“Que va,” the boy said, “It is what a man must do.” “Success” is all too often assumed to be the indicator of the value of a man. But success, in and of itself, merely speaks to a particular status and may have nothing to do with the journey that the man took to get there, or whether or not he retained his integrity along the way. Among the many aspects of the story, it is the idea of redefining success and victory that makes The Old Man and the Sea, Ernest Hemingway’s classic novella, so profound. It is a seemingly simple story: Santiago is an old, experienced fisherman who hasn’t brought in a catch for months. Life Lessons from The Old Man and the Sea
In my post on the Switch of Nature, I contended that cynicism constitutes one of the greatest threats to manliness. There were a couple of comments in reply which argued that cynicism is not wholly unhealthy. And I agree; I did not mean that cynicism is always bad, rather that it is bad in unhealthy amounts. This selection, from a century’s old Atlantic Monthly article, does a nice job of explaining the need for balancing the strengths and weaknesses of this characteristic. From “CYNICISM,” 1904By Arthur Stanwood Pier One of the seeming waywardnesses of our human nature is the respect for a cynic that lurks in nearly every heart. Manvotional: Cynicism
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from AoM reader Jeff Trexler. For the gentleman who enjoys entertaining, a properly stocked bar is a must. A well-mixed drink can help schmooze a boss, romance a date, and impress a friend. Mixing drinks at home for friends and family makes me feel like some swanky 1960s gentleman pouring drinks in his Space Age-inspired mid-century home. I love that feeling. Starting a home bar can seem like a daunting task to any man, but it doesn’t need to be so. How to Stock a Home Bar
Bonus #11: Impromptu living room dance party. Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Joe Weber of Dappered.com. “’Cause I don’t care too… much for money, money can’t buy me love“ – The Beatles 10 Cheap Date Ideas She’ll Actually Love
Manvotional: The Know-It-All State of Mind From “New Mexico,” 1928By DH Lawrence Superficially, the world has become small and known. Poor little globe of earth, the tourists trot round you as easily as they trot round the Bois or round Central Park. There is no mystery left, we’ve been there, we’ve seen it, we know all about it.
Manvotional: Energetic Men Energetic Men We love upright, energetic men. Pull them this way, and then that way, and the other, and they only bend, but never break. Trip them down, and in a trice they are on their feet. Bury them in the mud, and in an hour they will be out and bright.
The 5 Switches of Manliness: Legacy We started the last post in this series with a surprising fact–that only about 33% of our ancestors were male. We’ll begin this post the same way: When the Titanic sunk, the survival rate for the rich, first class men (34%), was lower than that for the poor, third-class women (46%).
The 5 Switches of Manliness: Nature In this Switches of Manliness series, we’ve been talking about those unique parts of a man’s psyche that have fallen into disuse in the modern world and need to be reactivated. But there’s likely some overlap between the needs of men and the needs of women; for example, primitive women used to be quite physical too, and I think modern women need to have an element of physicality in their lives as well. But with this switch, there’s definitely more than a little overlap. The Switch of Nature is for everyone. Men. Women.
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Win the War on Debt: 80 Ways to Be Frugal and Save Money The manliness of frugality cannot be overstated. Frugality cultivates the manly qualities of independence, self-reliance, self-sufficiency, simplicity, and minimalism. It keeps a man free from the enslaving chains of debt and gives him an sense of manly pride and satisfaction.
Creating and Consuming: How to Be Mature After doing the podcast on the “Making of Modern Immaturity” a few months ago, and reading the comments left on that post, I got to thinking about this question: “What makes a man mature anyway?” Masculine maturity used to be easy to spot and define: a man got married, sired some progeny, and got a job to support his family. He knew he was a grown man and everybody else did too.
My grandpa, Bill Hurst, was a journal writer his entire life. His journal was quite simple. He just kept a small notebook in the pocket of his pearl snap shirts and jotted down a short description of the things he did and the people he did it with. This is something he did pretty much every day for his entire life. He also kept extensive diaries of his time as a forest ranger in the Wasatch Range. About 12 years ago, my grandpa took all these diaries and daily journal entries and began to write his memoir for his children and grandchildren. How and Why to Start a Journal
This content is brought to you by the new Hyundai Elantra which helps you “Snap Out” of your routine to live your best life. Click here to learn more about the new 2011 Elantra. What’s this? Tis the age of clickety clack. Well, more like just clickety. When modern man writes these days, chances are he’s hammering away at his computer’s keyboard or working his thumbs over his phone’s keypad. 5 Items to Snap You Out of Your Digital Writing Routine
Last month I met up with an old friend I hadn’t seen in forever to have lunch. Having both read and written about how to be an effective and charismatic conversationalist, I followed the old dictum of listening more than talking and asking the other person engaging questions about themselves. This is supposed to charm your conversation partner. I guess it worked because my friend talked about himself for an hour straight and didn’t ask me a single question. The Art of Conversation: How to Avoid Conversational Narcissism