“It’s better to be a cute boy than an ugly butch... Is the Butch Back? - AfterEllen. While as recently as a decade ago, many butches could still be found in their natural habitats–dyke bars and softball teams–and while some could even be spotted in the wild, in recent years, their numbers have declined leading some scientists to predict their eventual disappearance.
Indeed, like the passenger pigeon or Lonesome George, the last known Pinta Island tortoise that died in 2012, the butch seemed like a category whose time had passed–a relic, a fossil, a victim of cultural climate change and an irredeemable symbol of past times that a new generation was eager to forget. But, in a kind of miraculous adaptation, the butch, like the Eurasian beaver or the Dalmatian Pelican, seems to have trembled on the brink of extinction and…made a remarkable recovery! From the Broadway musical based on Alison Bechdel’s memoir of growing up butch with a closeted gay father, Fun Home, to Lea Delaria and the consortium of butches (what is the word for a group of butches? 5 Things Being in a Femme-Butch Relationship Has Taught Me About Privilege.
“The Same Difference” Breaks Down All The “Rules” of Being Butch. There are sooo many rules to being a lesbian these days, especially if you identify as masculine of center (MOC) butch, stud, AG or dom.
I also realize that I either break or unwittingly follow most of these rules. I’m accustomed to other masculine of center women calling me out for my “boi spa days” but I’ve never really sat down and asked them why my self-care was so disturbing to them. Why Hollywood Can't Get With Butch Women. Growing up, I didn’t see women like me on TV.
Back in the '80s and early '90s, there were few, if any, queer characters in sitcoms. There certainly weren’t any who were butch, unless you want to count some serious closet cases like Jo from The Facts of Life. When I was in high school — way back in the late '90s, before I was out — a straight friend warned me not to watch the movie Wild Things because it featured two women kissing (that's the tip of the iceberg).
What The Hell Do Butch And Femme Even Mean Anymore. Do butch lesbians have cisgender privilege? Photo byStefano Tinti/Shutterstock Last week, I was mistakenly misgendered in front of an auditorium of people.
I’d gone to see a speaker at the University of Tennessee in Knoxville, and during the Q&A period I was called upon by the nice lady doing the facilitating as “that young man, there, who has been waiting.” An excruciating 30 seconds followed, in which it became obvious to everyone that I was a young woman, and the facilitator was visibly unsettled by that revelation. An Actual Answer to ‘Why Is She Dating a Masculine Woman Instead of Just Dating a Guy?’ Maybe you’ve heard it, been asked it, or wondered about it yourself: Why do queer women and lesbians date masculine-presenting women instead of just dating a cisgender dude?
Well, let’s break it down and answer the question. But most importantly, let’s examine why this is such a common question – and come up with some more respectful and supportive questions to ask instead. 1. Masculinity Doesn’t Belong to Any Gender Masculinity doesn’t “belong” to any single gender or agender community. Do Butch or Femme Lesbians Have it Harder? I'm a Femme-Identified Lesbian and I Say It Doesn't Matter.
Slate recently discussed whether butch or femme lesbians have it easier in this big, bad world that’s pretty unfriendly to all lesbians in general.
The writer argues femmes are more susceptible to sexism and butches are more susceptible to homophobia, both of which suck a lot, but eventually concludes that since butch women get a certain kind of male privilege in a society that values males and masculinity more than females and femininity, femmes get the shorter end of the acceptance stick. While this discussion certainly has some valid points, it’s worth mentioning that no matter what kind of lesbian you are (and, by the way, there exist lesbians who don’t fall within butch or femme categories), you’re going to face some form of oppression no matter what.
NaBloPoMo #13: In which I wrangle, again, with my fury around queermasculine privilege. Good morning good morning.
My sweetheart was up at the crack that precedes the crack of dawn so that she could get on an airplane by6am, so I followed in her wake, pulling myself out of bed. Butch aesthetics: Some lesbians really do prefer butches. Image courtesy of Shutterstock.
Sometimes a rude question is also a sincere one. Take, for example, an inquiry I hear quite often: Do lesbians really find butch women attractive? As a butch woman, it is impossible to ignore the implication that, for certain people, women like me are the least attractive creatures on the planet. Umbrage-taking aside, however, the question raises the issue of whose standards of beauty apply in a queer female context. And sorry, hetero guys, but they're not yours. BUTCH — Meg Allen Studio. BUTCH is a environmental portraiture project and exploration of the butch aesthetic, identity and presentation of female masculinity as it stands in 2013-14.
