, was by far the smallest.
I remember opening it up to reveal a miniature ceramic dog -- a cold, hard nothing that fit in the palm of my hand -- and thinking how unlucky I was. CRInfo - The Conflict Resolution Information Source. Add variety of love to your life. Author encourages people not to limit their definitions of love or families. Amy Bloom describes the many looks that real love can have The Ozzie and Harriet model suits some families, but the anglerfish and tamarin way works too"There is no kind of love and no kind of family we should ever turn our back on," Bloom says (Oprah.com) -- Every biologist, botanist, and zoologist will tell you the same thing: Nature loves variety. People may fear it, and some religious or political groups may hate it -- but Nature loves it. The desert grassland whiptail (Aspidoscelis uniparens) forms female pairs.
And these female couples reproduce ... successfully. Want to love more? Care less! It's easy to care so much about people that you forget to love them. Martha Beck explains how to love without caring"You can achieve a given emotional state even if a loved one doesn't conform to your wishes," Beck saysAdvice: Stop controlling your loved one's behavior and start creating your own happiness (Oprah.com) -- "Now my whole family is abusing me! " said Loretta, a client at a women's resource center where I volunteered back in the '90s.
"If I leave my husband, it'll just be out of the frying pan and into the fire. " "Are you -- " I cut myself off before finishing my thought, which was, "Are you crazy? " Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks: How to Create a Conscious Relationship: 7 Principles, 7 Practices. As we write this blog we are celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary.
Early in our relationship, we set some big intentions: We wanted to get free of the old patterns that had plagued us in past relationships, such as criticism, blame and secret-keeping. We wanted to create a relationship that ran on positive energy instead of up-and-down fluctuations of negative and positive. MeiMei Fox: The Secret to Turning Your Relationship Into a Romance. I never was a romantic. That doesn't mean I wasn't sentimental; I cried at the expected moments during chick flicks and even the occasional TV commercial. I enjoyed celebrating anniversaries of first dates and bringing unexpected gifts home to my partner for no reason.