It is a celebration of those who dwell outside of the stringent social binary that separates the sexes and a glimpse into the private and often unseen spaces of people who exude their authentic sense of self. In recent years, like so many other pejorative terms used to oppress minorities, BUTCH is being reclaimed and infused with beauty and pride to more accurately describe a person who claims their female masculinity. 'The right to be handsome': Clothing for gender non-conforming people on the rise.
A_butch_lesbian_rejects_a_non_binary_identity. Photo by Theo Wargo/Getty Images I first began wearing men's clothing a few years ago, because I thought that looking like a lesbian might help me get girls.
Once I'd started, I realized almost immediately that I was feeling far more comfortable and confident and that I liked the way I looked in the mirror for the first time in my life. Lea Delaria: « N’oublions pas les gouines butch et les pédés folles! » Avec le rôle de Big Boo dans la série Orange is the new black, la comédienne lesbienne Lea Delaria tient le rôle le plus important de sa vie. Buzzfeed a longuement rencontré celle qui s’était faite connaître au public américain en se qualifiant elle-même de « grosse gouine » à la télé. Lea Delaria revient sur le succès considérable de la série et l’impact que cela a sur elle: « Des ados m’abordent dans la rue et veulent prendre une photo avec moi, me prendre dans leurs bras et me disent que Big Boo est leur personnage préféré. Cela est très important pour moi. Parce que j’ai conquis les coeurs et les esprits de gens qui sont jeunes, qui vont grandir et diriger le monde. » Ce qui la touche dans son rôle, confie-t-elle, c’est de pouvoir jouer une « gouine butch en trois dimensions: »
Empty Mirrors: The Importance of Queering Body Positivity. My body and I have an uneasy truce. Over the years, we’ve had many disagreements. Sometimes, these disagreements are over something as banal as I want to go for a run, but my body wants to stay in bed for an extra hour. Butchs-fems, un combat de genre. A l’occasion de la sortie simultanée de trois ouvrages – Queer zone, essai de Marie-Hélène Bourcier, Attitudes, collectif dirigé par Christine Lemoine et Ingrid Renard, et enfin la traduction du roman Butch/Femme, mode d’emploi de Leslea Newman –, 360° revient sur la partie sombre d’une subculture lesbienne: les butchs/fems. Par le passé, le couple butch-fem était appréhendé comme un passage marqué dans le temps, voué à la disparition.
Soupçonnées par les féministes de reproduire le modèle hétéro, les butchs-fems auraient été fatalement annihilées par la libération de la femme. Aujourd’hui, les butchs et les fems existent toujours et certaines voix s’élèvent pour bousculer la position simpliste des féministes et souligner ce mécanisme identitaire aux fonctionnements sexuels et socioculturels propres aux deux genres.
Butch/femme: Inside Lesbian Gender. Sexualité lesbienne et catégories de genre. Être ou ne pas être subversives ? 1L’étude menée ici a été inspirée par l’invisibilité et l’isolement des jeunes lesbiennes observés dans le cadre de l’Institut d’études des femmes et du Département de français de l’Université d’Ottawa. Je n’ai pas réalisé ce sondage en tant que sociologue ; c’est en effet à titre de spécialiste du roman contemporain que j’ai obtenu un poste dans cette université.
Dating Masculine Women Is Not the Same as Dating Men Butch Please: Butch With A Side Of Misogyny. BUTCH PLEASE is all about a butch and her adventures in queer masculinity, with dabblings in such topics as gender roles, boy briefs, and aftershave. Header by Rory Midhani “Are you fucking her?” I blinked. She continued. Femme Privilege Does Exist A Little. Special Note: Autostraddle’s “First Person” column exists for individual queer ladies to tell their own personal stories and share compelling experiences. These personal essays do not necessarily reflect the ideals of Autostraddle or its editors, nor do any First Person writers intend to speak on behalf of anyone other than themselves. First Person writers are simply speaking honestly from their own hearts. This essay was inspired by “Femme Privilege Does Not Exist” by Cyrée Jarelle Johnson. What's Underneath' Features Lea DeLaria, Self-Proclaimed Butch Dyke & Champion For Body Positivity.
In StyleLikeU's latest installment of the What's Underneath Project— a series in which inspiring figures shed their clothing while being interviewed in the name of fashion and feminism — OITNB star Lea DeLaria (aka Big Boo) discussed a wide range of issues including queerness and body positivity. We all know how hugely talented and funny DeLaria is, but I know I personally hadn't realized just how groundbreaking her success is. DeLaria — a self-described butch dyke — has never been closeted throughout her entire career. And here she is, starring in one of the most popular shows of our day, winning awards, and loving herself exactly as she is. The actress and comedian talked candidly to the interviewers about what it's like to be an openly gay butch dyke in the entertainment industry, and how that affects her personal life and style.